my boyfriend used to call me everyday and lately he has been giving me the same excuse why he can't (he says that he has too much homework) for the last 4 days he hasn't even called he goes to a different school so i don't see him except for the weekends but this weekend he said that he was going to his uncles house and im not sure if i believe him. on thursday i asked if he was mad at me and he said no. i don't know whats going on or if hes lying or telling the truth. what should i do?
2006-10-23 09:05:42 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i really like him and i don't want to break up with him without a REALLY good reason i thought he was like that about me until lately now i don't know what to think . . .
2006-10-23 09:06:46 · update #1
Ah, boys can be fickle. Heh, and they say that about us! Well, you are young. There will be lots of other guys for you down the road. You just don't know it yet. I know, i know - you think he is the one and only. but boys come and boys go, and some of them bastards just want us for a good time, like a quick lay. Learn to roll with the punches. Try not to get too close till you see that he means business. The right guy will come along for you some day. I hope for me too, lol. Huh, like who am "I' to give advice on love! Ha ha, i am just 16.
2006-10-23 09:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by Denise B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello this is not momz, this is her son I'm a teenager too, so maybe I can help. So he's not calling you; well, that bites. Fou or five days must seem like a long time to you. If he is saying he's really busy, it must mean he is. It's hard to really say. Let's look at it as if he was in high school. He doesn't really have a lot of time. He probably has buddies wanting to do a whole bunch of things. I know sometimes guys run away with their buddies. I'm sure he is thinking of you, but sometimes guys at that age seem to get a little sidetracked. I did the same thing. I would constantly be dragged somewhere else with my friends, meet new people, explore, really. At the time having a girlfriend was kinda of scary. I thought our relationship was going down the drain because I thought we were losing conversation. Be understanding and offer a time period you can both work with sometime during the week for conversation. Start slow and make him know that you are understanding, but you need that time to talk. I know you wan't to talk to him a lot more, but you just can't chase him. Guys can be just like a puppy dog - they will just run away if you chase them. You must make him feel like you're happy, which makes him feel more secure. So try this, and if it works tell me but if not, well its your move. Just make sure its your own decision what you do so good luck and I hope it works out for both you.
Shawn
2006-10-23 17:07:03 · answer #2 · answered by momsie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be one of three things.
1. He really is telling the truth.
2. He is beginning to feel smothered.
3. He is seeing someone else.
I can't say for sure which one it is, because I'm not there. But the solution to all three of those situations is simple. Give him his space and wait until he is ready to pick up the speed again. Also, new relationships tend to be more exciting, so communication is very high (The love bird stage). Overtime, the excitement begins to settle. A little time apart is not necessarily a bad thing. This is all completely normal, just don't cry and whine to him about the minor change and everything should be fine.
2006-10-23 16:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by Bmenace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to break up with him but there is no point going out with him if he isn't that into you. You need to back off and give HIM a chance to CALL you. It sounds like youre chasing him. I know it's hard, believe me I do, but you need to let him make the next move. You need to see how many days goes by until he calls you and if it's a long time, you will know that he's not that into you. Chasing him down and getting mad at him for not being into you, will NOT make him like you more. The only way possible to make him like you more is to back off and let him come and get you. Maybe if he thinks he's losing you, he will stop taking you for granted.
2006-10-23 16:20:03 · answer #4 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has somebody else in the new school but he is not sure about the other girl so he does not break up with you until he is sure the other girl is what he wants.I know it hurts.If a guywants to make time for his gf , he can do it no matter how much he is busy and what he has to do.He is making excuses right now and you have to find out the exact reason yourself.
2006-10-23 16:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has met someone else and is not sure of what he wants to do or doesn't want to hurt your feelings until he knows how he feels about her. In the meantime you are waiting in the wings in case things don't work out with his new interest.
The other possibility is that he is telling the truth. You must use your gut feeling on this.
If his evasive behavior continues you need to confront him and find out why he is avoiding you.
2006-10-23 16:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by sloop_sailor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... you need to figure it out fast. If he isnt calling or if he says he is busy ask him what he is up to. Say he says that he has a lot of homework... sugest that you come over and you guys can do your homework together. Say that since you guys go to different schools it would be nice to spend time on the weekdays. If he says no then you should go over to his house and see whats up. He should have no reason not to want your over. Especially if you guys cant see eachother everyday.
2006-10-23 16:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by APgurl-NY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't know how old you are , so I don't know if I should say ( girl and boy ) or ( man and woman ) .
Anyway my dear , it takes two to Tango !!
He's not that wild about you anymore , I can tell .
Sometimes ( men ) or ( boys ) have a hard time to tell the Truth about there feelings if they decide not to go on with the relationship .
That's why he comes up with all kinds of excuses .
He really doesn't want to hurt your feelings , because he knows you like him that much .
Don't run after him , give it a few days and see what happens .
If he doesn't try to contact you after that , you should let go .
2006-10-23 16:16:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...sad to say...if he's ANY decent boyfriend, he would at least call you (even to say good-night) Me-I would be suspicious...
try and talk to him via phone, email, person-to-person....and ask him straight up "Are you seeing anyone else," or "Are you wanting to see anyone else?" Pay attention to the way he acts; most liars will look you straight into the eyes and NEVER look away- people who tell the truth typically will look you in the eyes and look away ONCE. (learned that from my step dad whos an officer) So, Im sorry this is happening to ya, but even if it does end b/t you 2, just remember- there are other people out there.
Im divorced-thought I would never have anyone again...and now I have Carson. =) It'll be ok. Good Luck.
2006-10-23 16:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by da_nikkster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if this is a middle school or high school boyfriend, let me say that it is very seldom that you find true love in this stage. you shouldnt be worrying about if he's messing around with other girls right now... you should be trying to have fun.
with that being said, let me also say that boys are very immature at this age. a lot of them have more than 1 girlfriend. and it sounds like the case with this one.
my advice is... dont fret over it, tell him you want to see other people, and find someone else. dont settle for less than your worth, and just try to have fun right now.
2006-10-23 16:13:07 · answer #10 · answered by evil_bitch_with_attitude 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋