2006-10-23 07:41:14 · 27 answers · asked by baby_doll66012 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What do you do? You take a good, long, hard look at your relationship. Has he otherwise been good to you? Has he otherwise acted like a decent human being of integrity and honor? Can you see a future with him? ..or do you see a future of him flip-flopping like John Kerry on anything of importance? You should get objective opinions from family and friends about your relationship (without exposing the last weeks or so's ugly details, if possible) to get an honest, blunt view of who this man really is. Then you either say 'sayonora' or you punish the **** out of him for a few weeks before taking him back. If he really, truly wants you, he will suffer the ordeal and wag his tail eagerly at any solution to rectifying things between you two (including nixing ALL contact with the ex wife... lest they share children together, then it's minimizing all contact). Good luck.
EDIT: I disagree with the above users, just so you know. Sometimes people have slip-ups, even of the monumental sort, but that doesn't immediately negate all the time, love, effort, and feeling they've invested in a relationship with you. For whatever reason they fumbled, and fumbled HARD, and how you choose to move on from there (help him up or step over him and keep walking) is up to you. Then again, some people really are bad eggs that will use you time and time again, but once again--it's UP TO YOU to have sense enough to make heads or tails of this character.
2006-10-23 07:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by Leena Rosen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some space and ask him to figure out what he wants before you get back with him. This is kind of common with guys. Guys don't know what they want and they are afraid they won't want what they have now. Regardless, don't sacrifice to much for him. If you are always there when he wants/needs you, he will take advantage of that and you will be left in the dark.
Tell him you like him and you want him, but you need to be his number one.
2006-10-23 08:40:45 · answer #2 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this guy still had feelings (or thought he did) for his ex - wife. Then when he went back to her he found out he was wrong. I don't know. The point is he left you to go and be with another woman with no regard to your feelings. DON'T take this guy back. Yes, it may hurt to be without him but the pain will ease in time and you will be saving yourself a lot of future heartache from this guy. There's a man out there waiting for you to find him whom will treat you with love and respect. Women are goddesses and we deserve to be treated as such. Don't waste your time on a man who isn't worthy of you.
2006-10-23 07:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by Sadgurl80 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say no because he is using you to get a bit of excitment. Happens a lot, I'm just waiting for you to post the question when you say that he says he really does love you and yet goes back to his ex-wife. Forget about him, he's getting the best out of both of you. Move on
2006-10-23 07:43:21 · answer #4 · answered by Triathlete88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him. If he really cared for you he would have not left in the first place. Sure, you can have feeling for the ex but a mature guy understands it about who he is with. Move on and give youself a chance to find a guy who really cares for just you..... a real man. You deserve it.
2006-10-23 07:44:31 · answer #5 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are with the wrong guy obviously. He might love you but he still has feelings for his ex. In this case you tell him that you don't love him and move on. If he can't have feelings for just you then he isn't worth the time and effort.
2006-10-23 07:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by J.J. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer. Obviously he hasn't made up his mind exactly what he wants but in the meanwhile he is stringing you along.
Don't be his backup plan. Move on and find someone that is willing to be totally committed to YOU. You deserve better than him.
2006-10-23 07:44:12 · answer #7 · answered by bonjovigroupie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go to hell.He is playing games.Why would he leave you in the first place?You are NOT some little toy he can put back in the box when he doesnt wanna play,then take you back out when he does.That's not right.You are worth more than that.Dont let him play mind games with you.Tell his *** to go back to his exwife.He probably just wanted to have sex with her,but still.....
2006-10-23 07:45:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You move on to someone who knows who he wants. It sounds like this guy wants the best of both worlds, or just can't make a decision. In either case, he's a "no go".
Good luck.
2006-10-23 07:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You leave him hangin! Apparently this guy doesn't know what he wants and he's just looking at all his options. in realiaty, it doesn't really sound like he cares about you or your feelings. what kind of a guy would put someone they cared through that? not one who you should see yourself with in the future.
2006-10-23 07:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋