BTW, I took two friends with me on the date. Basically, I met him at a bar and I told him beforehand that I would be bringing some friends because I had another party to go to afterwards. He seemed fine with it and even said he thought it was smart of me to do that since I only met him for 5 minutes before going on this "first date." I really liked him and want to see him again but one-on-one this time with no "friends" to bring along. Did I scare him away? He did text me to say he had a good time and that he wanted to do it again, after I sent him a text on satruday night to thank him for getting drinks. How long should I wait before I call him or should I not call him at all? Help please.
2006-10-23 10:15:19 · 27 answers · asked by texirocks 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
That can be a hard call, but I'd wait a few days at least. If he has your number, and he's interested, he'll call. Look at it this way: If he's not interested enough to call, then he's not interested enough, period.
If you really do want to call him, wait a few more days. If it were me, I wouldn't call. I'd leave it up to him, and be ready to move on right away if he doesn't call in the next few days.
2006-10-23 12:28:50 · answer #1 · answered by locolady98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give him a few more days... He sounds like he had a good time. I don't see why bringing your friends along should "Scare" him. You were very smart with all the creepy people out there you were being safe! Good for you!
I don't see why you could not call him in a few days if you haven't heard from him. What would it hurt.. you may even get a better feeling after talking to him again and then you will know if you really want to see this guy again or not! :)
2006-10-23 10:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by sheli99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah Gurl....Burn His phone up!!!!!!!!!! LOL, Go ahead and Call him Because you Think about it, if you would have gave him Some on the first date, That would be a sign why he hasn't spoken to you Since Saturday, but since you didn't Mention that in the Question, He should call you Today! But text Him first and see what he Says Or if he texts you back And then you'll know if he Really had a Good time or If he was just lying and Really got bored and Had No further Interest!
2006-10-23 10:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by kittysweetie19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think back on the evening NOW--you can get "swept up" on that night. How do you believe the over-all night went? Do you believe he felt comfortable talking to you in spite of friends being there? Give him at least until next Saturday. If he hasn't called by then and you feel everything was fine, give him a ring on the phone. If he's interested he'll appreciate it. Remember, some people love a social life when busy days can allow them to slow down to enjoy it--don't judge him too harshly yet.
2006-10-23 10:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound quite young.
1.A bar is a poor place to meet another person the first time. It doesn't bode of good intentions; who decided to meet in a bar?
2.It's only 2nd day. What is the urgency? You want him to get you drunk and have sex so you can say I was drunk.
If you're smart you won't contact him first and if you get together insist on to do it over dinner in a nice restaurant.
Take a trip to the park, go to the zoo. See a movie. Stuff like that.
2006-10-23 10:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by the shadow knows 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you really like him. Personally, i wouldn't call bringing friends along as a first date, and maybe because of that he might not have realized your seriousness. Then again, maybe he is just busy, and will call when he is ready. Needless to say, give it some time.
2006-10-23 10:19:35 · answer #6 · answered by prettydebutante 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he text you already then call him. He may think you are not interested in a one on one. So call say hi and maybe you can ask him out this time and buy the drinks.
2006-10-23 11:09:40 · answer #7 · answered by purrfectsandcastle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you brought your friends with you he could have taken that as a sign that you aren't in to him... you should call him and ask him if he wants to meet for a drink or if you feel that is too bold then you can call and let him know it was great getting together and you hope to do it again soon... and this time go alone. if he says no or doesn't act intrested then you have your answer and you haven't wasted anytime.
2006-10-23 11:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call him if you want to when you want to. Simple.
If you call him he will know you are interested in him. Isn't that what you want?
Why must people worry about playing such silly games?
The worst that can happen is that you will find out that he is not interested in seeing you. But the sooner you find that out, the less time and energy you waste. Isn't that what you want?
Also, he might be nervous about calling you. If you call him, he will have no excuse for being nervous. That is, also, what you want, isn't it?
2006-10-23 10:25:14 · answer #9 · answered by hughgo-a-go-go 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Texi: according to the book of etiquette the guy supposed to
call you because we think that is the polite way.Yes really
see if he doesnt call back then it's waste of time not worth it
So what I will reccomend is yourself better beak-up with him now
think about it!
2006-10-23 10:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by toddk57@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋