2006-10-23 06:33:38 · 15 answers · asked by coco 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it means that you still have feelings for your ex. only you know if you do not love your boyfriend.
2006-10-23 06:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not necessarily. Exes will always be a part of us. They are partially what makes us who we are today. If you do still have feelings for your ex then you need to explore what kind of feelings they are and what they mean. Are you just wanting him still because now you can't have him? What IF you were to get back together?... would you still feel the same? If your feelings for him are romantic and not just friendship than you really need to do some soul searching and decide what is best for you. It wouldn't be fair to your current boyfriend to keep hanging onto a past love, even if it's just mentally or to keep your current bf hanging around if you're not sure where he fits in your heart. The heart can love many people at the same time. Just make sure that when you really sit down and think this through that you are not only fair to everyone else involved, but especially to yourself. As long as you make sure your decisions make you happy, everything else will fall into play. Good luck.
2006-10-23 13:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer the question of if you really love your boyfriend. However, having lingering feelings for your ex does not mean you don't love him, it means that you may not yet have closure from the relationship you had with him ,and it could also mean that your ex possess qualities that are missing in your current boyfriend. Hopefully these feelings will pass over time, and hopefully these feelings are NOT stronger than the feelings you have for your current bf. If that is the case there could be very serious problems for the relationship up ahead. BTW, think about how much time lapsed between the time you broke up wit your ex and when you hooked up with your current bf. It could be that you did not have enought time to heal before you entered this relationship...my suggestion to you is that you try not to think about your ex and really focus your attention on your current bf, if you want this to work between you two. The feelings you have will fade over time. Cheers...
2006-10-23 13:46:39 · answer #3 · answered by fabulous diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it just means you haven't closed that door yet. If you still have feelings for your ex you must have been pretty close or you still have a slim hope of getting back with him. It would be the good thing to do, however, to either have those feelings, try to get over it, try to get back with him, or be only with your boyfriend, not both, because it could only cause heartache between the three of you. Good luck.
2006-10-23 13:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Lady Beth*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different people will bring out different kinds of love in each of us. Do you love your current boyfriend? Only YOU can answer that question. Do you love your ex? The answer is NO. You're in love with a memory. Someone already told you that they feel you're probably romanticizing your past and are choosing to remember the "good" times. (I tend to agree) For the relationship to be over... it had to have been bad enough to leave. Your responsibility now is to remember your past feelings... but keep in mind that these are "past" feelings. They shouldn't be allowed to have any bearing on your current relationship. Above all, try not to compare your old flame to your new one. We have different needs at different times in our lives and circumstances change. Plus, what worked in your old relationship may not work at all in the new one. It would be nice if we could take all the "good" things we liked about past romances and combine them all into one... but THAT is pure fantasy. Every relationship requires a degree of compromise. Keep your good memories... learn from the bad ones... and use your new knowledge to make your current relationship the best it can be.
2006-10-23 13:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by wisconsin joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have still have feelings for your ex, it doesn't neccessarily mean you aren't in love with your boyfriend. Only you know if you are in love. But if you were to act on those feelings for your ex then you truly do not love your current boyfriend. We are not afforded the luxury of choosing who we fall in love with.
2006-10-23 14:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by Fred K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it means you're wondering if your ex or your current are better suited for you. It means you're not ready to be in a serious relationship and it means that you may need to take a little time out and figure out why you're still drawn to your ex.
2006-10-23 13:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not exactly! it depends on how long you've been with your new boyfriend. you can still have feelings for your ex* and you can still love him or whatever, but you dont have to be in love with him anymore. so yes you can have feelings for your ex* and still love your boyfriend. i was with my ex for 4 years and we broke up, but i still love him and i will always have feelings for him but i wont alway s be in love with him. and i love the guy i'm with now.
2006-10-23 13:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it means that you ex affected you in ways you are just starting to understand and you may feel your boyfriend is deficient in those particular areas
2006-10-23 13:36:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO...this probably doesnt mean that you dont love your boyfriend...but if your feelings for your ex are stronger that your feelings for your boyfriend...than you probably shouldnt be with your boyfriend...
2006-10-23 13:36:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋