Are you or anyone you know "bipolar"? My son was/is dating a girl diagnosed with the sickness. He has been through hell and back with her! Split up and get back together twice with her. He is having a really hard time to cut loose from her. She gets him right where she wants him all the time. Has him wrapped around her little finger it seems. She has sibblings and parents but they want nothing to do with her. He feels soooo sorry for her all the time. I feel she is gonna really put him in a real bind soon if he can't break free of her. He says she is getting help in more ways then one. Is it possible to get the sickness under control???
2006-10-23 09:00:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
I'm sorry to report but from experience of being a nurse for many yr and having experience in the mental health field the out look is not good for this poor girl . Bipolar is a sad illness, with no cure only treatment it's a disorder of manic behavior and depression , and they have a problem staying with a treatment program and staying on their medication, they need a strong support system to make sure they stay on their medications and with the treatment plan or therapy.If she is getting help like your son says as you can see she's still having problems and it's been long term because the family have came to their wits end, that's why she is so attached to your son she has to have a support system to survive and their drive to get it is very strong as you have witnessed. There are many good articles on the web about this disorder. Good luck and God bless you.
2006-10-23 09:27:31 · answer #1 · answered by rn71953 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no cure for bipolar disease. Medications can regulate the symptoms, but then it is not always a sure fire thing. If this was my son, I would really sit down with him and talk serious about the disease. Bipolar cycles. It is real good and it is real bad and this continues constantly. I would not personally want my son to have to deal with this disease as it is hard to manage. If the relationship has been short, he would be better to cut off the relationship. Don't get me wrong, it is a disease, can be controlled on medication and doesn't mean that she is bad. It just is a tuff disease to control and regulate moods. Good luck!
2006-10-23 16:12:00 · answer #2 · answered by flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, yes, it is possible to get this illness under control. There is no cure, only management of symptoms. I have been bipolar for 25 years, and was diagnosed 18 months ago. The drugs have turned my life around and saved a 20 year marriage.
This girl needs treatment, though, and not just for your son's sake. Untreated, she has a 20-25% suicide risk.
And yes, bipolars can be very manipulative.
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2006-10-24 13:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by Random Bloke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, a friend of mine is bi-polar and she goes thru a lot extreme
mood swing, she'll be happy and babbly one day and the next day
she acts like she doesn't recognize you or mean towards me.
But with a lot of understanding and compassion you can get through this. Your son is trying to be very understanding of her situation and a good role model to others as well. How would you feel if you're son had bi-polar? he is all she got.
As a mother I understand your situation but perhaps you might want to learn more about this psychological problem and you could help her and other people could help her as well. This is the time when you need to get close to her and just talk and tell her how this is affecting you. Communication is the key.
Good luck!
2006-10-23 16:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by Sabine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bipolar is not a personality issue as much as it is a psychiatrist physical illness.
The ONLY way for her illness to remain under "control" is for her to get on her medication and stay that way.
Your son has adopted the fixer person in a relationship to someone with a cronic life long illness. It would be best before he get so a point that he can't get out (ie children) that he gets out of the relationship, as those suffering from bipolar typically get worse as life comes at them.
2006-10-23 16:38:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Lost One...,
Yes, the condition can be dealt with. Once diagnosed, (and the right meds prescribed,) the Gal MUST take her meds regularly. Many of these folks will take them for a while and then stop. At that point they can get real erratic. If your son really cares for her, he can be a stabilizing factor in her life; but he needs to know up front that he is in for a wild ride. He will have to be very patient.
Butch
2006-10-23 16:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by Butch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh boy. Bi polar can be managed, with lots of professional help.
The big question is WHY would your son put up with this?????
What part of his life tells him it is ok to scrafice his life for this woman?
Do some reading up on co dependency.
No one should be contoled by anyone. A relationship is a mutual care and needing each other. Your son sounds like he is her all.
He needs to realize that it isn't his job to rescue anyone but himself. And next time he is single he should find a woman who is secure in herself and can stand on her own.
NONE of us are responsible for another persons behavior.
Another good thing for him to read about it Boundries. This woman has over stepped boundries and has him jumping through hoops for her.
She has a serious illness and he shouldn't feel guilty for leaving her because HE CAN'T fix this, Can't contorl it, Can't cause it.
I think his life is teaching him a huge lesson about relationships.
He can't take up with somone who needs fixing or such intense care.
A healthy relationship each person can stand on their own, but they can be enriched by the other person, but NOT save them.
A couple need to need each other but not be NEEDY. There is a huge difference.
Actually this isn't your problem it is his. If you are behind him trying to fix him because he is fixing her, then who is fixing you..??
I would say let him read the comments here. Then tell him you love him, but you can't get involved in this.......so you have told him your opinion and he as an adult needs to figure out himself what to do. Then distance yourself from her drama.
2006-10-23 16:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i do know a couple of people with the dis-order and she needs to speak with her doc. and get put on med. they are wonderful once the right kind and dose. is correct. also to help every one understand the sickness better you should pull up the info. about it. best of luck---your son is sure to need some.
2006-10-23 16:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GUESS WHAT? your not the only one goin threw this problem with her son!! my son has a baby with her and he tried to get away from her but he wants the baby to have his mother so he won't stay away.....she says he has the problem and she put my son in jail over it too!she has him goin to a counselor and a probation officer also....he is taking all the crap she is givin him for the sake of their son! GOOD LUCK TO EVERYONE THAT HAS THIS PROBLEM!!!
2006-10-23 17:25:41 · answer #9 · answered by Jennie R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is hurtful. Im sure the girl wud like to bring her disease under control. There are medicines for it. Life isnt about giving up.
2006-10-23 16:24:49 · answer #10 · answered by novembr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋