If you caught your teenager skipping class and this was a habitual problem that resulted in you as the parent having to go to court, would you allow your teen to be arrested to be taught a lesson? Or is this cruel punishment?
2006-10-23 08:53:51 · 24 answers · asked by misscruz 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I would beat the boy to within an inch of his life and then DARE him to call the cops.
2006-10-23 09:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by Manny 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I just finished going through this and yes let them take the teen, first of all you have lost their respect, they no longer care about what you want, think or need them to do. Unless you want charges brought against you for being a parent to unfit to get their own kid to school, well unfortunately you have to play the game. Kids today have no lines that cant be crossed, the government has taken away your right to punish your kid as you see fit, therefore we are over run with delinquent's, our kids learn 250% less than just 15 years ago, why? Teachers can't control them, our kids are taught that their parents are not allowed to hit them and they can call protective services on there own parents, just as the criminal now has more rights than the victim, so do our children with the system, so let the system try it their way first, you may get lucky and your teen will realize you have the power again then they may respect your intentions and listen, or deal with the consequences since you have proved you are not going to back off ever again.
2006-10-23 16:14:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My knee-jerk reaction is let him be arrested!
However, this is a two edged sword. It could backfire on you. What if your teen thinks being arrested makes him look good to his peers? What if, while being incarcerated, he gets lessons from other miscreants on how to do even worse things? What if it makes him even more resentful and rebellious than he already is? I hope that there are other options for you to try first.
An additional caveat. My daughter was caught shoplifting when she was 16. The police called, I said "Keep her". They said that if they did, I would be charged for each day she was in custody. I forget now how much it was, but it was more than I could afford. So I had to go get her and take her home. Fortunately, the whole experience was enough to teach her a lesson. Thank goodness! I don't know what I could have done next.
2006-10-23 16:20:35 · answer #3 · answered by pessimoptimist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was arrested. We went to court and he was sentenced to a years probation and 7 days in the juvenile home. The 7 days he spent there was enough for both of us, and he totally changed his attitude. It's not cruel - beating him "to within an inch of his life" as previously suggested is cruel.
2006-10-23 22:11:20 · answer #4 · answered by playing_shy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I have talked to my child repeatedly about this problem previously and he/she still doesn't listen, then Yes, I definitely would let my child face the music and deal with the consequences of his/her actions. We, as parents, need to make them realize that the appropriate punishment is warranted if they have done something wrong, especially if the parent have already tried other tangible options with no improvement or change.
Many people (kids in particulary) nowadays do not care less about rules or laws because we're being too lenient and inconsistent with handing down punishments. We need to reinforce this in order that they will understand and think twice before they act; or otherwise deal with the consequences of their own actions.
You'll be doing your child a favor with this experience.
2006-10-23 16:15:41 · answer #5 · answered by ¿What Now? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The biggest problem is, in most areas, they don't have a decent juvenile facility to put them in, so they are 'arrested' on paper and released to the custody of a parent and you just wind up having another court date.
But no, it's not cruel.
2006-10-23 16:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by oklatom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not cruel enough. Try bootcamp. Our American jails are a joke!
100 years ago people and children were better behaved in general. Now that all punishment is being taken away things are getting worse.
2006-10-23 15:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Youth Detention Centers can be helpful ( or they can be a place for your child to learn more bad habits from the other inmates). It's a toss up. I think I would beat the crap out of my kid, put them on lock down, and make their life a living' hell until they complied with MY household rules and regulations (along with a little family counseling).
Get right with God and do a lot of praying.
2006-10-23 16:09:32 · answer #8 · answered by HazelEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not cruel--it is tough love.
Another idea is to go to school with them--and sit in class--give all the teachers you cell number and have them call if the child is not in school.
My son was being a little jerk in school and I started doing this, along with really overplaying the whole you must be troubled/in pain etc thing and drug him to therapy--I mean I really over played the whole concern thing---"lets have some share time"
I did it in front of his friends and all his teachers and anyone who would listen etc--and of course--he HATED it.
He quit. Kids, especially teens hate to be embarrassed--work with it!
2006-10-23 17:17:05 · answer #9 · answered by ms_books3736 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you were a bad parent for letting your kid get this out of control to begin with.
Let the little delinquent get arrested. Maybe having some "alone time" with the molesters in jail will teach him a lesson.
2006-10-23 16:01:30 · answer #10 · answered by HeatherLyn 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋