Perhaps I can start to objectify woman? Or maybe I can have a series of shallow relationships with no meaning to boost my self esteem? I'm not unnattractive, but for some odd reason, no matter who tells me what I want to hear, it is not enough. Could it be as simple as being a shallow prig, or did my mother not hug me enough?
2006-10-23 09:29:32 · 17 answers · asked by Shadow 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with Poster, be president of the local chapter of the 4 F club
1 find them
2 feed them
3 f*ck them
4 forget them
I think you might have had a late night sneaky
uncle trying to get you out behind the woodshed!
2006-10-24 02:48:38 · answer #1 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you already have a girl in mind? How old are you? Are you in your teens, twenties or later? If you are shy you need to realize that life is "all about rejection!" Girls will reject you and that's okay! At one point, you will return that favor! To build self confidence you need to start believing in yourself, believing in your dreams and your potential! You have something to offer this world and to another human being. Some girl is probably dying for you to ask her to be her girl! There are therapists, good friends, books and spirtual advisors that will help you rebuild or start from new! Don't stress!
2016-03-28 05:17:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could combine the lot.. take up a series of shallow relationships with other peoples mothers and get them to hug you afterwards.
2006-10-23 19:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A series of shallow relationships to boost your self-esteem is an excellent idea!
2006-10-23 09:31:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well sorry your gay(no just kidding)LOL> you probably got hurt some where in the past(like all of us) and are probably gunshy.Afraid to look foolish,stupid etc,get past it,take a chance and try not to put sex in your mind completly when talking to a woman(trust me thats the hardest) be a friend first and dont take it seriously,if its too happen it will happen,the shallowness feeling is just wrong,your probably comparing yourself to others or the tv or movies,just grab a girl and go out and have some fun,eventually this will broaden your depth and you never know at least till you try,I hated the rollercoaster feelings back when I was dating but its the only way so go,go go
2006-10-23 09:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by stygianwolfe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lack of confidence is nothing to do with the way you were brought up, although it could be a factor.. it mainly is because of how you view yourself... its all in the mind... if you agree with everyone that you are attractive then why think that your unattractive? confidence starts from your inner self.. you have to set in your mind that you are a strong woman, because you really are(",)!!!
god loves you and so does your family, isnt that enough reason for you to love yourself as well and gain self confidence? stand tall and proud(",)!! god bless=0!!
2006-10-23 09:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by yuki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This worked for me, buy some really nice clothes that highlight your body best attributes (tight fitting if you are muscular, baggy if you are over weight), go out to clubs observe the ladies, now do not talk to them just observe what they are doing saying etc. etc., do that for a few nights, then go out with your best outfit and find a one night stand it is great for confidence, here is another tip the girls looking for a one night stand are usually on the corner of the bar...
2006-10-23 09:38:15 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Fear is a very powerful force. Fear can stop us from accomplishing our goals, hopes, dreams, and from reaching our full potential.
One of the major things that keeps people from being successful in dating is not being able to overcome fear. How many times have you let fear stop you from making a move on a girl you liked or kept you from approaching an attractive woman at a club, bar, or somewhere? Fear can paralyze you due to not wanting to be rejected.
Most of the time, we usually regret not approaching or starting a conversation with that person. We know deep down inside that we should go over there and talk to that woman, but something inside stops us.
Negative Thinking
Sometimes, the first place that we lose the battle is in our own minds. As soon as some men want to go talk to a woman, they get a negative thought in their head.
"What if she turns me down? I'll look stupid and embarrass myself in front of everyone."
It's those types of negative thoughts that hold men back from meeting someone that could have a lot of potential.
We can't control every single thought that comes into our heads, but we can control whether or not we're going to dwell on that thought or not. If a negative thought comes into your head when you're about to approach a woman, immediately cast that thought down with a positive thought.
Remember, you control the gateway to your mind. A lot of dating is a mental game within ourselves that we must conquer. There is tremendous power in our thoughts. Control your thoughts by keeping them going in a positive direction.
Get rid of fear. Fear causes a barrier. Focus on doing well and succeeding. Expect good things to happen. Learn to re-train your mind and start thinking some power thoughts.
If you do this, I believe you will start to overcome your fear and ultimately be on your way to being more successful in dating.
2006-10-23 09:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by RivatricHistrionic 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well first if ur depending on people to boost ur self confidence ur fuc king up cause like they put it up they can surely put it down. so dont hasitate on all that. sit back be cool and u will know when to approach or talk to a girl. or like 2pac said get rich and surely the girls will come beeen proven so just be easy
2006-10-23 09:37:01 · answer #9 · answered by jose m 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to start liking yourself and feel comfortable about who you are - develop a healthy self-esteem.
2006-10-24 08:31:08 · answer #10 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋