ok my x-boyfriend( who i was with for 3years) kept calling (after 5-6months of break up) me to say that he has changed, he really loves and misses me! we went for coffee few times after.it took me few months to find out that he has changed a little bit, as soon as we slept together everything just cooled off, he felt like he didnt have to try to be nice anymore, and became totally careless!!!! why men are so difficult to understand, yet easy to read?
2006-10-23 07:52:22 · 21 answers · asked by mojjooon 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I disagree with everyone else. I read your question a couple of times and I don't think that he was using you for sex at all. I think that he got scared. You said that you 2 were together for 3 years. I really don't think that he would go to such lengths to just have sex with you. He went through the ordeal of telling you he's changed, that he loves and misses you to you two having coffee and probally trying to talk things out just to have sex with you? someone that he has been having sex with for 3 years? I dont think so. What I think happened was he really did miss you and love you and in his heart he probally felt he had changed BUT when he tested out his love and you to slept together he got scared and started thinking that maybe he didn't do the right thing (and from this he went back to his old ways). From your question it sounds like it took you a few months before you even slept with him. Again, that is why I feel that it wasn't a "booty call" booty calls don't take a few months. He really wanted to get back with you. All this means is your ex is having doubts about what he feels in his heart. I am pretty sure there was a good explanation for your breakup and it is only human to be scared of being placed back into a relationship that has broken up for whatever reason. That is why he "cooled off" and stoped being nice. He did that or is doing that to gain some sort of control over his emotions and of the situation. He showed his valnerable side coming to you begging for you back now he is trying to show you "hes the man". Just take your time and sit back and watch. Yyou seem to be a pretty level headed, smart girl who is up on his game. If you really want him back try to act like his cooling off doesnt faze you. Don't sleep with him anymore and just date and take it one day at a time. By then both of you will know in your minds and in your hearts if this is a relationship worth working through and trying again.
2006-10-23 08:32:41 · answer #1 · answered by sweetie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Girl i wish i knew but i agree with the other chick that said it wasn't just about the sex and he probably did get scared.It's just easier to read things like this and say it was just about the sex but i don't think so,i think he's just confused about the way he's feeling right now.Give him time and i bet you he will come back around again.
2006-10-23 16:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by serenity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looong time no si Kira-kun!!! you already comprehend that i visit chosen Love with out intercourse, by way of fact i'm no longer a shallow individual and if I even have t choose for i choose for that with eyes closed! intercourse is mostly a breaching of the others privateness and in case you do it enable or no longer it quite is with the single you would be continually with, nevertheless no remember how sturdy it is it may on no account attain the goodness of affection and the emotions featuring it. do no longer love a woman, or a guy for intercourse, love her or him for who they're, and on no account think of with reference to the physique think of with reference to the soul, by way of fact love final for ever,intercourse final for a quick 2d. Yeah i comprehend i do talk lots, yet i could!
2016-10-16 07:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by benner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just wanted your sex in the first place so he used that line on you. Men are men they make no sence either way
2006-10-23 07:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by K@t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because most women,and men don't take the time to get to know eachothers feelings well.When I was dating,I had a sort of "Interview" that I used to test her sincerity,honesty,level of romantic feelings and womanliness.
2006-10-23 07:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he just wanted to tag you again.
2006-10-23 07:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by bigfree_2005 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think he just wanted to have sex with you. he just was made you believe he changed so you'll go bed with him. if i would of be you, i'll never be with him again, there are some many guys you can choose from...
2006-10-23 07:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by crazygirl123 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He just wanted the sex baby.
2006-10-23 08:09:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, it sounds like he was just trying to get you back into bed. it's 'cuz we're like dictionaries it's all written out for you, but you have no idea what it's talking about.
2006-10-23 07:58:10 · answer #9 · answered by Pyromaniac 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mars and Venus.
I think women are hard to understand and hard to read. You are doing better than I am ; )
2006-10-23 07:56:41 · answer #10 · answered by elliott 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋