Say you flirted with this girl bigtime for like 6 or7 months. You finally make a move and ya'll make out a couple of times (no sex). You have very intense physical chemistry together and one night you are talking and you tell her that she is beautiful, and not only do you want her physically, but you "like her as a person."
To me this is such a vague statement and could mean several things, so my question is:
Do you think he means that he has some other feelings for me than sexual (not necessarily love-but some kind of emotional connection), or is it more like he thinks I am attractive, but only likes me as a friend?
I really like him, please help me get into the male psyche!
2006-10-23 08:39:06 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is trying to tell you he doesn't like you just for your body. Plain and simple. It's a good thing.
2006-10-23 08:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by drbuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah u got a doozey on ya there girl. be careful with this one and try not to let yourself get any emotional connections. .....it could mean that hes itching his way to turn your relationship into the perfect friends with benefits no strings attatched great sex we are awesome buds kinda thing. it also could mean that hes a bit into you. of course guys dont just come out and say im into you and i like you and i wanna take this further. a mans heart has walls of steel. i dont know how old you are or what you are looking for but if you guys have a good friendship just sit him down over a cocktail and ask straight up, before anything gets weird. say that you have been wondering if your friendship is taking another direction, or is it just a physical attraction that two friends just happen to have. make sure you make him feel comfortable and assure that things are cool no matter where things go. guys appreciate a laid back go with the flo honest girl, not some girl whos gonna cry the minute he walks out the door. dont chase him away and dont make him feel like hes wasting his time. find a happy medium. COMMUNICATION. thats the first lesson- if he cant communicate on a comfortable honest level then thats a huge red flag right off the bat.
2006-10-23 08:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by jpm3usa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very clearly he wants to have sex with you. First and foremost.
"Like you as a person" could mean he won't necessarily find it obnoxious to hang out with you. Not that this is important, he'll be more than glad to sleep with you without you ever saying a peep or ever seeing each other again. He could possibly, potentially (but no promises) see you morphing into a girlfriend (so long as there's sex along the way).
My cynical side though says he could mean this as a bone-toss to the notion that women want to be desired for more than just their bodies, they want to be "respected in the morning", etc.
I'd give him the benefit of the doubt, for now, and assume it isn't just that token bone-toss to female respectability. Could be the start of him really liking you.
2006-10-23 08:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by Babyface 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That he mentioned physical attraction first is the indicator of his intentions. He wants to get you in the sack. The addition of he "he likes you as a person" was added as an after thought to try and persuade you. If his like for you as a person was so important to him, he would have said so first. Sure he likes you, but he views you as a potential conquest and will most likely dump you afterwards. Red flag girl!
2006-10-23 08:52:09 · answer #4 · answered by sloop_sailor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to tell you he thinks not only is he attracted to you, but that he thinks a lot of you just as a person. For him, "love" and "like" are two different concepts.
It would be the equivalent of a girl saying that "not only do I love you, but you're my best friend". Same concept. The two don't always go together.
2006-10-23 08:44:26 · answer #5 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said "...not only do you want her physically, but..."
So what makes you think his feelings are OTHER than physical? If anything, they are in addition to being physical.
You chicks over analyze EVERYthing - which is why us men have such a hard time with you!
2006-10-23 08:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a serious answer then listen....guys will say anything to get in your pants...coming from a guy here. Yeah he might like you but we are talking about 7 months here and still no play. He wants sex and is going to try whatever it takes to get it. I am not saying that he isnt "the one". Im just saying...give it to him and see what happens
2006-10-23 08:42:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of it is humorous, and that's unlike you have been greater severe than him. Is he truly disillusioned? If he's, you are able to convey regret, yet do no longer make a great deal out of it. while you are the single that is disillusioned then be at liberty to convey regret, even though it form of feels to me like certainly one of those issues you're the two going to snort approximately for years yet to return.
2016-10-02 21:10:16 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say.
Every relationship I started by not having sex usually ended up done in a few weeks.
When I stopped looking, it went gangbusters.
Don't blame yourself for some guys indecision.
2006-10-23 08:42:19 · answer #9 · answered by MЯ BAIT™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAHA classic move of an inexperienced horn dog. He does as he see's "monkey see monkey do", you know that saying. He cares for you...but only as long as your around, he will be thinking of others while your away. If you know your not going to love him, and you two arent going to get married... have fun with him. See what happens, HELL, he might be an honest guy???
2006-10-23 08:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by benny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋