Let me explain, I know you won't get too ahead of the game as to say I'll marry the next guy I date, but if you date him, is to get to know him, and that takes time, and what else for do you wanna know this guy but to know if you're compatible, if you like him enough to try a relationship, and why would you try a relationship with someone if not to marry him. Or do you get in a relationship just to have fun? I misled a girl recently and I wasn't clear about my purpose which was have a good time, I was a total jerk with her and I honestly regret it, she's very nice and I'll burn in hell, if not I already am, I even dream about her and wake up feeling awful so now I'm scared to meet women, I don't wanna do that EVER again, that wasn't fair for her. Please don't limit to answer but comment about the subject, Thanks, oh and please state your age
2006-10-23 09:18:26 · 12 answers · asked by Rick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it really depends but nornally we are just out there to have a good time or to have some good company, usually not for marriage right away. You probably didn't miss led her, it was just the spur of the moment maybe perhaps it is you that is thinking too much and well you got to learn from your mistakes and know not to get to carried away next time. Really, as for you thinking you are gonna burn in hell or something, well it is too late now because what is done is done, no need to regret. Also, as you said she is very nice then she would not want to see you being all troubled and feeling awful, it will hurt her more if she knew and I am pretty sure that she didn't think you were a jerk. My advice, if you really regret what you did maybe you should just apologize or something at least it will make you feel better. Lastly, don't be scared to meet other woman because not everyone's opinion about relationship is different so just establish that you are here to have fun and don't get too carried away though. I am 18 ..... young and still ready to have fun lol.
ps i remember once someone told me that when you dream about someone it mean you have very strong feeling for that person, think about it perhaps it is not that you misled her but perhaps at that moment you meant everything but somehow the passion is lost. Anyhow that is for you to sort out ............good luck :-)
2006-10-24 06:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot depends on their stage in life.
I am 28 and I do hope to have a great marriage with a compatible partner when we find each other and the time is right. However that is just a hope for a best-case scenario... getting married is not a "goal" just a hope. In the meantime yeah I would like to just get to know someone, have fun, find out over time how compatible we are or aren't. But I won't stick around very long with someone if I know there is no chance of marriage, why waste that time involved with the wrong person?
Now if you mean "just to have fun & have a good time" meaning sex... you have to understand that most women aren't like that, we usually read more into it. All the more reason to keep sex within the context of a relationship that you intend to be long term.
2006-10-23 09:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 29. Female, and currently unattached. When I date a guy it is for the purpose of determining whether or not he is marriage material. Is he a guy who will be a strong supporter of my goals in life, will he be open to allowing me to be supportive of him, and take suggestions. Wil there be good communication. etc. In my 20s I dated guys to get to know them, but every relationship was not for the purpose of getting married. There were several guys who I realized after dating for a while that would not be marriage material. But they were really great company. So we stayed together until one or the other found a new interest.
It depends on the age of the person, and what they want to get out of the relationship. Either way, each person needs to be very clear about what it is they do and do not expect from the relationship.
2006-10-23 09:25:24 · answer #3 · answered by Meesh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
(35yrs) A woman's goal is to find her solemate, not necessarily marry him but hopefully be completely in love for as long as it lasts and sometimes that means marriage and sometimes that just means a loving relationship for many years. But In most relationships that is not the case. Most of us were really and truly good to the bone but it always takes a no good man to mold us into what we are when we meet you. So in a mans position, it is at what point in a womans life what and who you get. If you get us and we have never been burned, you will get us wholesome and good but if you get us at any other point in life after some hard times, WATCH OUT! Oh and just an FYI-most of us have to be cautious because we don't want to be hurt AGAIN and once we see the good in the guy, of course we convert back to our wholesome and good personality.
2006-10-23 09:31:48 · answer #4 · answered by Kendra J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello...i'm 23years old...that stated....yes...i ultimately date a guy in hopes that marriage will be the end result. i've dated some guys though just for fun, when i was younger...now though, my goals have changed, it takes time though...like i was dating a guy that i really thought had potential for marriage, but then i saw that he was not at all what i'm looking for...it took me about a year though...anyway- i'm now dating a guy that is a few years older then me and we seem to be on the same wave length..not that we tlak about getting married or having kids just yet...we're still gettting to know if we are compatible...i think though it should only take a year to find this out..then it falls on the guy...to ask her ot marry him or not...i hate being led on as well...why date me if you don't intend to make me your wife and mother of your children? not all girls are the same though...i'm the wifey type...some are parties just looking for a good time...if thats what you want look for girls like that...that why you don't break anyones heart in the process...although it almost sounds to me like you still care for this girl...who knows...maybe you should rethink the comittment part... :) don't knwo why guys get so freaked out! :)
2006-10-23 09:33:55 · answer #5 · answered by tigerlily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I date because that person seems like someone that I would want to know and spend time with. After a while of dating I think you then know if you would want to spend the rest of your life with them. I would not put a time period on when you decide when that time comes for some it takes years and others just a few months.
2006-10-23 09:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by confused7873 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta do whats first-rate for you. I can truthfully let you know that i've been by way of the identical factor. It is fairly difficult to pick over 2 men and women that you simply fairly like to dying. But what occurred to me was once probably the most man distanced from me( in view that we are living an hour aside). Then in view that of that the opposite man took the oppurtunity and requested me out. But if i had been you i could decide on the fellow that i have identified the longest. But ultimatley its as much as you in view that he is also the person who you desire to spend the leisure of your existence with.
2016-09-01 01:32:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have found us out we are all after the same thing getting the guy to marry us so we can get his house ,his car and whatever else he has right ? Give me a break . you sound very self centered and you think women are after one thing right? Man you are a jerk and that girl should thank her lucky stars she did not get hooked up with you. Good Luck.
2006-10-23 09:35:14 · answer #8 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some women and myself date a guy only if she is serious or want something serious..
personally when I date someone, I want to know if he and I are compatabile, if we can have something long term, or how serious is he about me, and am i the only one in his life..
I am not looking to marry right away..but yes I am looking for something serious..so if a guy tells me that he only wants to have fun then i would not bother waste my time..
since you said that you misled this girl..I would make it a point to call her and explain to her how sorry you are and that she is a really nice person and you are the jerk..now if you want something with her again.. that is going to take time.. and you are going to have to play the good guy role to win her back.
there are other women and like you who just want to have a good time and thats fine as long as everyone is honest with each other..
2006-10-23 09:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since I never want to get married or even have a long-term relationship, my ultimate goal is to have fun with guys. I'd rather have a FwB than a boyfriend. (I'm 16.)
2006-10-23 11:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋