I was just wondering if you can help me with a girl I am in love with. My Question is this can you be friends with someone your in love with. I tried to for a while now but I just don't think I can. I think my jealousy gets in the way of a good friendship I could have with her.
Do have any tips to over come jealousy and have any of been in love with someone but all they wanted was to be friends. If so how did you stop loving them the way you do and just be friends with them. Please help.
2006-10-23 07:43:47 · 19 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Being in love with someone means that person should be your best friend, someone you trust totally.
Being able to trust them should also help you overcome the jealousy issue.
It does hurt to be in love with someone who only wants to be friends, but it is better for you to know the truth..than to live a lie.
Talk to her, let her know how you feel.
2006-10-23 07:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I happen to agree that when you love someone more than friends then it's hard to remain friends. It's no longer platonic for the other person. To overcome your feelings for her and remain friends is definetly going to be hard! Yes, it would help if you could find "someone else to love" but that's not an easy thing to do. If you value your friendship and want to remain friends...I would say maybe not to hang around her so much. At least not while your feelings are at its peak! I would think the more you're around her the harder it will be to get over those feelings! She should understand why you need some space. Try and meet some new people to hang out with while you're at it. It may be hard at first and don't force yourself to get involved with someone else just to help the healing process but allow yourself to have more options. Maybe when the time is right and you meet someone you're into then hanging out with your friend will be easier. I also think you may have to accept the fact that things may never be exactly the same. You don't want to deny yourself of your feelings or pretend they don't exist any longer otherwise they may just linger around and prevent you from ever being friends and/or meeting someone else who may be intrested in you. I wish you luck. I hope your friendship is able to last and that you are able to be true to yourself too!
2006-10-23 07:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hard thing about falling in love is that you never really know when it's gonna happen- so you're not able to prepare for it, especially when the love isn't returned.
Some of the things I can suggest is to keep your distance from your friend. Limit the time you spend with her, and spend more time with other friends to keep her out of your mind. The less you see her, the more you don't think of her. Keep in mind, you have no real reason to be jealous, you're just friends. Be glad that you are friends, than nothing at all.
Good Luck!
2006-10-23 07:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by candy- capped 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her, you shouldn't be jealous - you should want her to be as happy as possible... think about that and hopefully the jealousy will go away. As for being friends but not girlfriend/boyfriend it definitely is possible - i've managed it with someone I really like for 10 years :D Good luck mate!
2006-10-23 07:46:01 · answer #4 · answered by h0axsp1d0r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it is possible, it stops you from moving on with your life, you mite be able to in a few months but not while you love them, it hurts to much. she should understand you need some space to sort your head out. does she know you love her? jealousy will get in the way and your just gonna drive yourself in to the nut house, give your self some space from this girl and let yourself get over it then review the situation in a few months.
2006-10-23 08:29:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotions are one of the nastiest things that happened to humans. There is no way you can overcome jealousy. You can only hold yourself back with the fact that "You might lose your friend if you do anything stupid".
2006-10-23 07:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by skepty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds more like lust. Love is wanting someone else to be happy. If you get all bent out of shape around her, how does that make her happy? It's a first step to love though. Ask her out and tell her you'd like to get to know her better.
2006-10-23 07:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't be able to be "just friends" for awhile. You need to give yourself time and space away from the person so your feelings can heal. In the meantime when you're not around the person, you will meet other people who will make you forget about her.
2006-10-23 07:46:17 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, if you love the woman, go for it. it's very difficult thesse days to fall in love, so take the chance you have.!!!!!!!!
even though you guys are friends you can build your relationship on top of that. if you're serious about each other you should give it a shot, you never know !!!!! take a chance in life, lifes too short to waist possible opportunities
2006-10-23 07:50:37 · answer #9 · answered by boxer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you can be one without the other. The one you love should also be your friend,. Likewise I dont think you can love someone if you dont like them.
Dont stop loving them, become a loving friend and see what happens ;)
2006-10-23 07:46:39 · answer #10 · answered by puffy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋