My daughter is in pre-K and she went to school today. When I picked her up, she seemed upset. So I asked her what was wrong and she told me that the teacher hurt her. I said what do you mean? she said that the teacher hurt her vagina.. She was also crying about it. The problem is my daughter does not talk very well and she has mentioned this too me before at the beginning of September and I ignored it.
However, today she brings it up again and this time she is crying about it. So I call the school too speak to the principle about it and she tells me that I have to be more specific. So tomorrow I am taking my daughter to the doctors and also I am going up too the school so my daughter could point out which teacher she is talking about. Do you think that I am doing the right thing? Or what should I do? I did not want to cause problems but I am not going to let my daughter get abused in any way..
Thanks in advance for your help,,,,
2006-10-23 10:25:34 · 16 answers · asked by Vicky 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I too have a daughter that has a speech problem so I know that sometimes when they say something we don't always take it the right way because we think we misunderstood. That being said the next step now is to make sure your child is protected no matter what. In the morning when you take her to the doctor have her tell the doctor what she told you as well as the results from an exam what she can account for will become part of a record that can be used if needed. If, which I pray it doesn't, the exam shows there was signs of abuse then the doctor will have no choice but to call social services immediatly, doctors are madated reporters. When social services is informed they will take it out of your hands just cooperate with them, don't get defensive because chances are they will also want to now anyone your daughter has had contact with that might have hurt her other than the teacher. DO NOT go to the school until you have went to the doctor. If the doctor says there is no proof then go to the superintendant and tell them what has happened and let them speak to your daughter as well, no matter what they need to know what is going on and them saying you have to be more specific when you called was a big mis judgement on their part they should have been getting to the bottom of it right then and there. Good luck to you and your daughter.
2006-10-23 14:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by Martha S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the previous posters..you have to take quick action. Is your daughter potty trained,can she wipe herself? I ask this because if a teacher tried to help her maybe she had a rash or something and it hurt when she wiped...but regardless you need to talk to your daughter more and maybe she can show you what happened on a doll or something but let her show you dont show her or give her any ideas because often children will just copy the adult,and go to the school and ask her to show you which teacher it was,tell the principal you want all the teachers in the office at lunch time or something,kind like a line up and then she can pick one...and I dont care if any faculty make you feel like you can trust everyone...you cant! John Mark Carr,he was a teacher a childcare giver....think of him when you go to school.
Oh and look for a sex offender registry on the internet and see if the teacher is on there. Im hoping for the best,please keep us informed.
2006-10-23 10:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by prettybelle7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES! YES! YES! You are doing the right thing! #1 you are protecting your daughter. If you let this go and it is happening, you will ruin your relationship with your daughter forever because later on in life she is going to blame you for not protecting her. # 2If this person is a child molester, then who knows how many other children have been abused, and you will stop the cycle. You will be saving other children from going through what your daughter and others have gone through. # 3 If she has been molested, Please I urge you to get he help as soon as possible. I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and when it was discovered, no one helped me, i never got counseling until I was 22 years old and by then i had made many bad choices because i was so messed up because of the abuse. You will be protecting her now and you will be protecting her future. Good luck.
2006-10-23 10:48:30 · answer #3 · answered by computergrl69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if if causes problems! Get mad, get pissed, walk... no run in there with fire in your eyes the first thing in the morning and rip some heads off! Call the police before hand, tell them you want assistance at the school and handle your business!!!!!! If something was wronglfully accused, so what?!!! Better to be the good mother who takes action than the whimp who ignores the truth! Your daughter matters, not what the adults think! I wouldn't want my kid around a teacher who could possibly commit such an evil act! Handle your sh it. Screw what did or did not happen. Believe in your daughter and if it turns out to be nothing, take this time to teach her about honesty and appropriate touching(hugs vrs. HUGS) you know? Don't be spineless, your daughters life depends solely on you!!!!!!!! Trust me-take action NOW!!! Good luck and I pray it was a misunderstanding for your daughter's sake. If something comes up email me and I will lend an ear and be a friend. God bless. PS. Take her to the ER NOW, tell them what happened, and get something on record!! Stay 2 steps ahead, you are strong enough to challenge the adult world.
2006-10-23 10:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You should have done this in September but atleast you are taking action now.
Be sure they get an account from your daughter, Children that young raraely know enough to make that up. The things they will ask her will make it clear if something happened.
Cause all the problems you can, the safety of the children is at stake. make a fuss, alert other parents, do everything you can to stop this from happening again.
Praying for you and your daughter
2006-10-23 10:28:48 · answer #5 · answered by BlondeBarbie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a possible crime. Why would you discuss it with a principal or a doctor before first reporting it to the police? What do you mean you "don't want to cause problems"? You need to take this to the legal authorities immediately or you could become an accessory by your inaction. Stop worrying about you and take a stand for your child.
2006-10-23 10:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by Senor Pig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is difficult. The options, as I see it are to withdraw your child, or confront. It seems you have chosen to confront. Personally, I think what you need is a champion/mentor. So before you crash into the school all guns blazing, get in touch with a child care charity.
Also don't expect your child to talk about it, when you ask questions. Just be there for her, listen to what she has to say. Doesn't matter about what. She will tell you in her own good time, in her own way. Even if she doesn't she needs to know that you are there for her.
2006-10-23 10:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by d00ney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you ignore your child's cry for help? Thank God you are doing something about now! Why would you not want to cause problems? I would be up at that school raising HELL!!! Do everything possible to get that sick perverted sicko from being around children any longer! Good luck!
2006-10-23 10:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET THE POLICE IN VOLED, This needs to be investigated. It could be nothing, your not accusing anyone, but the police can help get to the bottom of this. If it's nothing then cool, if not then you have just saved so many other children from the same fate.
Good Luck
2006-10-23 21:42:42 · answer #9 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALWAYS listen to your child about issues such as molestation. You are doing exactly the right thing. Small children do not make things like this up.
Best of luck and stick to your gut instinct.
2006-10-23 10:30:12 · answer #10 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋