I have been with my girl for 4 years at fist just like any relationship started out great. but for the past 6 months things have taken a turn. I believe in the phrase "treat someone the way you would like to be treated" so stay away from situations that make my girl unconfortable including hang out with girls that are friends because she says "I can tell they like you" so i keep my distance i dont completely ignore them but i dont go out if i know they are going just to make my girl confortable. On the other hand she does the same including going out, in a group of people including a guy who has already confessed his love for her. I admitt it makes me a little unconfortable but i have never asked her not to go out if he goes. she never makes time for our relationship anymore and even yesterday she went to church with his family left a 6 in the morning and came back at midnight because " they went to another co-workers birthday party after and after that they all went to the movies
2006-10-23 08:42:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
even after i told her i wasnt too confortable with her going with HIM to church but her answer was " Dont worry babe its just church and your the only one for me and I'll see you afterward so dont make plans" I didnt even get a call till about 5pm sayin im goin to a party then to the movies.
2006-10-23 08:46:15 · update #1
i have tried to move on but everytime i try she says ill change i swear your the one for me and she is ok for about 2 weeks and then there we go again. I always take her back i dont know how so if you have been through this please help i still love her
2006-10-23 08:49:53 · update #2
i have told her many times how i feel its almost like she doesnt care she's never felt that before because i do what ever it takes from putting her in those situations I have stood up for my self and she became "unhappy" with our relationship and it got worst
2006-10-23 08:54:35 · update #3
If I hadn't had a similar experience I would probably be giving all this gentle type of advice on how to get out of the situation without hurting her and yada yada yada. I guess you love her and all, you know... emotions and stuff... I'm just gonna spill it out.
DUMP HER NOW. Erase any contact numbers, details. Get rid of anything that reminds you of her, (tooth brushes, sheets, earrings, clothing, everything). See your friends often, above all see your family more or people that provide you with the emotional support. And last but not least, sleep with someone else. I don't know about your moral convictions, but get dirty and nasty. It won't solve your problem but trust me, it will help you cut the bond. (Just don't hurt other lovely people in the process)
Listen bro, the way I see it, her behaviour will only continue and you will always be the sucker at the end of it. Trust your gut feeling and do what is right for you.
Good luck.
2006-10-23 08:59:53 · answer #1 · answered by Avillo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all yes u are in an unhealthy relationship an dhow did she leave at 6 in the n da mornin ot go to church anyway u need to talk 2 her and let her know u lov eher an du need to find out it she feels the way u feel about her
2006-10-23 09:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by crybaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not an unhealthy one but an unfair one. You really should sit down with her and talk to her about it. If she was really comfortable and had faith in you she wouldn't care about you hanging out with other women. If she had respect for you she would know not to hang out with a guy that confessed his love for her. He's going to keep dreaming about it and she's only leading him on by staying friends with him. (I was recently in this situarion). You should ask her whether or not she's truly comited to the relationship and if she is then she needs to make sacrifices for the relationship to. Its not a one way street.
2006-10-23 08:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by JayEmmBee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your girl isn't quite ready for a serious one on one relationship. I find it a little disrespectable to be spend that much time with another guy. If a girl really respects you, she wouldn't do things that you are uncomfortable with.
2006-10-23 08:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by Bu Tran 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what happens when you don't stand up for yourself, man. You need to lay down the law quick or she will be too far gone.
And if that doesn't sit well with her, then why do you want someone who is going to take advantage of you like that anyway?
2006-10-23 08:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your instincts tell you there's something amiss, there probably is. If you feel that she is becoming distant and spending time with another man then that would send up the red flag for me. Don't be a sucker, ask questions and state how you feel.
2006-10-23 08:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like its bad.... you should probally talk to her abt it before making any desions but seems like you are getting the short end of the stick when it comes to the relationship...good luck dude..
2006-10-23 08:45:40 · answer #7 · answered by confused_mexican 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's got things that she's not telling you. Ask her. Tell her to be honest for change. You don't deserve to be lied to.
2006-10-23 08:46:26 · answer #8 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, its unhealthy. Let her know how you feel and see if that will help, if not move on to another girl.
2006-10-23 08:45:54 · answer #9 · answered by madtyga2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get rid of her. It sounds like she is moving on.
2006-10-23 08:46:13 · answer #10 · answered by beau0021 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋