In the situation I would be speaking of the Mom has lost her husband due to him being an idiot....and she is a WORKING low income mom. She does't ask for cash assistance...but will take food stamps and insurance help from the system.
2006-10-23 08:38:59 · 27 answers · asked by })i({ J and D's Momma })i({ 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Add thios to the situation....All her kids are by her husband....and they did have money to take care of them before he screwed her over
AND THIS PERSON ISN"T ME>>>JUST SO THAT WE ALL KNOW>>
2006-10-23 08:55:19 · update #1
she is really wonderful mom and all people must help her because she deserve that
2006-10-23 08:41:15 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
well first of all let me say this, I am a low income mom of 2 kids i receive food stamps and medicaid for me and my kids, i also have my own place a car and a job no i wasn';t married but i have always worked for what i have or I've had family around to help me out. And as one said i pay taxes every year just like everyoone else. regardless of how many children you have or if you have more than one father involved as long as you are doing your best and not mooching off the system do your thing , its not easy and sometimes you do things in life you wish you could change but the fact is you can't so you do the best you can to hold it down for how ever long it takes. No one should judge any single mom regardless of her circumstance even the ones who abuse the system, not everyone was brough up the same, so instead of talking about do somthing about it, my biggest dream is to open a center to help unwed mothers with there children daycare and so forth i was one and without help i wouldn't be were i am at today.
2006-10-23 09:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by Sexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The so to speak "system" is out there for those who need it. Now if she was abusing the 'system' then I would be against it but it sounds like to me that she needs and deserves it. People shouldn't judge others who are actually out there trying to pull there own weight but in society today there are very few jobs out there that a single mother can hold down when they have no help from the children's father or her family. Food stamps and Medicaid was organized to help families get on there feet. Quit trying to put her down because she is doing the best she can. It would be different if she didn't work and was just mooching off the government, but she is NOT. She has a job and is only accepting the help she believes she needs. Put your self in her shoes and food stamps were the only way that you could feed your kids. Would you want people to look down on you because you can't do it all on you own? Think about it!
2006-10-23 08:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by mommy of two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation, I think that's what the food and insurance assistance programs are for. If she's working, she's doing what she needs to, and unfortunately with the cost of things now, unless you have more than a college degree, it's hard to make enough to make ends meet. You can't change how many kids you already have, although it's really nobody's business how many kids you choose to have, rich or poor. Unfortunately, marriages don't always last. I think as long as people don't plan to permanently rely on government assistance, they shouldn't be ashamed to get the help they need to get on their feet. Her kids shouldn't have to suffer because of mistakes the parents have made. Mom's in this situation need a break more than anyone, so if you know someone like this, offer to watch her kids for free for an hour so she can get out, go for a walk, go grocery shopping without all the kids hanging on her!
2006-10-23 08:45:20 · answer #4 · answered by Jamie B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay lets see here Im a low income mom i work a part time job plus I volunteer at my kids school and NO Im not ashamed to say that I recieve foodstamps and medicade for my children and thats only because I just cant afford it after paying for rent, schooling, everyday things that kids need {not want}So me personally I give any Mom props because taking care of a household on her own in very very hard.
2006-10-23 08:55:44 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is your option basically what you just said. SHe doesn't want Cash assistance so those are her only options. If she has children under 5 she can get WIC (women infact and children) which will get her peanut butter, beans, milk, juice, eggs, cheese, and sugarless cereal. Those are her options as far as that. There is childcare vouchers that cover children up in to school age that she can apply for as well. They help out A LOT. You can pay as little as nothing for childcare depending on the amount of children and her income.
2006-10-23 08:44:32 · answer #6 · answered by mizzladyariel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that's awesome that she's doing it on her own but ex hubby needs to kick in some funds. alot of people put the working poor down for asking for assistence in buy food for their children and health insurence but remember that when you do legal work, you pay taxes. Your taxes help to fund the government assistance, so therefore you are only getting the money you worked for back. Now for those who sit on their A** and do nothing but look for the monthly check, I say cut them off and find a placement for the kids. Foster care, as bad as it is would be better than a mother who has no desire to do anything in life.
2006-10-23 08:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by WillLynn 1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how hard it is supporting a family. I went threw the same thing before.Its better living low income then being unhappy.I once was told we can have money and be unhappy,or have no money an have happiness. Right now it will be hard, but it will get better in time. Its wonderful ,that your mother doesn't want to stay home and live off other. You have a lot to be proud of...
2006-10-23 08:51:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is making the effort to work, then more power to her. I do feel bad if she had a husband for an idiot. there is nothing wrong for asking for assistance from our government in a situation as you mentioned. However, there are girls out there that spread their legs to every man, have a different father for every kid, and they dress better than I do, have better cars. They are living in subsidized housing, getting food stamps, cash assistance. And they do not even work. All they do is hang out in their porch stoop all day. That is grotesque and sickening. I think they should get their tubes tied. I know that alot of people out there are going to hate me for this answer. But hey, its us as taxpapers that are paying for that. Some people get lazy and depend on the "system". There is no reasoning for that. It makes me sick!
2006-10-23 08:43:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being a mother is supposed to be more than spitting them out. Before you start them you are supposed to plan how to take proper care of them. It is good She has the working thing going for her, she also need to get the support from the father. I think the biggest problem with having many kids is you never have enough time to give them the attention they really need They can do without many things but nothing is as important as plenty of love and attention. If she can manage her time and give them a roof over their head and food that is nice but she has to have time for them to bond with her.
2006-10-23 10:04:07 · answer #10 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I respect low income moms along as there trying, There giving there all then yea they deserve help. But as for the moms who have NO income and are living off the state stop poppen babies out, If you cant take care of them at least try and do something to better your life as well as your children and stop relying on the state.
2006-10-23 08:46:51 · answer #11 · answered by Louisa F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋