newly divorced and want to be sexually active again and know what I want but afraid if I submit to sex on a first date I will not see or hear back from that partner again if I really like him
2006-10-23 07:19:14 · 34 answers · asked by Berta58 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
being a new single person after 20 years of being married. What I did was just let nature take it's course. If you meet the right one... it's ok to take the first step. The guy will always give in... or at least most of the time Just be open and honest with him. Tell him the truth.... it's ok!
2006-10-23 07:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by DanoMD 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see a lot of problems with this article and don't know if I have enough space to go into them all so I'll try and make this brief. First of all, I think the whole "attractiveness hierarchy" is BS. Older women don't seem to have that hard of a time finding sexual partners, nor are they too old to be out of the dating/marriage game. And the biological differences in sex drive I think is BS, too. If it were true, then how come there are so many "willing women" for all these guys to have sex with? Seems to me, both men and women have pretty high sex drives. I think it's human nature. Survival of the species. I do agree that economic pressures were a factor in early marriages in the past, as too, religious factors (which the article does not mention).
2016-05-22 01:42:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't have sex on the first date...some guys don't care, others will give you some stupid line about if you have sex on the first date with him, you probably do it with everyone (but then apparently so does he, or at least tries)...
This is how I look at it:
You CAN screw up a potential relationship by having sex too soon...therefore why not wait? You're not going to hurt anything with potential by waiting a bit (s'up to you how long...3rd or 4th date perhaps?)
However, if on the 1st date you realize he's just not for you, but you are physically attracted, then feel free to go ahead and have the sex...if you never hear from him again, no loss but at least (hopefully) ya both had some fun :)
2006-10-23 07:24:24 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never on a first date! I don't care if you're 85. What are you, a prostitute? If you want more than a sex partner relationship, show that you respect yourself and wait. No guy worth his salt should be pressuring you. I would wait at least a month or two to see if he really likes you. If he does, it shouldn't be a problem.
2006-10-23 07:29:40 · answer #4 · answered by inquiringmind 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give it up on the first date no matter how old you are. That is slutty....
Wait awhile. Go out with this guy a month or so to see if he is even worth it first.
No reason to look desperate & lose your self-respect by jumping into the sack with some guy you hardly know....
And DON'T have sex with ANYONE without a condom!!!!! You DON'T know where he's been & who he's been with. Or ask him to go with you to get tested for STDs. If he says NO!! walk away......Because that means he may either have something & not care if he gives it to you or he is afraid he may find out he has something & can't remember which one could have given it to him....
2006-10-23 07:41:13 · answer #5 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not a time period as far as how long you would have to wait, but you might want to show some respect... The shortest time I have waited is like 8 maybe 10 wks... And believe you me, I was about to have a fit... But he then approached me...and guess what, in conversations that i have had with other men, they like it when a woman waits... They say is shows that she has some class and isn't "HARD UP"!
2006-10-23 07:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by Dani_n_keem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming you are looking for a relationship that will last more than one night. in order for that to happen you have to be upfront and tell you partner you are looking for a long term relationship, so this will involve being friends, then companions, then if suits lovers, you need to get to know your potential lovers, also remember there are a lot of women who will risk sex on the first date but I think that shrieks desperate, your choice
2006-10-23 07:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you want it too, if it is good then he will come running back.. and you are active again.. Don't wait or you might be alone in the bedroom with a battery powered toy again..
2006-10-23 07:24:47 · answer #8 · answered by carpet man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really want to be active without attachment then it doesn't matter, but if you want to do it the right way and not lose someone again, then you should think back to when you first started to become sexually active, think of what you did right and wrong and then go from there.
2006-10-23 07:22:41 · answer #9 · answered by dior 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get it while you can Sweetie.
If you're an older woman, you might not have very much more time before the ticker goes out.
Seriously Its between you two. Timeframe is whatever feels comfortable to you.
2006-10-23 07:28:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋