My dad was a gulf war veteran, how come he gets pissed every time I bring up the war or ask questions about it

Question

Gulf War as in Operation Desert Storm the one in 1991 involving many countries around the world.

He had to fight Saddam's millitary

Answer 1

Hi,,,, I am a Vet of Desert Shield - Storm myself,, and some people just dont want to talk about things.... There wasn't that much actual fighting that went on in that war..
But he maybe trying to down play the Drama of this war,,, and hope that you don't join the service to go over there...by not talking about his war experience....

Just over look him,, many Vietnam vets are and were the same way also...

good luck

Answer 2

I don't think this is unusual for people who have fought in wars. My father-in-law doesn't talk much about his time in Vietnam, my brother and my brother-in-law speak very rarely about their experiences in the Gulf War, and I had a friend who returned from Iraq in March, and he has yet to mention anything about the war. It doesn't mean they feel like the war was wrong, but as good and decent humans, which I believe the majority of our Military is made up of, they are bound to feel some guilt and sadness over what they saw.
Our Military men and women that have gone to war have experienced and see stuff the rest of us can't even imagine, so I think at some level, it's going to obviously affect them for the rest of their lives. Some can handle it better then others, but it must affect all veterans. I know that at my husband's command, they are very supportive and encouraging when one of their men/women come home from Iraq, and they strongly recommend counseling if the person is just not adjusting well once they get back.
Your dad may talk one day about what he went through over there, but I wouldn't push him on it. Let him talk when he is ready. I realize it's already been years, but apparently he is still not ready, and may never be.

Answer 3

apart from the hectic adventure of scuffling with any warfare, the two the US government and the persons have been quite ungrateful to returning American infantrymen. They have been by no potential venerated, no longer even regarded, for risking their lives. i'm living in ny city for the summer season, and you will nevertheless see veterans going around homeless, maimed or in wheelchairs. Neither the media, nor political analysts or teachers communicate the Vietnam warfare. it is frequently skipped over, as though it by no potential befell. individuals have a frustrating time accepting defeat, via fact it upsets the belief they have of themselves, as being the final interior the international and subsequently invincible. no count if it is authentic or no longer, the Vietnam vets did no longer should be blamed for the disaster, yet they have been publicly humiliated for protecting their united states, and characteristic been skipped over for the final 30 years. don't be too stunned if the comparable occurs to the troops getting back from Iraq, some years from now.

Answer 4

This is not typical of the Gulf War.
I've found that with a lot of stories about veterans of WWI, WWII, Korea, Vietnam. They never tell a lot too their children.

When you read stories about the people that really saw fighting, and were written down, it is rarely they told it too their children. If they tell something at all, it is generally to their elder grand-children.
Why ? I don't know, they try to forget or they don't find the correct words or they think that people will not understand them.
Why they start telling to their older grand-children ? Maybe because they want to tell their story so that not everything is lost or to avoid that the truth is lost.
Strange but it seems to be so for over generations.

Give your father some time and at the right moment he will start talking about it but don't try to get it out of him, it won't work.

ps : to Juggernaut : Battle of the Bulge was in WWII (i suppose you forgot to type a "I".

Answer 5

Perhaps it is how you ask the question?

Our troops should have kicked Hussein's *** in 1991 when we had Swartzkopf running the show. Now we've got a bunch of number crunching bureaucrats running the show and a worthless bunch of mindless spineless libs beating down our military and every offing.
Your father is likely frustrated because of the fact we could have taken care of business sooner, and knows fullwell had we done it then we'd not have near as many problems now.

Answer 6

A lot of vets had harrowing experiences and don't want to be put back into it by talking or dwelling on it. Give dad a break. Maybe someday he'll talk about it. If he never does, it may mean he just can't bear to. Try to respect that.

Answer 7

Many war veterans have trouble talking about the conflict they were in.The really have trouble reliving what happen to them over there.Be patient he may never choose to talk about it.But if he does,just be there for him.Remember he is a hero!!God bless your family!!

Answer 8

Come on man. You leading an easy life, dont be stupid. Understand other people's feelings too. Movies they portray army in a different manner and in real life its totally ground situation dude. Army is all about ... words cant explain unless you be in. He didnt do an 9 to 5, airconditioned computer programming job man, come on he was a soldier. Not easy to say. Just dont ask him. Behave civilized.

Answer 9

Hard to say without more info, but maybe he has come to realize that the Gulf War was fought on false pretenses, and the idea of remembering how he and other faithful American soldiers were used in such a horrible way by our country pisses him off.
A good soldier is an asset to America, and both Gulf Wars were all about greed for oil. That's a misuse of our military.

Answer 10

There may be many reason's. Depending on what he went through, sometimes people want to just put it away and try to forget best they can. So, when you bring up this subject he may respond with anger, it not really you he mad at, it the memory he holds and wants to forget.