Alright, here is the problem: There is this Girl I love that I met over the internet. We both love each other a LOT and we've seen eachothers pics, used Web Cams, and Talked on the phone(via Cell phones). So anyways, we're planning to meet someday, which we both want. I've been told long distance relationships don't work out, but we know it will work out well not badly. But my questions are:
1. Her mom & dad don't trust me, so how can I prove to her mom & dad that I am a good man and I really do love their daughter?(I understand any concern with this question, but I am a honest person)
2. What can I do to make the relationship stronger(it's really strong right now but what else could I do?)?
2006-10-23 10:06:16 · 22 answers · asked by Drew S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have to go and meet her parents
2006-10-23 10:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by Gopalakrishnan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you guys will have to meet in person before you can really know if this is love or if you are just in love with the idea of each other. I have been in a long distance relationship for over 2 years that started in a similar way as you are describing so I'm not gonna try to tell you it can't be the real thing.
It sounds like you are both young and the fact that you are having these concerns show that you are a good person.
If her parents are worried and don't trust you, maybe you could suggest that they will be present the first time you meet?
Good luck and be careful :)
2006-10-23 10:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by IC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way to make her parents trust you is when you get the chance to see her ask her to set up a dinner with her parents. I know alot of people don't meet the parents until they are very serious, but do that and make a good first impression. Hopefully it should work, provided your intentions are good. (sorry there are alot of weird people out there). I'm sure you are good.
Good luck
btw on the long distance thing if you really want to know all you have to do is try. Some people can work it out and some can't. The main thing in a long distance or any relationship is trust. If both of you can trust one another then you might have a better chance.
2006-10-23 10:12:50 · answer #3 · answered by monro15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only word worth mentioning is LOVE. IF you love her really, truthfully and purely, you will respect her parents no matter what they say. You should be honest with her whenever the two of you are on chat or talking. Some long distance relationships are only good when it is like that: away from each other. Starting a deeper relationship and sharing your life together with the other person is a commitment and is not a bed of roses. But good luck and hope both of you make it happen!
2006-10-23 10:10:12 · answer #4 · answered by Joy RP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I/We have a fantastic long distance relationship also started on internet. We are so close it's not true, we long to get the mails, we tell everything and I mean a lot more than if we were together, it is perhaps surreal but very precious, and sooo romantic, and horny too both sides, and you know what: it will probably go on like this a long time, I guess we want to keep it that way, we have never seen each other and we 'met' virtual 4 years ago. Great!
2006-10-23 10:13:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a long distance relationship for two years. We are now married and happily living in the same city. Here is some advice from my experience.
1. Talk as often as you can and spend all of your holidays together.
2. Treat her really well, make her happy and eventually her parents will see how good you are for her.
3. Be loyal and faithfull to her.
4. Trust that love will make it work
2006-10-23 10:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by Linda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my husband over the Internet .
We've been married for 6 years now .
I'm from Belgium , he was from Redondo Beach California .
We wrote each other and talked to each other for many months before I decided to come over here and meet him .
I stayed in a hotel for a few days , just to give us a few days to get to know each other better .
I understand her parents concern , but even if you were both from here , what would be the difference ?
I don't see any difference.
She can make a bad choice in her own country too , if that would be the case .
So they have to take your word for it .
Send them a letter and explain what kind of person you are and what you have their daughter to offer .
Best of luck to you .
I hope things will work out for both of you .
Be happy !!!
I am .
2006-10-23 10:18:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are in a similar situation, you know what my parents would not trust him either and I dont think theres anything he could possibly do to change that. Now My bf and I have been together for almost 7 mths and never met before. He loves me and I love him and thats all we need to kno to make it work so some day we can meet. We have had troubles but we're still together and even when we have our down times deep inside i know that we love eachother to much to let anything break us apart. trust me we have had the worst (no communitcation for over a month only via email, doubts confusions, ex girlfriends calling me threatening to hurt him unless i broke it off, )...its endless.... but I love him and someday we'll meet.good luck with ur relationship.all I can say is never ever let her doubt ur love for her, understand and be patient...as for the parents...its reasonable why they wouldnt trust you..give it time
2006-10-23 10:13:59 · answer #8 · answered by illrckurwrldbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. They dont trust you because you met over the internet. I met my man over the internet and it took a lot to win them over. I basically told him everything he did that was good (even missed out the things he did that were bad.) Then he talked to them, and made them laugh, made it clear that he wanted to get to know them. That he was serious about me. They may only accept you after you two have met.
2. To make it strong, you have to keep doing what your doing. Make her feel special. That you dont want another girl and only her. That you open up and share everything, tell each other about your day, and grow like you would in any relationship. Treat her as though she's right there. Open up.
2006-10-23 10:12:15 · answer #9 · answered by sleepyme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships do work sometimes but you have to dedicated... and as far as trust... that comes in time and you have to earn it... that is something only you will know how to do with what little info you gave... continue being the honest person you say you are and i am sure the true you will come shinning trough... I wish you the bes... true love is hard to find...
hope this helps...
2006-10-23 10:11:07 · answer #10 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you will gain her parents trust is by meeting them in person and showing them that you're a good guy.
The key to keeping a long distance relationship strong is communication and trust. If you have that, you'll be fine.
2006-10-23 10:09:55 · answer #11 · answered by Nicole M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋