Why do most women give up on looks after they "catch" a man?

Question

to me, it means you don't care anymore and don't really care about the relationship.

Answer 1

people get comfortable after they have landed a mate. while on the prowl you have to be tip top all the time. you never know when you'll find that certain one. also once a woman gets a man she doesn't have to attract other males so her appearance will decline as she does not have to be an eye catcher anymore . its the same theory as why do men fart in front of us after we land you. you don't do that when we first start dating. and guys will do absolutely disgusting things in their personal hygiene after the mate is caught. its not that we don't care its that we only have to really get with the program if we know you want to show us off.

Answer 2

I don't know, I have never "given up" on my looks, and I've been married for 2 years now. I still get my hair done, exercise, eat healthy...maybe what you are noticing is just the woman you are dating becoming more "comfortable" around you. Even though I put on make-up, do my hair and get dressed really nice on a fairly regular basis, I also like to come home, throw on a tank top and shorts and relax on the couch, and I'm obviously comfortable enough with my husband to do this. Of course, I do understand where you're coming from, because I have a single friend who ALWAYS seems to put on five or ten pounds after she's been in a relationship for a little while...and inevitably, the relationship fails and she loses the wieght. All women aren't like this.

Answer 3

I notice this all the time with woman and also men. I have been married for 12 years and my husband says I look better now then when I was younger. I work out, eat healthy dress good because I like looking nice and I do it for myself. Most of my married friends my age dress frumpy,are overweight and just slobs. I have a daughter, a full time career and volunteer but I don't use that as an excuse to let myself go. No wonder husbands/wifes have affairs!!!! I gaurantee if they get divorced and they were back on the market they would get there A** to a gym and lose that weight. Then they can let themself go again when they snag another one.

Answer 4

The women tends to give up their time spent on make-up because they feel confident in themselves now; not needing the extra layer of masked identity.

Or they don't care about their looks because there's no one to impress anymore, but their man [or so they think]. But then again, some men [or most] actually do care about their women's looks.

Other reasons:
Women don't care because they're set and they never really liked to put on make-up or dress up in the first place.

Women don't take the time for useless things for toning image because they don't want to take the time.

Women give up their looks because they think they can go without it.

Women give up their sense of prettiness because they are lazy and prettiness only comes through pain.

Or women give up their looks because their men likes them the way they truly are.

Answer 5

that's what I think too, and I'm a woman. I don't know why that happens. I'v never understood that attitude. I think once you "catch" a man, you need to make him realize that he made the right choice. I shine much brighter when I have a man than when I don't. I'm more confident to look better and experiment with different looks, shorter skirts, higher heels that kind of stuff if I have a man on my arm. If you meet a woman who gives up on her looks once you start dating her, first try to talk to her about it, and then if it doesn't change, end the relationship, until you find a woman like ME!

Answer 6

The real question is "Why do women have to put on a mask and wear skimpy clothes to catch a man in the first place?" We shouldnt have to dress up for you to impress you, and once you're interested, we shouldnt have to keep it up. We should be able to walk around without makeup, and without wearing heels and dresses all the time, and "catch" a man with our charming personalities and intelligence, not our good looks.

Answer 7

I don't think woman or men give up on their looks just because they/we so called caught ya :)

Life gets stressful, you have children, events, jobs etc...
It becomes easier to put on those jeans and T-shirt and GO!
Even at 43, I take pride in how I look and feel. It's even nice to dress up a pair of jeans

Answer 8

I agree, I work hard on my looks after 5 years of marriage, because I care about myself, my husband and our appeal for each other!

Answer 9

we care about looks but it becomes less important after you have children. It's more important to have the house clean, dinner ready and the bills paid. After that if their is time- we do our make up

Answer 10

If you are in a relationship that is getting serious...then one day bring up the fact that you WILL leave her if she ever gets fat. Trust me...women are so self conscious she will puke and workout before allowing herself to get fat. Then you don't have to cheat on her and everyone wins :)