never speak to you again and will disown you?
2006-10-23 07:57:57 · 14 answers · asked by nvsweets2006 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It sounds like a "big kid" temper tantrum.
I am not sure what state you are in, but most states have a mandatory age in which a child must go to school, unless they graduate before then.
Could it be that there are some issues going on at school that you might need to help take care of??? Something has to be going on to warrant this kind of behavior. It could be with a teacher(s) or peers. It could be so many things, but it sounds like you are going to have to get your hands dirty if you are going to find out why he is doing all this.
My brother-in-law who is currently 15 has had issues with teachers and peers. He has made MANY horrible behavior choices that has landed him in HUGE trouble. It took a lot of time, the situation was diagnosed and resolutions happened.
Something HAS to be up, or I seriously doubt that he would use threats like that......
2006-10-23 08:14:29 · answer #1 · answered by Mum to 3 cute kids 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he wants to drop out then he must move out! If he wants to leave school then let him get a taste of what it is like to survive without an education!
Also the both of you should sit down and make a budget... Have him research the cost of an apartment, then add utilities (electric, gas, phone and cable), furnishings and the cost of food. Don't forget car insurance, gas and maintenance.
Kids just don't understand that what they do between the ages of 16 and 24 will define the quality of their life for the rest of their life!
2006-10-23 15:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by Dan J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but.....hahahaha! How old is your son? Unless he's 18, he cannot file to "disown" or "divorce" you because not letting him drop out of school is not considered abuse. He'll get over it. I'm a teenager myself, and have issued such threats to my parents, but this I find hilarious! Make him see how his future will be without an education. During the summer, make him get a job, stop giving him money, make him pay rent, stop letting him drive your car. Once he breaks down, it'll stick. Tell him that this is what it will be like if he decides to move out without finishing his education. He won't be making enough to buy a car, and barely enough to pay rent or have time to hang out with his friends. Belive me, just talking won't stick. Teenagers learn through experience and they want to experience, let them. Then they learn how hard it really is.
2006-10-23 15:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do what my parents did when I threatened to drop out, find an alternate school. For me, it was the district's alternative school. It wasn't the school for bad kids, it was the school for kids who weren't making it at their home schools. My school had over 3,000 students and I was lost. I had always hated school, and I just wanted out. My parents didn't want me to end up dropping out and not going through with getting a GED, so they searched for a long time before they found the school I ended up graduating from (and on time, at the top of my class). I wasn't happy with the decision at first, but I made it work. You have to think further ahead than your son not talking to you now for making him stay in school. Although there was another poster that has a son that got his GED and is now in the Army, the military does not like to accept GEDs, and it really can hurt him in the future if he does not go to college. Life isn't always great, and kids get mad at their parents, but if they're mad at you for making them do something that will help them in the long run, they will eventually get over it. Whatever your decision ends up being, I hope that it works out for you.
2006-10-23 15:16:00 · answer #4 · answered by Court 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give him the beat down. If he wants to leave he can. IF he is under 16 then he has no choice. You can call the cops and have him thrown in juvie. Cause if you do nothing the courts will think it is your fault. Take control and scare his butt straight.
2006-10-23 16:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, he cant disown his own parents. he's young and doesnt know what he wants. he'll be upset if you dont take him out, but its better if you dont. how is he going to get thru life without no education? you cant give your kids everything they want esp. when it comes to education. stand your ground and keep him in school. he will still talk to you. he needs you or how else is he gonna get what he wants or needs.
2006-10-23 15:03:48 · answer #6 · answered by iblukinachu 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would tell him that's fine. YOUR the parent, not him, don't let him manipulate you! Children need school whether they like it or not. Maybe you should try and talk to him about why he is hating school so much and see if there is anything you can do to help, but don't let him drop out!
2006-10-23 15:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by someoneoutthere 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell that if he decides to drop out that is his choice, but that he will no longer be living in my home, and i will not help him financially in anyway shape or form. You need to let them make their own mistakes, even if it makes their lives harder. Thats what my mom did with me, it was the best thing she ever could have done
2006-10-23 15:04:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He'll get over it. Explain to him that without an education he'll always have to work hard and never have enough money to make it!
2006-10-23 15:06:00 · answer #9 · answered by Alison 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Are you the mother, or are you the son?
2006-10-23 16:44:19 · answer #10 · answered by misskenjr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋