met a guy for a date and really clicked but couldn't meet him again for 3 months cos went away travelling. we kept in touch via email. when i got back we went out on a dinner date. he took me to his work place(interested in his line of work) then went back to his. did not intend to sleep with him but it happened. was the first time i slept with someone since i got divorced about 4 years ago. thought he was the one but i had to contact him for another date. i know he has stressful life re; 12 hour job and another side business. but am i kidding myself? also he told me he slept with his ex girlfriend inbetween our dates when they both got drunk.(apparently she split with her boyfriend and needed a shoulder to cry on) He also told me he 'really likes me and finds me really really attractive'. I haven't felt strongly for someone for so long. am i being an idiot, is he worth my while? btw, i told him let's just be friends after he told me he slept with his ex though that is not what i want
2006-10-23 11:30:58 · 11 answers · asked by not such a smart girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you are wasting your time, if you had to call him for a second date then maybe he wasnt that interested in you in the first place yea he has a lot going on work wise and we would like to use things like that as excuses when we have major feelings about the other person but we must look at the big picture, it doesnt seem that he is very sincere and if you did get together do you think he will have time for you? and since you two have already had sexual intercourse i think that only makes matter worst.
2006-10-23 11:35:47 · answer #1 · answered by strwberryshortcake_65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you were too easy. You've likes him so much, so even though you didn't plan it, it happened. That happens. I would like to congratulate you for meeting someone that you have so much feelings for since your divorce, however on the other hand you really have to be careful with him and this ex-girlfriend of his. He maybe really likes you as he says, and sleeping with her was an accident, or it happened because you and him had not built a strong relationship yet at the time. And he felt guilty about it, so he told you. But there is also a chance that he is playing you up, if not both you and his ex.
As you say, if you haven't felt strongly for someone for a long time, you shouldn't jump into the conclusion to dump him. Just being friend as you told him for now seems to me the best option, as you can observe what he does mean while. If he really likes you, then he will let his ex come to him, but will try to get you. If he shows a sign of disrespect for you or chats up someone else, then he is not worth it. So you can leave him.
But just remember, if you decide to be with him, then HE has to tell this ex of his to back off because he has you now. So make sure that he will be able to do that for you, before you go out with him.
Wishing you all the best.
2006-10-23 16:40:03 · answer #2 · answered by ono 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh god - is this the 21st century or what? What is this easy thing. Get a grip and a hold on your sexuality and then get out there and enjoy it.
I'm not surprised you droppped your knickers at the first chance of some decent sex after 4 years - blimey, I was climbing the walls 4 months after my diverce.
Also I'm not surprised he was sleeping with other people - you had a freindship and a date, you had sex not got married or promised undying devotion to each other. At least he's not lying to you or ignoring your calls is he? He likes you, he thinks you are attractive - that is a pretty dammn good start - so keep going. Get your morals up to date and start enjoying having a sex life - in fact go out and have more of a sex life with more people.
This is what I was doing after my divorce when I had a one night stand with a fabulous man that I've now been living with for 6 years. I do wish women would stop blethering on about if they've been 'easy' and mean 'getting what they wanted' - you got wehat you wanted to - a dammn good sh&g! Use a condom, play safe and for goodness sake lighten up and start enjoying yourself - you only get one life you know and even if you are a christian or whatever - why do you think God gave you a clitoris?
2006-10-23 11:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I'm looking at this is, if he didn't like you, why did he tell you about his X? There would have been no point, if he saw you as a casual aquaintence! I also think that after one date and three months apart, your relationship wasn't set in stone, so it should be over-looked.
I think you should continue this relationship, but just take it slowly this time.
Good Luck.
2006-10-23 11:39:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you enjoyed yourself with a nice guy but dont forget your needs you have had a divorce and possibly still raw do not settle for second best be happy going out and meet other guys if he was interested in you there is someone special waiting round the corner for you let him make the first move keep busy do not chase him give him space do not try to work things out for him let the man work it out for himself if he works it out and you get the man he will be for you keep smiling
2006-10-23 12:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being cheap and sound desperate, no man really wants a desperate women. Men like to run after women, that's human nature.
2006-10-23 20:20:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a solid consumer-friendly solo I found out early on replaced into to "Shook Me All evening long" with the help of AC/DC. no longer something quickly picked, generally slides and bends. i'm no longer a great AC/DC fan, yet that replaced right into a exciting solo to income on.
2016-10-02 21:24:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he slept with his ex while seeing you don't bother with him if it was the other way around don't think he would with you find yourself someone else your worth more
2006-10-23 11:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by Bernie c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your hurts, doubts and fears aside and do what you really want.
Easier said than done right...?
2006-10-23 11:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by Matthew. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea pretty much he got what he wanted.
2006-10-23 11:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋