My fiancée and I are getting married in six months in a very small ceremony. I was considering sending wedding announcements to our exes acknowledging our marriage. He and I have both had previous serious relationships with other people and I feel like we should tell people who know us and (at one point) cared about our well-being the good news. Is this weird? I don't want to have that awkward running into the exes thing.
2006-10-23 10:24:37 · 34 answers · asked by 4evaluvu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
They are not being invited to the wedding. This is just an after thought. I was also considering taking out wedding announcements in new papers in our cities. We're from different towns.
2006-10-23 10:28:37 · update #1
If you are both comfortable with sending them announcements then go for it. To avoid the running into the exes thing send them out after you are married. An announcement of Mr. and Mrs. .......
Maybe if you still have contact with them just give them a call or talk to someone that still talks to them then it will get to them by the grapevine.
2006-10-23 10:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by vancie121 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just invite those that are closest to you and that is it. If you ask people if they would like to come then you are going to end up with alot more than 80 people. I would send people an announcement that you are engaged to everyone, but not tell them when you are getting married. I would then attach something to those who you wish to attend the ceremony saying a formal invitaition will follow. Then after the wedding is all said & done with I would then send and announcement that you and your husband have been married. Perhaps, since you are getting married in December that you could send Christmas cards to everyone that you sent the engagment notice too stating that you and your husband would like to wish everyone a Very Happy Holiday Season Love the "Smiths" and use a wedding picture as the acutal card. Unfortunatly some people are not going to be able to attend your wedding, but that doesn't mean they don't want to help you celebrate. Maybe you could have a "second" reception for those who you couldn't invite or couldn't come. You could ask a close friend to host the party if your house or apartment isn't big enough, or wait until sometime when the weather is better and hold the "second" reception outside at a local park. Most of the time there is no rental fee associated with parks.
2016-05-22 02:09:55 · answer #2 · answered by Ann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a bad idea and it's definitely not weird. Sending an announcement is the best way to accomplish what you want to do. Just to give you a little bit of perspective, wedding announcements are normally sent to co-workers and neighbors who are not invited to attend the wedding. Since your exes are not invited, it would be the logical thing to send them the announcement.
An announcement in the two local newspapers that you and your fiancee are from is also a good way to do this but if you're sending out personalized announcements, it is not necessary to duplicate the effort in the newspaper.
2006-10-23 19:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about a little Just Married note with your wedding photos on it? No big announcement in capital letters that will drive your exes suicidal. I imagine your exes wouldn't bother not being invited, but sending a little note should say that you have moved on. I don't think a little note with photo will give the same effect as an announcement! Afterall, people do send this note to those who can't attend due to money, physical or transportation problem.
2006-10-23 12:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be inappropriate to send an ex an announcement unless they were also invited to the wedding AND you were also still on friendly terms with each other. Perhaps a phone call to tell them the good news would be a better idea.
If you are not on friendly terms, or did not keep in touch then I do not see the need to inform them the news of your upcoming nuptials....however, if you must, then go ahead with the newspaper announcements or you could simply rely on mutual friends to pass the word along via word of mouth.
2006-10-24 02:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by deerogre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave the courtesy of telling my ex before we told everyone else (of course this was after telling family). I called him, but didnt send a wedding announcement. Generally the point in wedding announcements is to inform someone to keep their calendars open because an invitation is coming. I was not going to invite my ex but I did not want him to hear it through the grapevine because we still attended the same church.
2006-10-23 10:30:31 · answer #6 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way would I send them to the exes. My husband and I had a similar discussion about this before we got married, and ultimately decided not to do it. If you have exes there, it'll only make things awkward for both of you.
You're moving on with someone you're going to share a lifetime commitment with. Past relationships now have to take a backseat. Trust me, after a few years of marriage, those people you had relationships with won't even matter anymore.
2006-10-23 10:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by Christy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you still friends with these exes? I wouldn't personally nor would I invite them to the wedding. Otherwise you might come off as rubbing the announcement in their faces.
2006-10-23 23:22:14 · answer #8 · answered by No-ni-nu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think it's a bit classless. My fiance and I both continue to have excellent relationships with our exes but sending them a wedding announcement would be like rubbing it in there face that you are happy now and perhaps they are not. My fiance actually works with her ex and he would like an invite but we have decided against it and she will give him reasons why when she explains that he will not be attending our wedding.
2006-10-23 10:29:04 · answer #9 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So unlike most relationships mine has a pretty happy ending.. my ex and I are basically best friends... we know eachother basically inside and out... I know when he's fibbin and he knows when I'm "too quiet" and will change it .
So I would invite my ex to the wedding but I'd let my husband make his own decision... he has a say in it too! You are getting married everything is 50/50! :D Best Wishes guys
♥ Gidgit
2006-10-23 10:37:11 · answer #10 · answered by gidgitboo85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋