Everytime she sees a new food in front of her or one that she is sure that she wont like, she starts crying and won't eat. We usually just make her sit there in front of the plate until bedtime or make her copy poems or phrases as punishment until bedtime. This is getting really old. She is my step daughter so we only have her every other week. At her moms house she gets to eat basically what she knows she likes and what she wants. I can not get her mom to discipline her so that is out of the question. How do i either get this child to eat or how do i get her to stop crying?
2006-10-23 11:27:28 · 8 answers · asked by Natty137 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My son went through that - what is before you is what is for dinner.
We say - "it's your choice, this is what we are eating. You may choose to eat or sit quietly on time out until we are done. BUT, remember, if you're hungry later you don't get anything else if you don't sit quietly and eat with us"
My son threw a tabtrum a couple of times but then understood that this was the choice---no exception. Sometimes he chooses on his own to go sit on time out while we eat. After a couple of minutes, he'll come over and say he's changed his mind. We ask him if he is going to eat his food without whining and complaining, and if he says yes, we remind him that one complaint will put him back on time-out.
We've been doing this for about 4 months now, and mealtimes are much more peaceful!
2006-10-23 11:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by pknutson_sws 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, you have come to realize that this does not work, so why are you still doing it? the writing thing has really got to come to an end. i could see you having her right something she might understand, but poems? she is 6 and more than likely cant read well yet. so, that's foolish. OK so she cries when something new is in front of her i think that you should try telling her, that if she at least tries one bite with out spitting it out is a start. then the next time tell her she has to take 2 bites. etc etc. this will get her to at least try new things. and if she is able to do this with out spitting it out then have her clear her plate, end of story, but make sure that she isn't getting something to eat after dinner because she is hungry.
2006-10-23 11:37:09 · answer #2 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When introducing new foods, just introduce one at a meal. Tell her all that is required is one bite to see if she likes it. Then let her eat the other nutritious foods that she likes. You have turned meal time into a type of punishment/torture for her. To make her sit at the table for hours is not fair. At the end of the meal, just remove the food and tell her when she is hungry you will put her plate back on the table for her. If someone wouldn't let you leave the table you wouldn't be happy either.
2006-10-23 11:43:09 · answer #3 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I cant believe you make a 6 yr old sit in front of her plate until bedtime, and what is up with her writing poems or phrases??? Sounds to me like you have some major issues. You need to go to a parenting class ......QUICKLY
2006-10-23 12:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is a sign of stress and anxiety. Her life has been destroyed, her family broken apart, and now she's shuffled between 2 homes, "visiting" her dad and some other woman. It's not about the food, it's about the fear she's facing as a human yo-yo.
Sometimes even grown women, when under stress, don't eat properly, or eat ice cream and junk to feel better --and no one punishes them. Have a little compassion for God's sake!
2006-10-23 11:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Cry with her and share tissue honey! I've a 7yrs old too and it happens to me sometimes, but that lil one needs to understand when she is wrong. It did hurt me too when I had to correct mine about colors, but hey that's the only way they will learn. Just tell her u wish it was Thursday too but sadly is not, but Thursday will be here soon. Give her a big hug from me. Best wishes!
2016-05-22 02:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question. How old is this child? So maybe compromise, offer her a bite of what you are offer. Tell her she can have on food she likes if she eats your food first.
2006-10-23 11:32:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please do not punish her, she is really upset,she missed her mom and try to show you her feeling by crying and not eating ,ask your husband to help her ,let her to go to her mom s house forever.
2006-10-23 11:46:11 · answer #8 · answered by <<< sky >>> 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋