I'm a guy who's cursed with being quite emotional. I get choked and tearful even watching sad films/programmes.
I'm getting married next year and don't want to be a blubbering mess during the vows.
While I don't want to be completly un-emotional at our wedding, I'm after some ideas on how I can overcome this? Is there any medication I can take?
2006-10-23 06:22:39 · 18 answers · asked by Nathan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I used to be like this I could cry watching emmerdale and someone suggested colour therapy,sounds crazy but its helped.Well you have to put a yellow coloured piece of cloth next to your skin in your stomach and chest area,i used to tuck a duster under my bra..yeah i know crazy and also sleep with a yellow cloth under my pillow.It did work I'm no longer an emotional embarrassment whether it psychological or what ,but it costs nothing so give it a try,oh i did it for about 2 weeks.
2006-10-23 06:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey at least you are not expected to wear mascara, which runs and smudges. I am an emotional wreck also and bawl my eyes out at weddings, and for that matter, sitcoms! Just remember to step back and laugh at yourself. Others will, too. It's sweet, it's certainly not the same as a grown man whining or anything like that! IMO that would be much worse. Those medications have some unpleasant side effects. i really would avoid those if I were you. You might want to have someone take still photos instead of a videographer- video might emphasize your weeping more than you'd like... additionally, I know that some guests find videographers to be a bit intrusive, anyway. Good luck!
2006-10-23 07:35:26 · answer #2 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this for a while; either you've always been like that or, like me, you're reacting to particular events.
I had a year or so when a lot of bad stuff happened (can't go into it all here; worst bit was probably when one of my friends was murdered) and I didn't really let it all out at the time. Then I found myself crying at the slightest thing, especially if i'd had a drink, i think i was just letting everything out.
Even if you haven't had anything that dramatic happen to you there still might be some pent up emotion you haven't dealt with, if there is then just have some time to yourself and think those things over.
I'm a lot more "normal" now, emotional occasionally but not for no reason.
2006-10-23 06:36:49 · answer #3 · answered by wimbledon andy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deep breaths and some good cardio exercise right before you get ready for the BIG event. The cardio will help produce endorphins which are the feel good hormones. The endorphins will help with any anxiety and emotional uncontrolabilities. But really, it is an emotional (happy emotions, hopefully) time and it IS OK for a man to cry. In fact, it is pretty endearing, especially at his wedding. Congratulations and best wishes. Remember the deep breaths...
2006-10-23 06:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one, keep the vows short and sweet; no one says they need to be half an hour long. Write your own, or get a friend with a knack for writing to help you.
Rehearse the vows alone when no one's watching. Go through all the motions, get emotional, cry. You will find that every time you go through the vows, you get less emotional since you can anticipate and handle your reactions better. Go through it as many times as you need.
Medication - I take Xanax to calm down before long plane flights. But any medication will dull your senses, I would advise against taking drugs.
2006-10-23 06:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aah...im with the others...u sound like a great guy...wish there were more men like u in the world! ha ha your wedding is meant to be the happiest day of your life and you shouldn't be afraid to express your emotions. But because you are a guy i understand that pride might make it difficult for you to accept this side of your personality. i don't think doctors provide medication for tears...they might stretch to anti-depressants but i don't think that is appropriate in this case. why not try something simple like kalms...they might just take the edge of your nerves...meaning you are more in control of the situation...they are available over the counter and you can also get the herbal variety...good luck!
2006-10-23 06:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by carly-jayne r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? You could be going through a phase. That is normal for people to suddenly feel emotional sometime as a teenager and it happens more than once.
2016-05-22 01:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to hide your emotions?
Also, consider that you may have an adverse reaction to medication if you take something on the day of your wedding and you could end up even worse.
-EZ
2006-10-23 10:24:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about it mate. im an emotional bloke, i can get chocked up watching the simpsons!! be proud that your not too insecure in your own manhood that you're able to talk about it with people (albeit over the internet).
Just take plenty of tissues, and if anyone laughs afterwards fix them a withering glare!
2006-10-23 06:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awe, I love it!!! Ya know what? I think just from that post you are a hell of a great guy, and your bride already knows this about you, heck, its probably one of the things she loves most about you..and who cares? Do NOT medicate...do NOT drink before, and cry your full head off for days ahead of it and get it all out beforehand.....thats what I did so I didnt have the red eyed wedding pictures!! God Bless!!
2006-10-23 06:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by defiant_faint 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋