What would you do if you told your teenage son that he will have to stay in school and can't drop out and then he gets mad at punches you in the face? What would you say if he said he wishes you would be out of his life forever?
2006-10-23 08:09:14 · 25 answers · asked by nvthissweets 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My first call would be to his father. My second call would be to the police. This is just outrageous.
Something is going on with your son. I would want to have him tested for drugs and alcohol. I would want to know what is going on in school and with his peers.
SOMETHING has to be triggering this.
Your son is in need of help, I just wish I knew what it was.
2006-10-23 08:18:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mum to 3 cute kids 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he punched me in the face I would have called the police. My son never hit but got in my face. He was 16 and I don't him if he could not follow the rules he was out of there.
Two years, who knows all the things he did out on the street but a few month ago he came home, apologized, asked for help and signed up for the military.
Do the right thing even when it hurts, being a parent is not a popularity contest and some children rebel. My daughter had told me she hated me, I said that is fine, I love you, don't like you right now but I love you.
Good luck - seek some out to sit down and talk - couslor - minister priest someone.
2006-10-23 08:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by freemansfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying things that are disrespectful to you are one thing but punching you in the face is outrageous. Whatever privileges he had should be stripped until further notice - no T.V., phone, time with friends, internet (unless for homework which you will supervise), games, books other than school texts. allowance, etc. And don't give him a time when this stuff will be returned - he earns it back with good behaviour, maybe one thing per week of respectful attitude. Don't be afraid to retake it away if he acts up again. If his behaviour gets worse, then get tougher. Contact CFS and ask for ideas of how to deal with this. Contact police if that doesn't work. Kick him out if that doesn't work. Honestly, this kind of abuse is certain to get worse unless you put a stop to it right now.
2006-10-23 08:43:09 · answer #3 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call the cops and have him arrested. Let him spend the night in jail and learn the consequences of these kinds of actions. But that is probably already a problem if a teenage boy would even think of hitting his mother. Sometimes I think we've gotten to soft and/or to lazy in discipling are children and instead of teaching them discipline and respect are to worried about what other people think and not being to mean. Well guess what sometimes being a parent means being mean and having your children get mad at you and sometimes even feel like they hate you, but that is your job. You can't let them get away with whatever they want and do whatever they want just because your afraid to tell them no. Stand up be a parent do your job and you shouldn't ever have to worry about your children ever hitting you or anyone else.
2006-10-23 08:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously this is very fresh and sounds like it just happened. Everyone in the situation needs to calm down. Once everyone has cooled off there needs to be a "family Meeting"
Everything should be discussed.
1. Why does he want to drop out
2. Why shouldn't he drop out
3. What his plans are if he does drop out.
4. Is he having trouble and doesn't know any other way to get out or get help other than to drop out.
5. A logical and sensible decision should be made. but no matter what he needs to understand that you love him and want him to have the best life can offer. There is no way he can have that if he drops out. You know that and deep down he knows it, He just wants the easy way out and all that will do is make life harder later.
Well I hope I helped. GOOD LUCK
2006-10-23 08:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is your son, as hard as it might be, call the cops on him! No one should put up with being abused. People don't realize it but even your kids can abuse you. More than likely, he won't spend much, if any time in jail, but he needs to get help now before he gets out of control. A judge will most likely make him go to anger management. STOP IT NOW!! You don't want to find out later he is doing this to a girlfriend. It SUCKS, I know, but as parents, some times we have to make choices we don't like for the best interest of our children. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-10-23 09:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough Love, mama. While it may be difficult to hear, it's obvious that your problems started way before he was in high school. At this point, your only option is to put your foot down and tell him "My way or the highway." If he won't comply, you will have to kick him out.
Once he realizes you are serious and are not playing games with him, he will either try to make it on his own, become someone else's burden or decide that he needs to follow your rules and obey.
As far as punching, that is not a behavior that just automatically happens. Either he was taught that it is okay to punch, or he got away with treating you like that in the past.
You just need to retrain him how to treat you.
2006-10-23 08:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by CE S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd first wonder whats behind all his anger. Are the two of you very close? Because that is normally the problem. I think every parent needs to first put the blame on themselves and change the way they are with their kids before putting all the blame on the kids. I'm sorry if thats not the answer you want to hear. God bless you with your son.
2006-10-23 08:20:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard one.................Physical Violence should never be tolerated especially if he punched you in the face. I would call and have him put in the juvenile detention center for assault. It will be hard to do but you need to do it for him and the sake of your own safety. There, he will have no choice but to talk about his feelings and do school work, home will seem like a vacation. You have to let him know that you WILL NOT tolerate being physically abused. Once he sits in there for a while I think he will come around and relize he didnt have it so bad after all..............Take care...Keep your head up:)
2006-10-23 08:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by Lyssa D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You brought him into the world and you can take him out. Do not let this go on without punishment. No matter what you have to do. Call police immediately. If I had done this to either one of my parents I would not be here typing this right now.
2006-10-23 08:48:35 · answer #10 · answered by Alisha S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋