i dont know why i reaslly try and alwqays fibe them the benefit of the doubt...but i always get used and hurt ...guys why do you go for girls who are nasty to you and not really interested why do so many men treat me like a door mat..i dont choose to i just dont like acting horribly and struggle to be nasty even if someone is taking the mic...thats just the way i have been brought up...recently i datewd thusa guy he was sweet nd plqacid but then i never herd form him..i feel guilty and inqadequate and it hurts guys do you suggest i write him an email and tell him...what could i write in an email to get his interest how should i explress my self some clues and ideas would be really helpful..
2006-10-23 10:34:05 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your a nice girl the right guy will come along kid, thats it really.
2006-10-23 10:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by Max 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was one really long run-on sentence, and your spelling is atrocious. I do not completely understand your question because of your spelling, but I will try my best here.
You said, "i reaslly try and alwqays fibe them the benefit of the doubt." I am assuming that you are trying to say that you give guys the benefit of the doubt. Problem one is everyone is bad in one way or another. You have to stand up for yourself a bit in this world. When you first meet a guy, YOU MUST BE SKEPTICAL!!! You are getting used because a guy thinks with his "tool" more often than not! It's sad but true! I'd venture to bet that you give guys the benefit of the doubt about 100% of the time. Since you completely trust them with nothing held back, they will do whatever they want unhindered by you. They will walk all over you for what they want and leave you because you are easy. I'm guessing you have slept with a TON of guys because you gave them the benefit of the doubt...
I don't know what the hell "taking the mic" means, so I cannot address that part. I do want to say though that it is not a matter of being nasty!!! You have this impression in your head that if you say no you are being nasty? That is just simply not true. Saying no gains you respect. Learn to simply say no. You cannot do everything people ask you to do, and people will take advantage of you if you do not learn to say no! Saying no to sex is good for you sometimes! Or would you rather the person just uses you like a ragdoll to their content? Which one is fair and nasty - the person who says no or the person that uses another person and moves on??? Saying no is a part of life! Please learn to say no for your sake...
Thirdly, respectable guys do not date girls who do not respect themselves. The nasty girls you talk about are simply willing to say no. They could be some of the greatest girls around and not b1tches as you make them out to be. The respect themselves and demand respect from men. They do not allow a man to walk all over them and leave. The problem for you is to learn to say no. Please learn to say no, and learn some spelling and grammar while you are at it!
2006-10-23 17:47:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother e-mailing that loser. Basically, alot of men expect sex but they are the wrong type of men. I want to say that NOT ALL MEN are like that and if they do get it they wont bother calling you because they got what they wanted. I would suggest that you stop trying so hard. Also join a club or something so you can meet NORMAL men and not the drunken, one night stand type that women meet in pubs and clubs. Women tend to hate all men but only based against the sleezy type from pubs.
2006-10-23 17:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by sonoftheguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly on the outside you have to appear more confident and then the good guys you are interested in will be more attracted to you. If you act weak then a lot of times really bad guys (sometimes abusive) will tend to go for you. Once you are confident (not mean) and start dating then you can open up and be yourself. If he's not interested then he's not for you. Good luck!
2006-10-23 17:39:26 · answer #4 · answered by X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you worring way to much... Stop fishing for awhile. Nobody says you have to have a boyfriend all the time. wait till the right guy comes along. I used to be the same way, finally got to the same place you are. And have found out that being single is actually not so bad.
2006-10-23 17:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by Psycomagnet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure go ahead and write him.....don't spill your guts like you just did in your question - I think you would probly just end up scaring him away....Just write him and see how he's been and asked him a few other simple questions.
If your getting used and hurt a lot - maybe stop dressing up and setting yourself up to be an object.
2006-10-23 17:44:20 · answer #6 · answered by LOFT1009 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the way you write, I'd say the main reason you are failing with men is because you are only 6
2006-10-23 17:36:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stand up for yourself and if anyone gives you a hard time, tell them where to go. If you present yourself as vulnerable and weak willed, there will always sadly be people prepared to take advantage.
2006-10-23 17:50:54 · answer #8 · answered by Dan the Man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he was nice, and really is nice, just write an email in case he forgot about you or something. if he realy is a good guy, and hes not interested, he'll be polite. but if he is a jerk, he might be really mean, so watch out.
2006-10-23 17:37:41 · answer #9 · answered by Spearfish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just giving yourself to guys who are not that into you. They're not wrong...you're just to easy. Get a clue and stop falling for the wrong guys.
2006-10-23 17:37:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋