My brother is almost 27 now and he's been gay since high school. It is really getting old now. I want my brother to stop this right now and get married so I can have a nephew or niece. My parents deserve grandchildren. My parents have told him to stop being gay. He hasn't changed though. What can I do? I'm at my wits end here.
2006-10-23 07:30:59 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Telling him to stop being gay is like if he were to tell you to stop being straight. Quit being so selfish. If you want your parents to have grand children, provide them yourself and get off of your brother's back. Truth is, he will probably never change. You keep on egging him like that and he will probably isolate himself away from you all and find a family that cares and accepts him the way he is.
2006-10-23 07:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by Wookie on Water 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so here's what you do. Find some hot attractive gay guy (some help from girls will do the trick). Make friends. Eventually have your brother and your "new friend" meet. A little bit of alcohol , but not too much, will help lighten the mood. Find a bedroom. In the great laws of math, allow 1 + 1 to equal 2. If the morning after he didn't like the experience, then voila, he's cured! ...are you F*ing serious? You can't cure something that is not a: A) Illness, B) Disease, C) Cancer. So you might as well stop your quest on finding some magical pill that would help end his homosexuality, and begin a quest on finding how you could be a little bit more supportive and educated. Thanks. Btw, as far as him looking at you in the shower, the words "incest is not cool" might do the trick. ;)
2016-05-22 01:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's impossible to "cure" someone of being gay, being gay is not a disease. It is clear that you are taking your brother's choices much too personally, it isn't your life. I assume your brother is not trying to convince you to be gay so I suggest you stop trying to get him to be straight.
Do you love your brother?
Prove it and accept him as he is, it seems that your parents may need some help loving and accepting him too. Possibly counselling could help you to see that your brother is NOT going to snap out of this and that YOU are the one with a problem not him.
Also, if your brother really wanted to he could still have children as gay men can adopt if they want to. This again is YOUR issue not his.
Why don't you try to focus on the qualities that you like about your brother and see him as a person with unique feelings and thoughts and not as your gay brother.
Live your own life and let him live his own.
I can just see your brother's Yahoo ? now : " How do I get my straight brother to stop trying to 'cure' my homosexuality and just accept me and love me for who I am?"
Think about it and then apologize to your brother for not being supportive over the years. Accepting him doesn't put your sexuality in question.
2006-10-23 07:47:44 · answer #3 · answered by Kimmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being Gay isn't something you can change or "cure"...its simply the way a person is. And people shouldn't try to "change" or "cure" a person simply because they're Gay. They should be accepting and loving just as a Family should always be. And if your parents want grandkids they can wait till you have some...
2006-10-23 07:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by KaitiDidIt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cannot 'cure' homosexuality. It is not a disease, it is a chosen lifestyle and there is nothing wrong with it. Juts because he is homosexual does not mean that he cannot provide the rest of you with nieces, nephews or grandchildren! Gay adoption is becoming more and more accepted and common these days, and again, there is nothing wrong with that either. Stop putting pressure on your brother because he will not change. You cannot just "stop being gay". Learn to love him for who he is, and have respect for his decision.
2006-10-23 07:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well dear...its not something you can turn off and on like a water fountain. You and your parents need to get a damn grip. When does being a homeosexual mean you can't be parents??. YOU can give them grandchildren as well. Perhaps your brother should continue living HIS life the way HE sees fit. ALL you other people are just going to have to learn to deal with it.
2006-10-23 07:37:44 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You or anyone in your family are not going to get your brother to stop being gay. It is what it is. That would be like him trying to get you to be gay instead of what you are. Just love him for who he is, probably a really great guy. I don't know why so many people think this is just a passing phase in their loved ones life.
2006-10-23 07:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cure someone from homosexuality? It is'nt an illness to be cured. A person is born gay, and you can't cure something like sexual preferance. Why not learn to accept your brother and focusing on all the things you love about him, not the one thing you don't.
2006-10-23 07:43:28 · answer #8 · answered by LofanNui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arent your grandparents happy with your son? Left handed though he is (and obviously they only see him when you let him out of the punishment room)
What with this and your romantic interests in both your cousin and sister, theyve got a lot to deal with - not to mention you giving strange young boys a lift home recently (I worry about your reasons for wanting a niece or nephew)
Lets face it, you are quite an unusual family - I'd leave your brother to plough his own furrow (so to speak)
2006-10-23 07:40:35 · answer #9 · answered by Apollo C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your Parents need to get a life and respect his choices in life! No one says you have to support it but it's his decision to do whatever he pleases with his life.
Give him brotherly love and let it go at that.
If your parents want grandchildren , Get married yourself and give them some. But get on with your life and leave your brother's life to your brother!
You can't control another unless you wish to enslave him and even then you can't control his mind!
So move on or otherwise suffer the unending wrath of your own ignorances and frustrations!
2006-10-23 07:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by Darknight469 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋