I have family that i've known for a year and out of them i have 2 aunts that i tlk 2 often. one aunt use to call me so often when i first got in the picture but now we talk less and sometimes we don't speak for a whole month or we speak maybe once out of a week. my problem is since of lately everytime we're on the phone her boyfriend is always on the other line too. i have no problem with him he's okay but i sometimes don't wanna be on the phone whn their talking about things pertaining to their relationship becuase i really think it has nothing to do with me and for the simple fact that i want to talk to my aunt alone but she always calls him or if i call and he's on the phone she puts it on a 3 way call so we all talk. she tlks 2 him like everyday and we talk so litlle and i miss when it was just us on the phone i wanna tell her but don't want her to think i'm jealous. i know he's her boyfriend but i there are times i just don't feel like talking to the both of them it gets boring
2006-10-23 07:35:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Next time you call her, just tell her right up front that you would like to talk to her alone for a few moments. Nothing wrong with that. Your aunt is rude to conference her boyfriend in EVERY time you two are talking. Once in a while would be okay, but every time is not right. She needs to know how you feel.
2006-10-23 07:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by MyPreshus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are only asking to talk with her a few times out of the week, that isn't being jealous at all. If she is your Aunt, I am sure she would understand that you just want to speak with her. Tell her that sometimes you just want to confide in her, and how your not comfy telling her boyfriend your problems, but be very nice about it and just let her know. She should understand.
2006-10-23 14:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by Fran Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this bothers you so much, why don't you go visit her and have some one on one time with her instead of just talking on the phone. If you are too far to visit, then I would think she only suspects your fine with it, so if you just tell her that you really enjoy your private conversations, she should understand your frustration. I think she only is including him because she wants you to be a part of her life and doesn't think it is a problem. I would just tell her, you miss your one on one time with her and I bet she will understand. Good Luck!
2006-10-23 14:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by Kendra J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her. Tell her nicely that you feel uncomfortable being on the phone with both her and her boyfriend at the same time and ask if your telephone conversations could be limited to just the two of you.
2006-10-23 14:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her how u feel,make it like,u are more comfortable talking 1-1 u are just that kind of person,and there are things u want 2 talk about and arent comfy talking about in front of her bf,she should understand that,no i dont think ur being unreasonable,i think she just isnt thinking!!!!
2006-10-23 14:39:08 · answer #5 · answered by deliciousdawnella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a controlling boyfriend. You can't do anything about it. She's the one who has to decide how she wants to live her life. Sorry.
2006-10-23 14:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by Lynn K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you miss the cozy times you spent together.
2006-10-23 14:43:56 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that u miss her alot and make clear your misundertandings with her
2006-10-23 14:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by jaunty143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know how ou feel. i mean your family so it shouldnt be that hard.
2006-10-23 14:38:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES
2006-10-23 14:37:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋