thoughts of child support?

Question

Alright i was just wondering everyones opinion on child support...do you guys think that the guy should have to pay it..I have a friend whos ex calls her a low life for taking 80 bucks from him a week..yet she works and has the child most of the time....he has put her down so bad she has thought about just dropping it so he would stop making a big deal about it...what do you guys think about it?

Answer 1

Whether women want to accept it, or society wants to admit it, the male half of the child creating equation has a heaftier financial duty than the female.

traditionaly men are the bread winners and women raise the children. Women make less money than men, and being a single mom means having to pay money for child care and some how have enough left over from a poor paying position to survive off of. Not to mention that insurance premiums for pregnant single women are about twice that of an average male of compareable age and health, which means a single mom has medical bills out the yang to pay for, most completely out of pocket.

That alone should be reason enough for any man who creates a child and cannot commit to raising it, to pay out of pocket instead of with time.

There a millions other reasons why men should be willing and able to pay for child support no matter how many children they have, but money will always strike closest to home in this situation. So i will end with only that being mentioned.

As for your friend, any man who cannot have enough love and compassion for his own flesh and blood to even WANT to see that its needs are met, should be drug out into the streets and beat to near death by an angry mob.

Answer 2

I think the way the child tax system is administered is a lot to be desired. There are several things wrong with it. I know of fathers who would give anything to play an active role in their child's life, but are pushed out of it by a "woman scorned", yet are still expected to cough up their hard earned money to that woman without guarantee it actually goes toward the rearing of that child.
I think that if law started out at 50/50 shared parenting time, no child support necessary.
The way child support is calculated it should be called "spousal support" as there is no accountability on where that money goes.

I also believe that while a woman has a choice to either terminate a child or keep it, a man has to live with whatever decision she makes. He may want to keep the child and raise it as his own but ultimately it's a woman's choice. She doesn't have to end up paying child support for the rest of her life if she doesn't want to.

It annoys me that people harp on about father's RESPONSIBILITIES, yet what about their RIGHTS? I think that men would be much more willing to contribute to the raising of their children when they have physical involvement in that raising (which is more than just 48 hours every 12 days and maybe one night during the week for a couple of hours, I'm talking 50/50), and not just be seen as a piggy bank.

Answer 3

Both parents need to take responsibility for a child. I am a mother that receives support and I feel the courts ordered my ex to pay entirly to much support, they ordered 1330 for three kids, I sat down and figured what I really spent a month on kids and their needs and agreed to accept 700, my ex puts the rest into an account in the kids names to go toward their education or any emergency. My new husband pays 1200 a month for 2 kids and believe me his ex wouldn't give him a break no matter what and still calls wanting money for braces, school clothes etc and she is remarried and the two of them makes twice as much as my hubby. Guidelines need to be set a little different when it comes to support, to many custodial parents look at support as being a second income for them and not for supporting the child so many men and women are left paying a high amount of support and does without things while the other parent drives a new car and lives in a fancy house. All non-custodial parents should pay to help raise their children but not support the other parent as well. 80 a week for one child would be a fair amount of support for a man to pay and tell your friend it doesn't matter if it isn't the support he is complaining about it will be something else, this is more than likely his way of playing the wounded soul and gets him attention, so he thinks, and anyone who would look down on her for accepting this meek amount for a child isn't someone she needs in her life anyway.

Answer 4

I think a lot of people take advantage of child support. Like my Aunt, once she got a divorce her lawyer got her ex to pay a **** load, and she took her time putting herself through school on his money to get herself a better job, which now she gets laid off about every other month.
But then there are people like my mom, I have two younger sisters whom have a different father than I do. He has to pay 70 dollars every two weeks, and she is lucky if she gets that. She is now remarried, but that $0 comes in handy when she has to buy all of the food for them and their clothes, along with everything else.
My husbands Uncle has to pay $900 a month, but he has the kids 90% of the time, and the judge won't change it.
I think the courts are to blame for this. Many people do without to give their kids more, but the people that don't have to raise the kids can get a away with barely paying anything for the child.
It is my opinion that the child is 50% each persons responsibility, even if one of the parents does not get to see the child, you should still have to pay 50% of the child's needs.

Answer 5

The custodial parent deserves child support because they are the one paying for the child's daily expenses. That doesnt mean that just because the non-custodial parent has paid their child support that they don't have to do anything else for their child. It also doesn't matter whether it is the mother or the father who has the custody of the child, it is whoever is the NON-custodial parent who pays the support. My friend pays support to her ex husband, because he has custody of their two kids, because they didnt want to go to a different school and she agreed it would be better for them to stay in the school district they lived in with their father. ANY parent who doesnt think they should have to pay child support is a bad parent. However the support payments should be reasonable, leaving the non-custodial parent enough to pay their own bills and have extra money.

Answer 6

I think that child support is great. I have a son that is 6. I have provided insurance (which I pay out of my check $115.00/month) and I pay for his daycare ($450.00/month) I pay rent and I buy food. Guess how much I am suppose to get (but don't from the father?) $250.00. That is all. He can call me a low life and that I am going to take his money and spend it on stuff, but he wasn't complaining when I was buying food and toys for his birthday. And paying daycare.

I wouldn't drop it. She needs to hear what he says, smile and say thank you. That is all. If she gives up the money, she will only go down more. That kid is as much of his and hers. He needs to pay. Or she will get state help and there will be many people that are mad that they are paying money, when she gave up and told the dad to not pay.

Answer 7

It totally depends on the sitation but 80 a week isn't that much. He is just mad cause he has to pay out of his pocket but she is the one supporting the child. I wouldn't drop it because as the child gets older the more it costs to raise a child. I would just say if you want to give up all rights to your child then i will drop the child support but if you want to be part of your childs life then that includes helping support your child, that is your responsiblity. Keep willy in your jeans keep money in your pocket.

Answer 8

According to everything I have ever read, child support is a RIGHT and an ENTITLEMENT to the child. If she drops this, she is denying her child the rightful support of TWO parents. Your friend didn't hop into bed and make that baby on her own, why should she pay for it alone?? Also if she drops it, she is just showing the loser that he gets to walk away from his financial, emotional, and physical responsibility.

Answer 9

No, he should have thought about that before he had sex. I agree with child support. And she should not consider dropping it, because look at all that she pays for- he is required to pay, because there are all kinds of things children need...even electricity, and a roof over their head! So that money can help pay for those types of things! Tell her he is the low life, and needs to grow up!

Answer 10

He is being very immature. He enjoyed making the baby but not paying for his own child, What an *ss...Tell your friend to keep taking his $...she deserves it and do not let him get away with not paying. I get 400.00 a month for my 8 year old daughter. Me and her dad are good friends and he happily pays. He, also lives in boston, mass...I live in florida with my daughter but he made her so he still has to pay regardless if he sees her or not and he knows that. I try to go up there every few years so he can see his daughter...he will not leave mass so the only way, he sees his daughter is if i make the trip there. Kids are expensive. He needs to pay, bottom line!!!!