2006-10-23 11:00:47 · 26 answers · asked by scully 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Definitely tell her - from someone who knows. When I was 11 and away in Europe for a month with my paternal grandparents, my great-grandfather on my mother's side passed away. My parents chose not to tell me until I got home because they didn't want to ruin my trip, but when I found out when I got back home, I was more upset that they didn't tell me. And upset that I had missed his funeral and the chance to say goodbye. I remember being angry at my family because they didn't wait for me to come home before they held the funeral. They too, were trying to "spare" me, but I really wished I had known. And this was my GREAT-grandfather with whom I wasn't nearly as close to as I was with my grandparents, so if your daughter is close to him, she will probably be very upset with you if you withhold this information until she returns. But this is just my experience. You don't say how old your daughter is or how close she is to her grandfather, which could be factors in how she reacts. Good luck. I'm very sorry for your loss.
2006-10-23 11:33:10 · answer #1 · answered by inquiringmindwantstoknow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky,when is ever the right time under the circumstances, depending how old your daughter is & the relationship with her grandad I would probally because there isn`t anything one could do to change the situation let her know while she is on holiday & word it accordingly.If your daughter was aware of her grandad not being in the best of health then I believe she should be told straightaway.Sorry to hear of your loss.
2006-10-24 00:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard. You don't want to ruin her trip. And to be very crude, he'll still be dead when she gets home. If they were extremely close she might be upset that you didn't tell her right away but in the end I think it would be for the best. I would definately wait, let her enjoy her trip- how often does she get to take a trip and get away? The situation will still be here when she gets back.
2006-10-23 11:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait till she gets home it will ruin her holiday but in the other hand she might not like it being the last to know it is really up to u if u think she will not like being told when she comes back then phone her
2006-10-23 13:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by pauline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless there is something that she can do or make it back in time for funeral services, I would let her enjoy her vacation. She will be upset when she gets home one way or the other... it is not easy but I would wait until she returns.
2006-10-23 11:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should call her and let her know. she should be able to make the decision of whether she wants to come back home or finish out her holiday. if you decide not to call her you could be setting yourself up for a long time of resentment from her. just think how you would feel if you were in her shoes and no one called to tell you the news
2006-10-23 11:30:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 03:51:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your loss. I think you should tell her. You should reassure her that everyone is coping and insist that there is nothing she can do to help. Tell her he would have wanted her to finish her holiday and enjoy it.
If you don't tell her she will never trust you and may feel uneasy on future holidays because she may think that if there is something wrong at home you would not let her know.
Good luck.
2006-10-23 11:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by carnival queen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on when she's due back. If you think she will miss the funeral then yes, if not I would wait till she gets back. I am sure she woould like to know but why spoil her holiday if there's no need.
2006-10-23 11:03:54 · answer #9 · answered by sue l 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait till she returns home.
2006-10-23 11:03:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋