My future mother in law is insisting on either matching the bridal party colors or my mother's color of dress that she is wearing. I wasn't sure if this was some old tradition years ago.
2006-10-23 07:10:11 · 32 answers · asked by Kelly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No, they do not have to match.
Because I like to think positive, maybe she is doing this to try and be more a part of the wedding. Unless the woman is just downright evil, give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe even go shopping with her to help her pick something out.
My husband's stepmother's dress was the same color as my bridesmaids. I didn't even notice it at the time.
The reality is this is your day. Nobody is going to pay attention or care what anyone else is wearing.
Have a fabulous wedding day! And heck, maybe she looks you have such great taste in colors!!
2006-10-23 07:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the groom's mother should not be dressed to match the bridal party. She is not a part of the official "bridal party". Also, she should want to stand out more as being the mother of the groom instead of trying to blend in with the rest of the bridal party. My mother in law lives on the other side of the country and didn't have any way of seeing my bridesmaids dresses, but she somehow ended up with a dress that was very similar in color even though she was not meaning to do that. She should have a seperate look from the bridal party if for no other reason than to just stand out as the mother of the groom instead of blending in and looking uniform like the bridesmaids
2006-10-23 07:17:55 · answer #2 · answered by Lissa13082 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kelly, yes it is an old tradition that everybody matched. She is just wanting to pick the perfect dress, and you could offer to go with her shopping. Make it a fun day for the both of you, have lunch and get to know each other. Plus, this gives you a chance to "help" with her choice.
I was so nervous picking my dress for my daughter's wedding, so I dragged her along. I wanted something we both liked. I didn't pick the one she choose because it wasn't too young looking. I am not an old woman, but I didn't want to look like I was her sister. We found the perfect dress together, took 2 shopping trips, but we had fun spending time together.
Please offer to go with her, and explain that she doesn't have to match any longer. That the groom's mother needs a dress that is all her own. That way people will recgonize her as the "special person" she is. Honey, you don't want to hurt her feelings, but I understand that you don't want her to show up looking like a bridesmaid or wearing some ugly dress. Maybe search through some catalogs with her. Show her dresses that you think she would look beautiful in and colors that would go along with the bridal party colors.
I know you have tons of things to do, but I think you should really make time to help her, if she resists or acts you are hurting her feelings then back off, and let her go. You don't want to start your new married life with a mother in law that turned into a monster in law over a dress.
God bless us all......
2006-10-23 07:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure if it a tradition but my mother in law wore the same color as the bridal party in my wedding and it didn't bother me a bit. It actually made my picture look a little better. Besides what harm is there in it. It's a small price to pay to avoid hard feelings. My mother choose to wear white like I did but if she had wanted to wear the same color as the bridal party , I would have been ok with that also.
2006-10-23 07:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matching is actually poor form and it shouldn't happen. Both the mother of the bride's and mother of the groom's dresses should compliment the colour the bridal party is wearing because they will be in pictures together at some point during the big day.
2006-10-23 19:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finding a Mother of the Groom Dress
Start off by finding out what the bride's mother plans to wear, and take your clues from her. After all, you won't want to be in a casual suit if she's in a ball gown. You'll also need to know what color she is planning to buy, as you'll want to coordinate, but not match.
You won't want to upstage the bride by wearing some loud color, or white, but there's no reason you can't look like yourself. Hopefully, you'll find a dress that you'll be able to wear again.
Look at department stores, bridal salons, and really anywhere you shop for evening clothes. While you may find stores that sell specific mother of the groom dresses, make sure you check that price tag – some places think they can charge more for a dress for a wedding.
2006-10-23 07:13:15 · answer #6 · answered by Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only the bridal party wears the wedding colors (bridesmaids, groom, groomsmen, flower girls and ring bearer). Mothers usually pick a different color of their liking. For your wedding, the groom can either wear a white tie/vest to match you or he can wear the cognac color tie/vest to match the bridesmaids. For my wedding, the bridesmaids are wearing black dresses with red sashes. My fiance loves the color red so he is going to wear a red tie/vest and the groomsmen will have red ties and black vests. Just make sure the groom is different from the groomsmen..you want him to stand out. For your brothers wedding, since you are not in the bridal party, I would stay away from wearing their wedding color(s).
2016-05-22 01:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every wedding ive gone too both mothers have worn the same color, but its never matched the bridal party colors.
2006-10-23 07:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by bumbleleigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a bad idea. She needs to be different so she's not confused with the bridesmaid(s) or maid/matron of honor.
When my brother got married, his wife chose black for the bridemaids dresses, much to the dismay of everyone. My mom's the mother-in-law & chose to wear a pretty lightly floral dress. My brother's mother-in-law wore a solid color lightweight pantsuit. Neither matched in color or styles & looked great in the pictures.
2006-10-23 07:22:59 · answer #9 · answered by Belle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the mother of the bride should have a dress in a completely different color then your bridemaids and also from your mother. In fact, his mom should call your mom to find out what she is wearing so that she DOESN'T match it. Mother of the bride is supposed to buy her dress first, then mother of the groom goes out shopping. No matching!!!
2006-10-23 07:12:47 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋