2006-10-23 06:26:20 · 34 answers · asked by tony r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, looks aren't everything but you definately have to be attracted to someone to like them, you know? First impressions last a long time and our society is very superficial. But looks aren't everything. A great personality will make anyone more attractive. Just like a bad attitude will make anyone look uglier lol. Oh and fyi....some guys are the same way. Looking for the skinny, made up girl.
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2006-10-23 06:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, looks are everything. No girls is gonna get with a guy she finds physically unattractive. It's a genetic thing. Women want cute babies so they go after a cute guy. However, an unattractive guy, unless he's a real Quasimodo, can snag the cute chicks if he uses his brain. Say we have a guy who's a weak 4 on the 1 to 10 scale. Get with the grooming. Hair, face and nails. Clean and neat. Lose 50 pounds. Add 1 point. Clothes. Dress like Sean Combs. Add 1 point. Learn to speak well. Be articulate and funny. Focus on the chick. Not on yourself. Add 1 point. Be successful at an occupation. Enjoy what you do and make good bread. Add 1 point. Wow! We got him up to an 8! Which may be stretching it a bit, but now he's in business. He can date a 7, 8 or 9. Do the best with what you have.
2006-10-23 06:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you were the ugliest think walking the earth but had a heart of gold it depends on the girl.
let's say you meet a girl on line and get to know each other without ever looking at each other. slowly you begin to really like each other and decide to meet. bets are that she is just going to be happy with you as you are. even though the same girl may pass you right by on the street if she never met you on-line or in person.
people need an initial attraction and for most of us that is your looks. you are not going to see an ugly girl and think, 'boy, i would love to take her out.' there needs to be some kind of attraction, like in my example, the attraction was the other persons heart not their looks.
so if you are having a hard time because you think girls are avoiding you because of your looks, just hang in there. but if you are bitter because you think girls are just focused on your looks they might be reading you bitterness and don't want anything to do with that. if you are a good guy deep down and have a loving spirit there are probably already a few girls that kinda like you out there. just continue being a sweet person and you will find your better half.
2006-10-23 06:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by onlylove41 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're correct. Most if not all girls, are like that. Specially younger girls. They have this fairy tale notion of the knight in shining armor. But come to think of it, in every romantic relationship, physical attraction comes first before the getting to know period right? Only after you have given the opportunity to get attracted physically will you then get acquainted then eventually look into something deeper than physical looks. The only way that girls will eventually forego the physical "part" in any relationship is when you start as friends. As in plain friends. Because when you start as friends, you go beyond the physical. When you start as friends, without any romantic undertones, then you get to discover that looks are not everything. Most girls go for the looks but there are also girls who don't go for the looks but something deeper. Keep searching, she's just out there. :)
2006-10-23 06:33:55 · answer #4 · answered by noseygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez guy, what do you think. Girls are just like guys. They are turned on by looks just as much as us. Looks aren't everything, that's true, but you absolutely HAVE to have some sort of basic attraction to the other person in order to notice them. Physical attraction may not be the basis for a long term relationship, but it is a requirement. If you are just not attracted to someone then the relationship won't work.
2006-10-23 06:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when it comes to buys liking girls why do so many of them go for sexy, slutty, or beautiful ones, cuz looks arent everything right, why?
People will go for the person that looks the best and will be with them. This is why once someone gets famous they dump their "other" and trade up to someone hotter!
2006-10-23 06:29:46 · answer #6 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is important to be honest with yourself in a relationship. Realize that looks arent everything, but they are something! If you are not sexually attracted to your partner, then it is that much easier to have a roaming eye. It is important to get to know someone, but if you know that you dont like their appearance, then you are going to have to "talk yourself into" what a good guy he is in order to stay in the relationship. I find it easier to get to know people and then find someone i am attracted to, physically and personality! If you cant stand a guy, but hes hot, that wont work! If you love his personality and hes ugly...you can be friends...but it probably wont work in a relationship either. Its best to find a middle ground. And dont worry, all women are different types, we look for different things in men. Who I find hot, might be ugly for the next girl. There is someone for everyone!
2006-10-23 07:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people can be shallow, haven't you ever met someone who you thought wasn't very hot but then you got to know them and you really liked them...or the other way around, a real good looking person becomes ugly cause he/she is an idiot. hang in there, the right chick will see you for who you are, not how you look. (assuming you are a nice guy)...looks change through the years, souls don't. the right girl will know that. good luck.
2006-10-23 06:31:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because most women are shallow and it is hard for them to look beyond the surface. Luckily, there are a few women who dont do that. I have dated really good looking guys that have the personality of a stick and that makes then unattractive. And I have dated guys that people don't consider very attractive but they were the most handsome to me because they had a great personlaity that made them more attractive. Just remember that not all women are shallow.
2006-10-23 06:30:37 · answer #9 · answered by lion75 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've always gone after guys who look good because of the chemistry I feel toward them never giving "not so good looking" guys a chance because I didn't feel that physical attraction. I've learned that I'd rather be with a "not so good looking" man who treats me the way I want to be treated rather than one who is "good looking" that doesn't treat me the way I want to be treated. Physical attraction can happen if all the other standards and desires fall in place with a "not so good looking" man.
Keep your head up and keep your standards and personality good and it will happen for you!
2006-10-23 06:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by hearts_and_thoughts_2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋