i tried all sorts of new things, scuba diving, rally driving, things like that, but cant seem to attract many guys, my personality is funny, and confident (so people say), but never meet guys doing it, i feel like im wasting time trying to find one! i once had this amazing guy who cheated on me because i was 'not easy enough' later he explained it ment, he didnt like it because i refused to have sex with him as i was underaged and not ready. Yeah bet your thinking not so amazing, but he was so im not calling him 4 that, it hasnt affected my confidence, so why cant i get a boyfriend?
2006-10-23 07:29:55 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
cuz u aint met me yet, honeypie ;)
2006-10-23 08:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have the "girl next door" sydrome that I went through. Sometimes guys simply think that a great girl like you can't possibly be single and they don't bother to try.
You see, sometimes when a fun girl is independent and confident, guys may read this as you not wanting a boyfriend. You might seem too busy for the likes of them.
The most I can say is, don't take it personally. You just need to be yourself. Continue doing things that you enjoy and are interested in. Don't focus on finding love. Instead focus on building yourself and creating the life you want for yourself.
When you finally stop chasing it, that's when love enters your life. Some guy who can really appreciate you for all your talents, skills, confidence and independence will come into your life when you least expect it. Don't wait for it. Just trust it will happen. Believe me, that's how it happened with me. I had my first real boyfriend long after most of my friends did. And I'm glad I waited for him, because we're happily married now.
Otherwise, if you chase after straws you may find yourself stuck with people who are trying to change you or use you. And you may miss out on the person who can love and respect you for who you are. Be patient.
2006-10-23 07:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're underaged then dont' worry about it.
If you don't get asked out enough, it may be a physical thing, like you haven't developed enough or guys dont' find you attractive physically. I'm just typing out loud so I'm not trying to say ur ugly or anything. It could also be that guys your age are not mature enough brave the terror of asking a girl out.
Just hit 18 and watch the guys swarm and don't rush to get into some realtionship, you have the rest of your life to figure out the relationship thing.
2006-10-23 07:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same here, its all getting a bit boring now. people say the same things its a vibe you give off or your over confident, don't look and it will come to you, yeah, yeah. well im sick of waiting and there is nothing wrong with me i don't have 3 arms or even a face like a slapped back side, but still no man. whats wrong with you men, where are you all ? i guess your the same as me then we have to just live in hope, but for how much longer who knows ??? good luck
2006-10-23 07:54:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're trying too hard? You're obviously very young so why rush things? Just be patient, you'll get a boyfriend soon enough. Wish i was a lot younger, you sound like the sort of girl i would go for.
2006-10-23 07:45:17 · answer #5 · answered by David D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you could join a rally driving club or a scuba diving club where men have the same interests as you, meeting someone with the same things in common is better then meeting someone who has no interest at all, good luck
2006-10-23 07:34:42 · answer #6 · answered by ketchanski 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you are doing the things that most macho do so the men possibly don't like being showed up ( if you are better that is ) it also sounds like you are not old and over the hill, so stop TRYING and just have fun and some on one will turn up, what ever you do don't go man hunting you might catch one you don't want.
2006-10-23 07:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all dont try so hard it will come to you when you least expect it, as for you being active and experimental it is intimidating for most guys with low self esteem because they feel that you will expect the same from them. Most guys with the same interest as you would rather prefer girls who are clueless to what they do because if will impress them more so be patient do your thing and that right guy will find you.
2006-10-23 07:49:18 · answer #8 · answered by John A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax. Chill out. Take it easy. Don't keep looking. Don't keep trying so hard. Guys are scoping you but you just can't see it yet so don't worry, they will find you, your time will come.
If you're young now you may be below the radar. But when you mature you will knock 'em dead and then you will asking in here "How do I stop all these guys pestering me"
2006-10-23 08:15:04 · answer #9 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are trying a bit too hard - if you seem desperate you will sending out the wrong vibe. Just calm down and you will meet someone special when you are least expecting it. Good luck.
2006-10-23 07:33:22 · answer #10 · answered by Ally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, You, I bet, are very pretty! And like you said, you have a great personality! Maybe you just haven't met the right guy yet! I know that I haven't!
2006-10-23 07:34:58 · answer #11 · answered by hugsnotdrugs3333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋