I am 21yr old girl. Im in luv with a guy for 2yrs and gonna marry him cuming March with both parents' permission. 20days ago my fiance came my home when nobody was there. We had little fun, but not intercourse. He touched my vital part and iserted his finger into it. This continued for 3mins, dat is all happend. For the past one week i was suffering from constant itching and pain aftr passing urine, so consulted a doctor. She aftr checking me askd me wthr i had an intercourse. I was realy very much shockd. She said the outer vagina looks like dat i had an intercourse. Im confused,wil mere insertion of finger wil affect my virginity? Plz do help me.
2006-10-23 06:15:04 · 18 answers · asked by Priya 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Technically you are still a virgin as you have had full intercourse. You have had a dirty finger though so tell him to wash his hands first if he goes there again.
2006-10-23 06:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by welsman1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a virgin simply means you have never had intercourse which you have not had. Yes you are a virgin. Whether or not your hymen is intact does not mean a thing since those can get broken playing sports or riding horses or many other things. It sounds like your fiance was a bit rough though and he may have irritated things. Be sure he is more gentle next time if you explore again. Since you have seen a doc you should be fine but if the itching and burning after urination continue after you finish treatment go back to see the doc for further treatment. Also consider using spell check as your message was a little hard to read at times do to the constant slang and poor spelling.
2006-10-23 06:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given your age the doctor was asking because he might think you may have contracted a disease through intercourse, and if you were suffering from much constant itching and pain then you must be swollen and that does not necessary mean intercourse your doctor doesn't sound very thorough, and unless you had bleeding when your bf inserted then you haven't broken your hymen and you are still a virgin. Girls do lose their hymen in some cases of accidents though, but the term virgin also relates to never having sex. And yes if he is going to play there make sure he is clean, or you will get infections, cleanliness is next to godliness.
2006-10-23 06:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can be a virgin or even not..as ur hymen can break due to many other reasons like gymnastics, cycling etc as hymen is a thin layer inside ur vagina which breaks when there is some kind of stress on it ..I think when ur fiance inserted his fingure in ur vagina due to the stress ur hymen must have been broken so u can be invirgin and doc have also told u tht its not a big matter just relax even if u r invirgin its ok
2006-10-23 06:30:01 · answer #4 · answered by jinal g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say you are a virgin. Some think that virginity is related to whether or not your hymen has been broken but that can happen a bunch of different ways than intercourse. You can break it during strenous exercise like horseback riding. The doctor probably meant that you looked chafed and figured it was from vigorous intercourse - if she did not mention whether or not your hymen was intact, I would call her and ask.
I would say that you have to engage in intercourse to loose your virginity.
2006-10-23 06:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by iloponise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your safe, he probably got a little frisky with his fingers but that is not the definition of intercourse. If that was your first time fooling around like that it would explain your symptoms. Don't worry your still a virgin and congrats for that. Good luck on your upcoming wedding.
2006-10-23 06:23:01 · answer #6 · answered by krissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, technically, you're not a virgin anymore since "something" has entered your vagina already. Virgin means "untouched", so if your boyfriend touched you already, then you are not a virgin anymore.
I guess your hymen was torn when you were "fingered" and you got an infection because his hand was dirty when he inserted it! You should have tried the real thing instead...lol!
2006-10-23 06:19:48 · answer #7 · answered by Ana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you are still technically a virgin, as that seems to be a very important point with you. You probably have a urinary infection that is easily treatable. It was most likely caused by your boyfriend's dirty fingers. ( He didn't wash his hands before he started playing in your crotch, did he?) Cleanliness is very important in sex... and you just learned the first lesson the hard way.
2006-10-23 06:26:58 · answer #8 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ur fiance did was mere mastication.that does not mean u have lost ur virginity. many girls themselves put their finger in the vigina to just have a feel. by mastication a girl does not loose her virginity.
as far as the allergy is concerned ur fiance's finger must be dirty, or some microrganisms on his finger might have caused this irritation.
2006-10-23 06:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by ranchal s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well there's this lining at the opening of your "private" called a hymen. This breaks when you have sex. Sometimes it can break before if you use tampons or do horsebackriding etc. You're still a virgin though...you've only lost your virginity until actual sex happens as in.....well, we all know what happens
2006-10-23 06:18:57 · answer #10 · answered by actressinthemaking2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋