10 years ago 2 brothers fell out. Now one of them is seriously ill, the other wants to visit him in hospital. Should this be allowed ?? The family says no as It could tip the balance !
2006-10-23 09:33:18 · 15 answers · asked by redjonjak 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Every one should be given a second chance. Death is final there is no chance for those things you wish you had said. If the ill brother is up for it then the family dont really have a say say it is between the brothers. They should be allowed to make peace with each other. The family should look beyoned the falling out. And by making peace with each other will only help the ill brother as its 1 less thing for him to worry about. It may even help his recovery if he makes peace. If he is unconsious hearing his brothers voice saying something along the lines that he doesnt want to lose his brother may be the trigger to bring him round. Either way the brothers have the right to make up. If they so choose. Some one has to make the first step.
2006-10-26 13:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by wandera1970 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely....the brothers need an opportunity to heal what ever distanced them before something happens to one of them. And obviously, the ill brother should be asked what HE wants and his wishes should be the final answer, though I would have someone outside the family discuss it with him...the hospital chaplain might be a good source if he is in the hospital. The balance can be tipped either way...the family needs to remember that and perhaps all of them need to heal this rift from a decade ago.
2006-10-23 10:09:56 · answer #2 · answered by Dust in the Wind 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Families are not meant to be kept apart. The differences which come up are not as important as the blood ties that are there forever. The sooner the split is fixed the happier everyone will be. Failure to enable closure will block positive feelings later. Think of the good that could come from the reunion and although it might be a good idea to insure old disagreements are over they should not stop a reunion.
2006-10-23 09:40:28 · answer #3 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making amends could help both of them. You never know what might make someone happy. Maybe he is really wishing that his brother was there.
Is he so ill no one can ask him? Then he would be too ill to even notice him there.
Family is family. It is not right to get in between them. Especially for other family members.
2006-10-23 09:36:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of a family is this? brother, your blood and falling out. I think these brothers' parents could not teach well these kids the meaning of family. maybe now he is seriously ill in hospital, the other one realised the love inside he had for him?
2006-10-26 06:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by better late than never 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes allow the brother to visit,he obviously wants to .What does the brother who is ill want? It may be the last chance they have to make up.
2006-10-26 04:16:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its easy for us to say yes, and I would still say yes. Maybe just writing a letter and a get well card to start off with would help.
Maybe just contact the hospital as well to see how is his.
If this brother was contacted in the first place, maybe its a sign to make amends. Hope it all works out.
2006-10-23 09:39:11 · answer #7 · answered by daisymay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put yourself in those shoes. Would you want to see your brother if he was very ill, eventhough you had a fight? I have 2 brothers and even if we weren't talking for 30 years, i would want to make peace and see my sibling if he was ill. I think it would be a great idea.
2006-10-23 09:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by Manna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think biological family is very important to people any age, I think he should see him and make things good before the one brother dies. I have adopted 4 kids and I let the birth parents see the kids anytime they want if they call first, My kids love their birth mom, but love me as their mommy.
2006-10-23 09:46:20 · answer #9 · answered by Grandma of six 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no question of him being "allowed" surely its his decision whether or not to visit his brother in hospital if it makes them both happy why not?
2006-10-26 04:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by bluebell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋