I became really close friends with this girl... when i did ...i had no intention of getting close to her because she was soo atteractive or to get with her. Although the more i got to know her very well i fell for her really hard. I explained to her that it is not because i think she is gorgeous, but i fell for who she is . I have to admit.,., her looks are amazing also. The response i got from her is that she is simply not attracted to me and she doesn't see that changing. She also explains that she loves our friendship. There are times that i feel like she treats me like she shows intrest in me, but that may just be me wanting that feeling. I have tried getting over her but she has me really sprung. How can i get her to be attracted to me , and intrested into me? What can i do to see if a relationship will work out between us? Simply said... i am in the state where i will try anything to have a chance at us being togehter. What can i do?
2006-10-23 11:04:31 · 17 answers · asked by lostnconfused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was recently in almost the exact situation you are in (but an eight year friendship) and I only wish she was that blunt with me, lol. Um...it is highly doubtful that you have any shot ever, on the very small percentage that she keeps you around and interested because you are that "in case of emergency" guy, but you dont want to be him. You need to get over it or get her out of your life, no other way around it. You are desperate and women can smell that like smoke in a fire...
2006-10-23 11:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since i find you are in love with your friend and fell for her really hard...sounds like there could be a chance she is intesrested in you, you just haven't asked her yet on how she feels about you...she plays hard so you can tell her more about you...but you seem not to do that. I hope you see what i am saying. Cuz i have a same situation...but maybe more different. Or alittle the same.
Just ask her...there can be a chance she loves you like you really love her. I don't think you really know how to tell her how you feel about her. So just tell her. Besides the fact she is attractive...pay attention to her personality...you'll know.
Get it to work out, and don't let her go, cuz u feel in love, and all u got to do is to get her to do it too. She hasn't told you she fell for you hard and you haven't told her.
Just get it out...and things will hopefully get better. Good Luck and Best wishes!
Btw, she can also be attracted to you...i dont think you found that out yet...like i said just ask her how she feels about you.
2006-10-23 11:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by ♥mcmanda♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is tough but you simply cannot make someone attracted to you no matter how much you try. That is a fact.
the best chance you have in getting her to go out with you is ask her to give you a CHANCE. And if that does not work then so be it. But at least you tried your best. Tell her your qualities and why she should give you that chance. Tell her all the GOOD times that you both had.
Physical attraction does play and you can't change your appearance so you have to focus on your personality and wit.
2006-10-23 11:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by Wibble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing that you can do. She is a friend and that is all she sees it as. Think about it, would you rather be friends or nothing at all? You don't want to keep pushing it on her, that will make her not like you anymore. You don't want that. Give her time, maybe she will realize that she likes you and then it will be a wonderful relationship.
2006-10-23 11:10:48 · answer #4 · answered by sea shell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys seem to have that problem. The super-attractive guys are usually ***** (unless they're gay) Move on. This is in your way. You can waste years (and lots of money) on this relationship and I can almost guarantee it will go nowhere. Find someone else and see how she reacts.
2006-10-23 11:10:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
matters of the heart can be so confusing my advice is to just give it some time she may not be attracted to you physically but make her fall in love with your personality make her see who you truly are do nice things for her buy her flowers just because and if she still does not want to be with you after all of that then shes is a fool and does not deserve to be with someone as special as you
2006-10-23 11:11:04 · answer #6 · answered by lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup, take it from a girl. if she values your friendship, she will fight to get you back, so just ignore her. but under no circumstances should you admit to her that u are ignoring her, even if you are. make up anything. that way its gonna burn inside her that shes done something to upset you. Just trust me dude, you ignore this girl starting 2morrow, ur getting a kiss on the lips by Friday. guarantee it. good luck
2006-10-23 11:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by Dark Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enjoy what you have right now , don't put preassure on things let it go and enjoy right now this moment . Everything will come in due time Sometimes a goor friendship is more worth than anything else
2006-10-23 11:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how you can love someone that is not attracted to you, but okay. Read what you wrote, she said she is not attracted to you, why dont you believe her? Dont try to read something into her actions. Move on and find someone else.
2006-10-23 11:08:49 · answer #9 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's all about looks...which means she's shallow....just be thankful that she's your friend and keep being a good friend to her. She maybe to immature to see you for who you are.......and yes many friendships have turned into a long lasting love........I'm living proof.
2006-10-23 11:10:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋