We both have kids and agreed that we would only see each other out of work (we work for same company but i only see him for about 5 or 10 mins a day) when we didnt have our kids which is twice a week. We were both free thurs night but he said he couldnt come and see me cos he'd gotta get up early to help set up the butchers shop where he works on a sat. He told me following day that he overslept and didnt make it to the butchers. He came over friday night with his kids and stayed all weekend but only cos he'd got no one to look after his kids on sat while he was working. Neither of us have our kids tonight, but he made excuse that he had to help his sister & bro in law (who he lives with) get house ready for halloween party on sat which i understood. Then i find out he's not staying at home but his other sisters (i did hear her voice in background so i know he's there). It feels like he dont wanna be alone with me and only wants me when he needs something!
2006-10-23 07:08:01 · 29 answers · asked by Mizz Julie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's just text me and told me that his sister is depressed at mo and what else could he do! I know they're a close family but it would be nice for him to at least make some time for me!
2006-10-23 07:16:21 · update #1
My boyfriend saw less of me and eventually we broke up, He was removing himself from my life, i can see that now
Talk to him and be honest with him to how this makes you feel if he really has any feelings for you than he will have to start making a more effort to see you.
2006-10-23 07:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by blondegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost all the time, when a person asks a question about their partner, they know the answer but really want to hear it come from somebody else. When you get the answer that most people are going to give you, which is the answer you already know. You will still do what you want in this relationship. Your not alone most people don't take others advise they just want their opinion. In all honesty, from what you said, sounds like to me he is with you when it is convenient for him. Otherwise, your not a priority in his life. If you were, he would make sure you have time for each other even when it is a inconvenience for him. You make it happen for him, why can't he do the same in return. So think about that for a minute. We all make mistakes so that we can learn from them.
2006-10-23 14:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kendra J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're being used as an 'unpaid' babysitter! You know this so do something about it, he didn't go to the butchers - cos he overslept - cos he was out late - without you. Things couldn't BE more obvious. Of course he'll say different, he would, wouldn't he, he doesn't want to give up all the free services at your house. Wake up & wise up.
2006-10-23 14:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have answered your question yourself. If he spends so little time with you, he doesnt really qualify as a boyfriend. A boyfriend should be there for your needs too. At the moment you are not getting anything out of the relationship and yes hes getting a free babysitter in the process. Hes making excuses not to be with you. Why do this to yourself. You sound like you could do with some pampering, need to get out there again.
2006-10-23 14:12:48 · answer #4 · answered by ANGEL-T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most women have great intuition. He has demonstrated that he is using you for a babysitter and a companion over and over again, by the sound of your explaination. He does not seem as if he is doing anything but use you.
You actually answered your own question in your explaination....you are being used, and he is not your boyfriend he is a user.....Sorry to be blunt, but you need to be honest with yourself here. You need a boyfriend who will want to spend time with you and treat you with respect....not free babysitting and a weekend getaway spot. Have a good day!
2006-10-23 14:16:08 · answer #5 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try to fit into his schedule by doing the halloween party with him and you him and the kids should go all together and see his sisters. Talk to him and let him know how u feel!
2006-10-23 14:31:40 · answer #6 · answered by Ella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hit the nail on the head. You're absolutely right. Talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. He's got to love you fully before he can start pushing his kids onto you.
2006-10-23 14:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you already have the answer to your question, but we ladies are experts on negation.
If you're no longer comfortable with the situation, end it up now, and move on with your life. You deserve better than that!
:)
2006-10-23 15:15:45 · answer #8 · answered by karlita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having see you I think he might just want you for the Halloween Party!
2006-10-23 14:12:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Alot of times your instincts are usually right. Have some patience, if he is truely taking advantage of you it will become very evident soon. Try talking to him.
2006-10-23 14:17:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋