My older sister iting married in 20 days! Help me I need her to be calm, she is already a nerve reak.
2006-10-23 11:26:45 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
all brides are nervous, if everything is going as planned with the wedding then she just needs to take a deep breath and smile and enjoy her big day, i know how she feels im getting married in july 2007
2006-10-23 11:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by yvonne p 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I, too was a nervous wreck before I got married. I worried about everything. I was sick, too (upset stomach, etc).I did most of the planning and I didn't have a lot of help with the details. More stress!
I probably should have sought out medical help, but I didn't want to take a lot pills.
Friends suggested yoga or deep breathing. If you can't make it a yoga class, you may want to go to your local public library and check out videos/dvds on yoga. The deep breathing is very good and calming. (no medication, either). If she can get out to get some exercise- walking for example, will help relieve the tension.
As for the other details, make sure they are looked after so she doesn't have to worry. If something does go wrong, it is likely it won't be noticed (for example- not enough napkins or cups). Family and guests are coming to celebrate the special day.
I hope she calms down enough to enjoy her day. You are a good sister to be concerned about her welfare!
2006-10-23 11:42:58 · answer #2 · answered by Malika 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was just married... the most effective device we used was "comic relief," not the inane kind, but the kind the helped to divert the energies of the "bridezilla" moments... Actually, all your sister needs is a good "sounding board" in those closest to her, and feeling via your reassurances that she is not alone in all this. This is a very emotionally charged time; hopefully, the groom knows the magic that will quell the beast into a more placid & serene state of mind... failing this, you may want to tell her - in a tongue 'n cheek style, that a "tortured countenance" becomes her... that she should try to perfect the look for when she walks down the aisle... maybe that will help her to "get a grip."
2006-10-23 11:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by cherodman4u 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever is going to happen will happen...if everything is planned and very detailed so that everyone working on the wedding can understand it, then nothing will go wrong. If something does go wrong, I promise you will laugh about it later. I had a bride this past Saturday who hired a bus company to take guests from the reception to the hotel...the bus never showed and the bride ended up having to carry things back to teh hotel in her dress!! It made a great picture that I can honestly say they are going to laugh about after the honeymoon.
2006-10-23 11:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Unfortunately Brides get so caught up in the party and the planning and making everything just perfect, that they don't have fun with it. When my best friend got married, I try to calm her down just a day or two before her wedding. It did not help, she so so wired and worked up, that I think it took her two months to come off of that. Just be supportive, but don't let her push wou around or get witchy with you. If you could take her to a spa or something right before the wedding, that may really help.
2006-10-23 12:02:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a day at the spa is in order for her. Check out the local day spas in your area and see if they offer something for a bridal party to help relax before the big day. Basically, if she can get a day where she doesn't have to think at all about the wedding, it will help her in 20 days when she is a bundle of nerves.
2006-10-23 19:05:05 · answer #6 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just was married not even a month ago, and I didn't stress the day of the wedding. I was the bride and didn't freak out. Crazy, huh.
Be there for her.
Make her laugh. Take her out for a massage. Take her shopping. Find out what will make her RELAX and unwind.
Don't rely on alcohol to solve the problems, but instead just be there for her. You know her! She's your sister!
For my bachelorette party we stayed in and ate cheesecake while watching a movie at a rented hotel room for the 5 of us. It was wonderful.
2006-10-23 12:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most you can do is encourage her and do anything you can do to help her prepare. Make sure she gets a good night sleep the night before and make sure she eats something the morning of.... nothing is worse than a bride passing out because she didn't eat!
I was a wreck before my wedding until the day of the wedding. That day I just enjoyed it because my stress was over.
My best advice for her is "Relax and enjoy your day. You have done so much to prepare for it and now it's all about you. Enjoy your limelight."
Have fun at the wedding.
2006-10-23 11:40:08 · answer #8 · answered by fayra_elm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting ready fro a wedding is so hectic so definitely help your sister out. I just got married 5 months ago and I still remember the whole process and getting down to those last couple of days. Try to do something fun with her and let her talk to you I know that I needed someone to talk to all the time. It was so hard for me because my finace at the time was thirteen hours away and all of the planning was on me. I guess just give her lots of support and let her know to loosen up and enjoy her last couple of days of freedom!
2006-10-23 11:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by Lindsay H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She won't be calm. If she's not nervous, then she'd be excited, so calm is definitely not an option.
More than anything, just live the experience with her. Be there for her. She'll need a hug sometimes, to cry on your shoulder other times, and if you're there, it'll mean the world to her.
2006-10-23 11:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋