2006-10-23 06:44:18 · 5 answers · asked by Tiffany T 2 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Pain & Pain Management
Well, honestly I was trying to be generic, because pains to vary in both strength and location and yes I've been to the doctor when it was warrented. I more mean that I wasn't faking hurting to neccesarily that it was so serious to need doctor attention. Sorry for mix up there.
2006-10-23 08:25:41 · update #1
gracie - no offense but I did specify "with your husband" and you seem to not qualify to answer this question - and by the way while on that topic you shouldn't be having premarital sex at all - it leads to emotional pain when you are married. seriously. it's also known as fornication and i consider it a sin.
2006-10-23 08:28:13 · update #2
I do want to take care of my husband, he is caring and understanding - i don't want him to feel rejected and I feel that i am willing to do as much as i can even when i'm sore and not in the mood. when i am in the mood; it is great and yes "bold" i do enjoy a good "O" and it does seem to melt everything else away - lol
2006-10-23 08:37:46 · update #3
Is this theoretical and if not - can you please be more specific to help us better understand this pain - to therefore suggest a better "pain management"
I would think that if a husband cares about her pain, he would care about you enough to try to help resolve the pain. Are there more or stronger pain meds that you can take? If I am really wanting to make love to my wife, I understand that sometimes she needs a massage to relieve some of her pain and it tends to be foreplay that turns me on more as well. There are times that your husband will be sick or sore and he'll not be up to the physical activity in sex either.
I don't think that it should be "made up" as an excuse to not "put out" and also I don't think that he should force you to because you'll not only not enjoy it because of pain but it can emtionally put more distance between you.
If it truely is that you enjoy sex normally and just not tonight and not a true rejection then openly communicate that you do still love him and find him attracive and tell him he gets a rain check.
As with almost anything in marriage it does depend on the amount of pain - and likewise the amount of pleasure. Hopefully there is some sort of a compromise that can be reached so that both of you are happy?
Perhaps if he was willing to get you to a really good orgasim, then you'd have some endorphins that help with pain and it would be worth it - who knows - more info please
2006-10-23 07:25:08 · answer #1 · answered by bold_artistic_forgiven 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well yes and no. It depends on how bad he needs it and how badly I feel. I'd rather put his needs before my own. Men are just as happy with alternatives to vaginal sex, so at times when I'm not up to it, that makes him happy. If I'm sick, he won't impose on me, neither I on him. It is definitely a give and take situation for us. And it works. Godloveya.
2006-10-23 08:30:35 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical pain? SEE A DOCTOR, Emotional? Well it's like i tell me boyfriend you hurt a girl's p_ _ _ y you hurt her mind so no. You should never do anything that you don't want to. You come first in your life, well God should then you....well you know what I mean.
2006-10-23 06:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by graciegirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO. NOT IF I AM TRULY HURTING. AND LUCKILY, I HAPPEN TO HAVE A HUSBAND THAT IS UNDERSTANDING IN THAT REGARD AND WOULDN'T EXPECT ME TO DO SO IF I WAS HURTING.
AND BECAUSE OF HIS UNDERSTANDING, I AM EAGER TO TAKE CARE OF HIM IN ANOTHER MANNER WHENEVER THIS SITUATION ARISES.
THIS WAY, HE KNOWS THAT I'M NOT TRYING TO "TOTALLY" TURN HIM DOWN. THERE'S ALOT TO BE SAID ABOUT THE POWER OF REJECTION. (AND MOST MEN FIND THAT BEING TURNED DOWN -- FOR WHATEVER THE REASON - - IS JUST THAT.....REJECTION.)
2006-10-23 06:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by LIPPS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you do not. Because any good husband would understand that you're in pain and that there's no chance in hell!!!
2006-10-23 06:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by Seerah327 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋