im so sad we have broken up 3 weeks ago so far i called one week after i slept with him last week thinking everything was good and he was coming back he tells me he doesnt have anybody else but please explain why he never calls me at all since the breakup i called him twice hes called 0 times we been together 6 yrs do u think he will call before i leave in dec he knows i was gonna move if we didnt get back together again im dying inside and feel so hurt how can a man that said i love u show this side of himself to me if he didnt have anyone why dont u think he would be bored and at least call to see how im doing the last phone call i was crying telling him to come home he just hung up on me while i was crying do men really never call back their wives if they have another woman i dont know what to think how can he be so evil i was not even bad with him but all the times we broke up i was the one to call is this 4 real or a game to him he did say he loves me but dont want to liv wf me
2006-10-23 06:46:30 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His not calling you has nothing to do with whether he has another woman or not. Many women have said that the first clue they had to their husband cheating on them was when the husband started calling all the time, bringing flowers home and being extra nice. So the lack of calls don't really mean anything other that he doesn't want to talk. For some guys talking isn't what they feel comfortable doing. Did your Ex call you a lot before he left?
I'm sorry you're going through such a tough emotional time. It's obvious from your question that you're hurting. Something else it might be helpful to realize is that in addition to the lack of calls not meaning much, having sex with him is not going to bring him back.
I'm usually one who suggests that people figure out how to stay together but based on what you've told us it doesn't sound like you are in a health relationship. You sound desperate and he sounds finished. I'm sorry if that comes across as harsh but you'd be better off to put this behind you and try again with someone new and next time focus on being in the relationship for what you can GIVE rather than being in it for what you GET, as it sounds like you have been in this one.
What you are describing, with respect to the way you feel about your ex, is not real love. Real love is about wanting the other person to have what THEY want more than you want them to have what YOU want them to have. Real love is all about WHAT YOU CAN GIVE, it about empowering the other person to have what they want. The other kind of love, the "fake love" if you will is all about WHAT WE CAN GET out of the relationship. It is about possessing the other person not empowering them.
Oh and by the way, it's great that you're moving. It's always easier to start a new phase of life if you break all your old habits and that's easier to do if you're in a new place.
Best of luck to you.
2006-10-23 06:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by ScubaGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should sign the papers and move on. Men will say anything to get some. Your avatar, although small, doesn't look too bad, you should be able to find someone fast. Just get out and make some friends, soon you may find a guy who you can cry to again.
Personally for me, crying women does one of two things to me: make me feel disgusted, or make me feel sorry. If I don't love her I'd feel disgusted, therefore I think he doesn't love you.
2006-10-23 06:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be the person with very low IQ. Whatever you have cited- a friend's hand, smell of petrol or moving wind etc, all these emanates from physical objects. But absurdly your Allah or God is never found in physical form hence the analogy is senseless and without any application of mind. Your are highly prejudeiced by unscientific thinking.
2016-05-22 01:35:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you should move on. 6 years is a long time! Have you two been married that long? Anyway I am confused too. Be strong and get some help from family and friends. This will be tough for to go through. I am sorry. really sorry I can't help you.... Best of luck.
2006-10-23 06:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by elliott 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you broke up, why would he call ??
I mean the fact that he hung up on you while you where crying, means he doesn't even care, or at least he has had it with you
Sorry, but you seems too pushy
let him breath, if he really love you he might come back, but leave him alone for a while don't push him
2006-10-23 06:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your break up sounds like mines with my ex-hubby 8 years ago. Even though I put his loser asss out...he treated me like he didnt know or like me after the fact. The difference between you and me is I DIDN'T CARE because I knew it was over. The reasons your hub is treating you like this isn't important. What is important is that you have to get over it...this sounds cruel but the reality is he doesn't want to be with you for whatever reason so wondering what the reasons are is not going to change his feelings. You will hurt BUT in time it will get better and hopefully the bastard will get whats coming to him. Dust yourself off and continue on with your life. G'luck!
2006-10-23 06:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loved you he would call and try to work things out. I believe that he has another woman, otherwise he wouldn't treat you the way he has. You said that he knows that you're leaving in December and still don't try to fix your relationship. My advice would be to divorce him and start over with someone who truly loves you. I know, I've been in your position. Good Luck!
2006-10-23 06:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by BetteBoop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you think sex will paint a better picture of you?? Why did you bother to get married? Move on and let the past rest.
2006-10-23 06:52:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has another women that is why he has no time to call you move on with your life!!!
2006-10-23 06:50:57 · answer #9 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its called Punctuation
maybe if you used some, no, ANY in your question..some people could help you.
2006-10-23 06:58:22 · answer #10 · answered by Carthlete 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋