have been with my girl for 4 years at fist just like any relationship started out great. but for the past 6 months things have taken a turn. I believe in the phrase "treat someone the way you would like to be treated" so stay away from situations that make my girl unconfortable including hang out with girls that are friends because she says "I can tell they like you" so i keep my distance i dont completely ignore them but i dont go out if i know they are going just to make my girl confortable. On the other hand she does the same including going out, in a group of people including a guy who has already confessed his love for her. I admitt it makes me a little unconfortable but i have never asked her not to go out if he goes. she never makes time for our relationship anymore and even yesterday she went to church with his family left a 6 in the morning and came back at midnight because " they went to another co-workers birthday party after and after that they all went to the movies
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2 hours ago
even after i told her i wasnt too confortable with her going with HIM to church but her answer was " Dont worry babe its just church and your the only one for me and I'll see you afterward so dont make plans" I didnt even get a call till about 5pm sayin im goin to a party then to the movies.
2 hours ago
i have tried to move on but everytime i try she says ill change i swear your the one for me and she is ok for about 2 weeks and then there we go again. I always take her back i dont know how so if you have been through this please help i still love her
2 hours ago
i have told her many times how i feel its almost like she doesnt care she's never felt that before because i do what ever it takes from putting her in those situations I have stood up for my self and she became "unhappy" with our relationship and it got worst
2006-10-23 11:14:46 · 15 answers · asked by johnnyca$H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you are the one giving and she's just taking. It is unhealthy. If you have told her how you feel and she still ignores your feelings , then there is something wrong in Denmark ! People don't do that to eachother , or they are not supposed to ... In my book , The Golden Rule also has a giant place in my life . I think you should maybe try to talk one more time , insist that something changes this time or you will have to consider the relationship over . Hopefully she will see how hurt you are and change her ways . Either way Good Luck My Friend
2006-10-23 11:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by debbie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't have to change anything! And you should never have changed for her. You know, girls will come in and out of your life but your friends are the ones that will stick around through it all. You shouldn't have dumped your female friends simply because you would want your girlfriend to dump her male ones. That is stupid... besides, who really cares? She can go out with ONLY girls and run into tons of guys who are attracted to her, it doesn't matter. Let her be and you owe your female friends an apology and a lunch to catch-up on lost time. Than you both go have fun and see your friends and come together and be a good couple. Forget this jealous crap. If she was gonna cheat on you with this guy she would do it whether you 'forbide' it or not. And she would just hide it rather than tell you.
2006-10-23 18:19:32 · answer #2 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, young love is so painful, isn't it? You said she says she'll change, but then goes right back to her old ways. I think you have your answer. It is unhealthy for you to keep putting up with it. She won't change. You are only prolonging the agony.
Maybe it's time for you to be apart for awhile. If it's true love, it will still work out. But you may find once you are free, you will have a chance to meet some other girls who will treat you better. You've done your part. She is the one who hasn't. You deserve better!
2006-10-23 18:26:20 · answer #3 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any relationship that makes you unhappy, is not a relationship you need to be in. You have expressed your feelings to her about what you are comfortable with in your relationship, and she is not prepared to give you what you need at this time. Let her go. There are a lot of women out there in the world who will respect you, and be respectful of your needs.
2006-10-23 18:20:47 · answer #4 · answered by sarlha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems as if she is stringing you along. If you keep taking her back or going back to her she knows that she has you but can still play around. If she is doing those things with out guilt or consideration for you then she doesn't care what you actually feel.
2006-10-23 18:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by vancie121 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her, man, can't you see she is running around on you, and will continue to do so. She just wants her cake and eat it. She is a liar and a cheat, and also stringing you along. Move on, and I mean it. Get a new g/f, and do not take her back. She will only hurt you, she is not leveling with you nor being fair. Church, my a..!
Sorry. . .
2006-10-23 18:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety. Its time to end it.
Just tell her that you believe you two have grown apart and that you would like to start seeing other people.
I'm sure that after a little fake crying she will be alright with that.
2006-10-23 18:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it might be time to look for a different girl.
2006-10-23 18:18:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...um time to just put the bullet in the brain of this relationship...move on...
2006-10-23 18:18:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously she doesn't care enough about you to work things out. You haven't walked, yet?
2006-10-23 18:22:26 · answer #10 · answered by Rick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋