2006-10-23 09:15:52 · 17 answers · asked by Borlax 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just tell him he's welcome to come & see you & family any time he wants to
2006-10-23 09:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That is a big one. I think it would be a good idea to go slow. Start out talking on the phone and maybe e-mails, etc. Get to know him so that he starts to feel safe around you. Since you guys have not been together for a while, it is a good idea to get to know him as you would a friend in the beginning. Ask him if he would like to go out with you (only you to start) for a bite to eat or maybe play some one on one (basket ball or some sport that he likes) with him. Tell him you are more than happy with the idea of him bringing a friend with him if you think it would make him more comfortable. Keep the situation light and easy for a while, but let him ask question even the tough ones and make sure you answer them honestly.
Believe me, he is just as curious about you as you are about him. He may not act like it at first, but people have this need to know who they are and knowing who your parents are is a big step in that process. Once you have build a trust, an understanding between the two of you, then start introducing him to the rest of your family if he is open to it. Best wishes! :)
2006-10-23 16:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your family first about what to say and watch for what not to say to make ur son more comfortable. then, just take your son there and tell him not to worry about anything.
2006-10-23 16:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by mi2z_myst3ry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple letter short and sweet a little chat on the phone just ask don't beg why did he get lost
2006-10-23 16:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
treat him as u will treat ur family even tho hes ur long lost son
2006-10-23 16:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by Joseph S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him know that you want to meet up and leave the rest to him. he will make the choice soon
2006-10-23 16:18:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you are there, & are interested, but tell him it is up to him...& leave it at that.
If he is interested, he will & if he isn't...you don't want to pressure, so don't. There may come a day when he will, so leave it open.
2006-10-23 16:19:24 · answer #7 · answered by fairly smart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you try just talking to him. and then slowly you can bring these new people in to his life, if your son so chooses
2006-10-23 16:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write a letter just asking himdont say no pressure to him otherwise it creates pressure
2006-10-23 16:18:39 · answer #9 · answered by lee.ishere 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest it but leave it up to him he has to feel comfortable , this is probably really hard for him.
2006-10-23 16:18:26 · answer #10 · answered by Teaza19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't try to talk him into it, but you could invite him to. It's his choice whether or not he wants to.
2006-10-23 16:23:28 · answer #11 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋