I'm going out with a guy name Kyler and he won't hang out with me but he'll hang out with he's x and her friends. it's really pissing me off but I don't want to tell him that is is there a way for me to tell him without hurting him. Please help me!!
2006-10-23 08:24:54 · 13 answers · asked by Miss THANG 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all, why are you afraid of hurting his feelings when he clearly aint concerned with yours? sounds to me like you're not really in a relationship if he doesn't want to be seen with you/hang out with you. i say tell him what you're thinking but not in a complaining way. saying, "kyler, i really want to spend time with you." should be effective. or you could find something that you want to do/share with him and invite him to go. maybe a movie you want to see or a restaurant you want to eat at. if he refuses to go with you, go anyway. this will show that you've got a life with and without him. it also puts things more on your terms.
too often we are afraid of saying what we want because we don't want to lose the person. but is it worth being with someone just because it's easy? so that you don't have to be alone?
my mom always says: alone doesn't mean lonely. if he doesn't want to spend time with you dump him....you're spending most of your time by yourself anyway....plus this will free up your energy to find someone who wants to kick it with you and NOT their ex.
2006-10-23 08:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you worried about hurting him when he is hurting you? You are not responsible for his heelings, and he clearly doesn't care about yours. Where is his loyalty anyway? It's not to you, no matter how he explains it or rationalizes it to you. If the words don't match the behavior, he lacks credibility and sincerity.
When in doubt, you can live without.
Tell him that though you two might have had fun for a while, you need your freedom to find someone worthy of you. Tell him that he lacks integrity, and you can do better.
2006-10-23 08:31:49 · answer #2 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so worried about hurting him?
I think he is using you for something.
In a good relationship,,he would want to spend most of his free time with you,,not his x & her friends.Maybe he still likes her & waiting for her to give him another chance or maybe he likes one of her friends & is leaving you hanging in case he needs you.Or maybe he is using them for something.The only way to find out is to ask.He doesnt feel bad that he leaves you hanging.Id find a better boyfriend.Sorry,,but thats my oppinion.Good Luck.
2006-10-23 08:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's embarrassed to be around you. Maybe he's doing it to make his ex who he has feelings for jealous? Tell him how you feel and see what he says of if he starts being better about chillin with you.
2006-10-23 08:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him he isnt worth your time plus he is obviously still stuck on the ex
2006-10-23 08:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how can you go out with a guy who doesnt want to hang out with you?
2006-10-23 08:27:34 · answer #6 · answered by Nelson M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would be very angry if this had happened to me. sounds like hes just not that into you. i would end it and be done with it. he's not making time with you and thats not right. makes it seem like you arent that important to him.
2006-10-23 08:57:51 · answer #7 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say he is still interested in his ex then and doesn't want his friends seeing him with you, hey, get a new boyfriend
2006-10-23 08:27:58 · answer #8 · answered by Frederick B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him communication is always the best way and tell him how you feel
2006-10-23 08:30:34 · answer #9 · answered by Gina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey baby i will I'm sorry i haven't hung with u lately will u forgive me? i love u
2006-10-23 08:28:04 · answer #10 · answered by Jesse M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋