You know how people say if you're afraid of your loved one cheating/lying/hurting you, it's b/c you don't trust your own self? I hate that! I trust every part of myself! How can I get over this? I need to just trust him.....how can I tell him that I DO TRUST MYSELF 100%, I'm just afraid of getting hurt, so I'm being a little cautious when it comes to letting that wall down...it has nothing to do with me not trusting myself, at all!
2006-10-23 06:19:23 · 9 answers · asked by inlovewow 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i can understand why you are afraid, awnser these questions for yourself.
Am i beautifull?
Do i love him?
Does he love me?
Does he make me feel wonderfull?
Does he take the time to look nice for me?
IF you can awnser yes to these questions i would say you are good to go.
2006-10-23 06:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by nik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this problem too. When I really analyzed it, I realize that although I do trust myself, I am aware that I still notice other men and sometimes fantasize about them. I think it was my awareness of this habit of mine that helped me see where some of my problem lies. However, I am of the opinion that looking is normal and biologically built into our DNA, so I find myself in a catch-22, I guess. To help myself with this situation, I decided to stop looking for someone else to complete me and got to work becoming the person I have always wanted to be. The more growth I achieve, the more complete I become, the less I find myself feeling lonely for companionship. And if the day ever comes when Mr. Right For Me show up, I will be secure in who I am and know that nothing that happens (or doesn't happen) in my personal relationships can break me.
2006-10-23 06:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by Semi-charmed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that you don't trust yourself... it's that you don't trust yourself to can handle whatever happens in life. You're afraid, and a fearful, cautious, walled person doesn't make for a healthy, secure partner in a relationship.
You don't need to trust him, you need to trust your ability to make choices in men, handle your life, face pain if you must, and ride life's ups and downs.
2006-10-23 06:24:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really trust your self, you dont have to say or do anything to prove it ... people arround you will see it .
i understand why you might be affraid of being hurt , but i guess if you love your partner enough, you should trust him.
if you dont trust him = he can not be your partner.
2006-10-23 06:23:59 · answer #4 · answered by mhk9626 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They just say that to make you feel bad....it is not true...to get over it, you talk to yourself asking questions...do you have a good reason for feeling this way?
2006-10-23 06:21:56 · answer #5 · answered by LadyL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that everyone is different... if you have leftover issues from an ex, perhaps tell your current what is going on.
2006-10-23 06:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would put yourself in his shoes if the person feels for u like u feel for that person then think how they would think if they were you and then contemplate if they really would want to do that and lose you
2006-10-23 06:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by bhitta122389 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check his phone when he is not around..that is a SURE fire way to tell is he's cheating...do you have access to all of his accounts? is he willing to let you have any and all access, if not...he's a louse!
2006-10-23 08:49:04 · answer #8 · answered by BOOYAH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him exactly what you just told us
2006-10-23 06:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by SHE HATE ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋