im scared though. well not scared just worried about if my mom will find out that i have had sex?? or what about my walk? will it change my walk? and like this boy that I REALLY LIKE keeps asking BUT i don't really know. i just really wanna know if my mom will be able to tell and if my walk will change? Thank you to people who answered to my other question. but i didn't put enough info in it. i might end up putting some more q's on here cause im just clueless on what to do..how to do it.. ya know that kind of stuff. Thanks!!
2006-10-23 10:49:51 · 58 answers · asked by Addrienne S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Try to wait till your married. That makes it really special and it will mean more to you and your husband.
REMEMBER: IF YOUR NOT SURE DON'T DO IT!
2006-10-23 17:14:17 · answer #1 · answered by Little Miss 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Thirteen is way too young to give up something so special and something that will affect the rest of your life and future relationships. Boys your age do not actually respect or love girls who have sex with them. You are right to be worried what your mom would think and if you don't feel comfortable talking openly with her about it then you are not mature enough to handle a sexual relationship with a boy just as immature as you. If have questions about sex and how it will change you and the risks associated with it then perhaps you should tell your mom that you have questions and ask her to make an appointment with a doctor who can educate you and explain to you all the reasons why this is a very bad idea at your age. I know you probably think that you love this boy and that he loves you, but most people do not end up marrying the person they dated at age13. Just please love yourself enough to keep your virginity and enjoy your youth. There are too many risks associated with having sex at your age.
2006-10-24 05:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by polgara5275 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, you really shouldn't lose "it" right now. You're young - I know you hate hearing that, but, regardless of what he's told you, or you've heard from groups of girls - the vast majority of them have not had sex either. Trust me.
You really like him - how long? What are you going to use for birth control? Let me guess, he's told you he will pull out before he comes. If he's a 13 , 14 or 15 year old guy - he hasn't got a clue about how to do that. Most older men who try don't succeed, and there are sperm in the fluid that comes before he ejeculates. He'll try to tell you condoms don't feel right - take the sensation away or some such garbage.
You are way too young to get pregnant. You need to worry more about that than if it will change your walk. Think about how that would change your life.
If he's pushing you to have sex, he doesn't really care about you. He's looking to "get some" to have something to brag about to his buds. "Lose it" to him, at this stage of your life, and you won't be seeing him unless it's for sex. Keep in mind that guys DO talk about this, and you'll have his friends asking you out. Again, they aren't asking you out because they like you. There're asking you to see if they can have sex with you too.
I know I sound harsh - I'm sorry about that. But I'm a maternity nurse and I've seen dozens and dozens of young girls having babies when they should be deciding what to wear to the dance or football game Friday night.
Please don't "give it up" just yet. Once you do, you are changed including how you feel about yourself and how others look at you. You can't go back.
2006-10-23 11:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wanting to lose it at 13 isn't abnormal, I remember being 13. I also remember how all of the 'good' girls used to laugh at the girls who had lost it. The boys said that it would make you cool, but the girls, who truly decide what's 'in' and what's 'out', never really thought it was cool. I even remember some girls getting set up to be laughed at. You need to discuss this with a doctor--there are free clinics everywhere that you can go to despite your age. And posting on the internet is never a good way for a 13 year old girl to get any kind of answer to a question regarding sex. Too many nasty old men that like girls like you and get busted on TV, and many more that don't even get caught. Go to a clinic--it's safest, and THEN everyone will think you are cool.
2006-10-23 11:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, everything will change and your mom will know. Wait until you are married and older. It really isn't that great. You think it is when you haven't done it yet and think you want to, but then as soon as you do you'll wonder what the big deal was. And why you were so stupid and impatient. Be a kid for now, trust me it is so much better to have fun and be careless. Then to try and grow up so fast. You will have so much time to be able to have sex later and for the rest of your life and as much as you want. Do something else with your time, like sports or an art. And pay attention in school and study and go to college, knowledge is so priceless and important. I wish I would have taken better advantage of my teenage years! And the girl you want to be like...she probably hates her life and is jealous of girls who are still virgins...trust me!
2006-10-23 11:03:52 · answer #5 · answered by mommyem 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself why you want to lose it. Is it just to say you're not a virgin any more? You'll regret it very quickly, if so. Is it to have a baby to love you unconditionally? Newsflash, babies don't GIVE love, they TAKE it, because babies haven't learned how to give anything. Do you think that it'll make this guy you like stick around? HA! He'll be off as soon as he gets bored... and boys that age get bored with a girl who puts out really fast.
Sex at 13 is a stupid and sometimes fatal mistake. You don't know how to protect yourself, your body isn't ready, and if you're asking questions like this here, you aren't emotionally ready either.
Keep your pants on and your legs crossed, it's just not worth it.
2006-10-23 10:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by triviatm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age 13, are you kidding me. Sweetie, that is way to young to even be thinking about sex. You are worth more than that. So this boy you really like is after you to have sex. How old is this boy? He is only after you for that one thing and you are worth more than that. Please hold on to your virginity as long as you can. If you are worried that sex will make you walk funny, you are way to young to even be going down that road. Your mother will be able to tell by the way you act, not by the way you walk as to whether you have had sex or not, because you will find that at that young age, sex is not all that it is cracked up to be. You will be disappointed.
2006-10-24 08:59:44 · answer #7 · answered by Caleb's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT! But, to answer your question, if it's your first time, you definitely will have some soreness that may cause you to walk a little funny, but it should only last a couple of hours afterwards. If you are serious about doing this, please, please, PLEASE wear a condom! There are too many diseases, viruses, and PREGNANCIES out there, which you don't need to get involved with. It's great that you are asking questions before you go experimenting... Also, to benefit you... Many reasons to wait: Right now your body is just reaching puberty, and it is changing a lot... I can GUARANTEE that when you're a little older, and when your body is READY, your experience will be much better...
2006-10-23 14:18:39 · answer #8 · answered by Richard P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and really listen to song by lyfe jenning called SEX. I went through the same thing with my little cousin last winter and she did do. I don't condone sexual behavior with teens. There is so much more to do that that. My cousin did it she said she was fine and really she got out of control I really had to sit down and talk to her. Guys use girls so much these days. Please don't be ignorant and fall for his game. You need to think of the consequences. You and your mom might be close now but if you do this it could really betray her and hurt her. Do you want your mom's trust and respect or 5-10 minutes of some boy saying he really likes you and a week he acts like nothing ever happened. Please consider my thoughts on this. It may not seem like a big deal but it really is. Use your head not what you think your feeling for this boy.
2006-10-24 08:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by Louisa F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are so stupid some boy you really like keeps asking you. Why don't you just tell your mom what you are thinking about doing?? Instead of trying to hide it what if she did find out what then? What if you became pregnant? You should tell her if its not so bad and your gonna do it at least you will have birth control. I do not think your mom would be very happy and you should really think about how regretful you will end up feeling.
2006-10-24 09:37:05 · answer #10 · answered by calieyecandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 13...please hold off from doing "it" until you can speak about it. Maybe wait until you're 18 at least. Think about it, by the time you are 18, you're already considered "used" or "easy". PLUS sex is highly over-rated...trust me. And not to mention it can cause a boatload of problems, STD's, pregnancies, emotional distress, and did I mention STDs? You are 13, you have a ways to go before you should give up the most precious gift you own. WAIT!!! You're definitely not mature enough to handle the consequences.
2006-10-23 11:02:13 · answer #11 · answered by Rica_Venia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋