If you are with someone, and they almost make you completely happy, but still fall short in other categories, then would it be settling if you stayed with said person, because they are almost perfect for you? If so, then would it be unwieldly to go through life trying to find a "perfect" match for yourself?
2006-10-23 06:12:30 · 11 answers · asked by antics_silvermist 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no such thing as a perfect mate. The important thing is if you can get over your differences and keep the relationship alive. You will probably never find that one person who matches you in every way. People like that rarely exist and it would be rather foolish to go through life looking for them. You might end up so fixed on finding the perfect one, that you might actually miss the one you are really meant to be with.
2006-10-23 13:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on what qualities are important to you in a mate. If, say for instance (this is a real stupid example) your mate has red hair and your "perfect mate" has blond hair, can you live with that? If the qualities that your mate has are ones that you can see yourself living with for the rest of your life, especially if they complement you in every other way, then that's not settling, that's you coming to the realization that even though the person is not perfect, they are indeed perfect for YOU. Remember, there is no perfect perfect and no perfect relationship; good relationships take hard work & determination to see things through. If you have a great thing going with your mate, please don't let it go in hopes of "finding something better". We tend to believe that the grass is greener on the other side, when in fact it really isn't. What you should do is analyze in what ways your mate makes you happy, and what it is about your mate that makes you unhappy. If these are things that can be changed maybe you might want to have a heart to heart with your mate so that there can be some sort of compromise. If the issue is more serious then that's when you should re-evaluate your relationship. Only you can make this huge decision. Hope this helped you somehwat. Cheers...
2006-10-23 06:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by fabulous diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no perfect match. No matter how hard you try to find one, there will always be imperfections.
If you think that this person almost is perfect for you, you need to know if the missing parts are the important ones. If what is important to you is missing then you need to move on. If not, you should work out compromises on the imperfections and you will soon find total happiness.
Take care,
Troy
2006-10-23 06:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best relationships are based on open and honest communication. Try talking things out with your partner and identifying those areas where you feel they fall short and also ask them to be honest about things or areas where you may not be fulfilling them as well. If they are the righ tperson - then you are never settling.
2006-10-23 06:22:46 · answer #4 · answered by betty louise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut them loose. Obviously if you rely on someone to be perfect and "make" you happy in every way, you're not going to be happy with someone who doesn't exactly meet your requirements. No one is perfect, but you can waste a lot of years and marriages and divorces searching.
2006-10-23 06:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you are happy for the most part than you should stay. I don't think it is consider settling I mean the little things you can always work on
2006-10-23 06:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is ever going to be perfect- decide on the qualities that are important for you and if your not happy with the ones he doesn't give you -leave
2006-10-23 06:16:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as the 'perfect' person, I dont think. There are people who go through life looking for this imaginary person.
2006-10-23 06:17:50 · answer #8 · answered by MaPetiteHippopotame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no perfect match.
does not exist.
there are always adjustments.
you just have to decide if you think you can find a closer match than this and if you can live happily with this person.
but perfect match is a pipe dream that does not exist.
2006-10-23 06:15:48 · answer #9 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always work on those little issues that don't suit the two of you...like fighting or something....start talking things out if you're unhappy at that moment....you learn to grow with each other, not apart....that will ruin it for sure.
2006-10-23 06:15:23 · answer #10 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋