When I announced that I didn't want to dance at my wedding reception (I don't like to dance and look like a chicken having a seizure when I do) my family and friends acted like I'd just announced I was going to forgo the wedding dress and get married naked. "What will you do at the reception?" they all asked in shock. Does anyone know of any alternative activities that would be good for a wedding reception? And I don't need any suggestions for dirty activities or anything you wouldn't want to do with your grandparents around.
2006-10-23 09:47:06 · 27 answers · asked by Yiddy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We danced at our reception but we also had a photo montage that we projected onto a big screen.
It was pictures of me growing up and then of my Husband growing up and then it was pictures of us together ... through dating, engagement, etc.
It was a great way to break up the night and we had our favorite music synced up to the montage so we still had entertainment.
Good Luck!
EZ
2006-10-23 09:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
In all honesty, the band or dj that you choose is what makes the reception what it is...If you hire a GREAT talent to come in and get your guests excited about the reception, it will be a great success. i would suggest doing a couple of slow dances with your new husband but if you really don't want to dance then take extra time to mingle with your guests. If a lot of them are coming from out of town and haven't seen you in a while, then they will definitely want to have some special time with you. I wouldn't forgo the dancing though.
2006-10-23 19:01:29 · answer #2 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to dance, then don't. It's that simple. If you choose to not have dancing, the only alternatives that I have ever seen (and 9 out of 10 weddings that I have been to have not had dancing) is mingling. Other activities are not necessary and most people don't even want them, such as games, etc. But don't expect it to last more than a couple hours at most if you go that route. If someone doesn't like your choices, oh well. They can do it their way when it's their turn.
You are not even required to do a first dance if you don't want to. So don't feel obligated because folks say you should.
2006-10-23 17:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should do the customary first dance with your husband and maybe the father daughter dance if your father is living and will be there, which are both slow and should be relatively painless....and then just spend the reception talking to guests and enjoying yourself. Everyone else can dance if they choose to. You could also have a simple reception with no dancing involved. Lots of weddings I've been to have just had the cutting of the cake and greeting guests and so forth and then off to the honeymoon. No big fancy reception, no band, no dancing etc....
2006-10-23 16:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by Tallulah 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Several of my friends had receptions without any dancing. You could just have food and drinks and spend the time talking to all of your guests. The way I see it, it's YOUR wedding and you should be able to do anything you want or don't want, provided the person you are marrying doesn't feel like they are missing something. If he really has to have a dance, maybe you could compromise.
2006-10-23 16:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I guess you would just all go home after the dinner and some visiting time.
I have never heard of there not being a dance at a wedding. They are so amazingly fun! I guess I have learned something new today. You're also probably the first woman I have heard of who didn't like to dance - usually it's guys who don't and the women complain!
2006-10-23 22:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's your wedding - do what YOU want to do! You don't want to dance, then don't dance!
So far as activities - it depends on what kind of reception you are having. Is it a sit down dinner? a buffet? finger food? open bar? cash bar? no bar?
Really - I don't know why you feel you have to have "activities" - and if you do, you can always have a DJ for music. Your guests can dance - nobody says you have to!
Have fun and congrats!
2006-10-23 16:50:55 · answer #7 · answered by cathy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i myself am not a dancer. i did the first dance with my husband, and the dance with my father. pretty painless just slow dancing so no biggie. after that i wasn't out on the dance floor. i was walking around hugging everyone and chatting it up. i did the flower toss, cut the cake, etc. had a great time and didn't need to dance the whole time
i did want to do the chicken dance but everyone said no...oh well still had fun
2006-10-25 13:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well its your wedding and you dont need to do anything you dont want to do!
I would say please do have the first dance with your husband then after that you can spend time talking wiht all you guest and keep busy that way!
I was at a wedding that the bride did that and well I dont know if it a plan of hers not to dance or not but well heck it will be a good way to keep busy talking with EVERY guest for more then a HI, Thanks for coming!
I wish you the best of luck!!!
Please remeber its YOUR day you do what YOU want!!
2006-10-23 17:46:59 · answer #9 · answered by Just ME!!! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would look at it like this is the only time your family and friends will have to see you dancing if you are soo bad at it. I hate to dance also! I dance in my chair at clubs and stuff. I hope, if you believe in it, you will at least do the money dance, where everyone puts money on you when they dance with you and the groom! That would help pay for the honeymoon!
2006-10-23 16:51:58 · answer #10 · answered by Manna 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋