OK...heres the deal...Me & my boyfriend have been together for 5 months now & i have been living with him for 2 months....he drives me crazy because he gets mad over such little things & we fight & argue just about EVERYDAY!!! I love him to death but i just dont know what i should do...& he has a cell phone & is on the same contract as his ex-girlfriend who lives 300 miles away...should i be worried about them getting back together or not? i have caught him talking to other girls before... but he swears that he wont do it ever again....should i believe him or not?? im so confused...I try my hardest to get along with him...but the harder i try...the more he doesnt care...I have tried to leave him a couple of times but he WONT let me leave!!
please someone tell me what you think i should do.....
2006-10-23 06:04:54 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I think it was a mistake to live together so soon. Well that's nto fair to say either. How was the relationship before you moved in together? is it your apartment, his or are both of you on the lease? He doesn't sound like a trust worthy guy and he seems to be flaking on your relationship. If you don't trust him there is something seriously wrong with staying together especially since he doesn't seem to want to make things work with his lack of effort. He should understand whether he is continuing a relationship with his Ex or not that him having a joint phone plan with his Ex is going to cause some turbulence so he should have taken that into consideration long ago. As far as him talkign to other gilrs, you aren't going to be able to help that. But tell him that the more you know about who he talks to and stuff the less suspicious you would be. Also don't jump all down his throat about what he gets up to cuz that will inadvertantly push him away. You do need to have trust though and without it you are heading down a very troublesome path that will inevitably leave you sad and unhappy. Better to resolve it now than later, only because if you must it will let you recover faster from the experience.
Peace
2006-10-23 06:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because they share a contract doesn't mean they share a bed. I wouldn't worry about that too much considering the ex lives 300 miles away. I would however worry if he has a habit calling other girls. You also probably should have waited to move in together if you two fight everyday, that's not a good sign at all! And if he won't let you leave, I'd call the cops.
2006-10-23 06:17:22 · answer #2 · answered by honeybaby729 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He "won't" let you leave? How old are you? You can do anything you want, no one can stop you. Call the police and file a restraining order if he harrasses or threatens you. You shouldn't be moving in with someone after only 3 months anyway... If you guys are fighting now, and he's talking to girls, it will only get worse - not better - in the future. If you're not willing to put up with it, pack up and leave, and don't make the same mistake again. Get to know a person before jumping into something serious.
2006-10-23 06:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, a few things:
1. You love each other and fight almost every day? Is that really what you want for the rest of your life? Do you enjoy fighting THAT much?
2. Guys will talk to girls. End of story. If he loves you, you will be the only more-than-friend relationship he will have with a girl, but he WILL have girls that are "friends" (used loosely to encompass girls he talks to or flirts with but doesn't develop deep, meaningul relationships with).
3. Love without trust? It doesn't happen.
All-in-all, sounds like neither of you wants a real relationship and will probably either get along better as "friends" or just stop talking to each other after you can finally end it. Either way, doesn't sound like either of you are happy. Is that how you want to spend the rest of your life?
2006-10-23 06:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by lyf4ce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like too many problems for a fairly new relationship. If you can't trust him after 5 months, then there is no point in wanting the relationship anymore. Relationships should be based on a few things, and trust is one of the TOP priorities on the list. It takes time to build trust with someone, and surprisingly it only takes SUSPICION, not even PROOF to destory it... and by the way, if you are a grown woman, no man can MAKE you not leave him!!! If he is like that, i would DEFINATELY get out of it now, because it sounds like it could turn abusive.
2006-10-23 06:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always leave. You need to start packing a bag(with as much as you can carry in one or two trips). The relationship moved to fast.You didnt know this man before you moved in with him.His ex still has him on her account(so I am sure they have some type of conversation if its just to discuss the bill)so you just have to trust that they only talk about the cell phone bill.He has shown you he cant be trusted(he has talked to other females)What do you love about him(you didnt list anything)?Your boyfriend has a lack of respect for you he doesnt care about your feelings or care how he treats you.Love shouldnt hurt or have you confused.
2006-10-23 06:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of this relationship...lets face it without trust there is no real love and can be no real relationship. Do you really want to continue in a relationship like this where you two are constantly fighting? This isn't going to get better over time, only worse. You deserve a better future than one of mistrust and constant arguments. No one can stop you from leaving if you really want to. Make up your mind and do it so that you can have the life and future you deserve.
2006-10-23 06:10:02 · answer #7 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost you should never be with someone who makes you miserable more times than he makes you happy. Second, WONT let me leave either says abuse or threats which again is not good for anyone. Not sure how old you are but this will not go anywhere no matter how hard you try to get along with him. Which brings me to my last point - True Love should not be HARD.
2006-10-23 06:09:47 · answer #8 · answered by FeeLnUFeeLnMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like this bothers you quiet a bit, maybe you would be better off at least not living together, you've only been dating 5 months, I am a guy and I know how the majority of us are, and if he's talking to other girls, pretty good change he's not just talking with them.
2006-10-23 06:09:56 · answer #9 · answered by John H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still want to talk to that person, even though you don't trust them, no reason to delete them. But, if you are through with them and couldn't care less about talking to them again, why not delete them? Not saying block them. If they ever want to to get in touch or try to explain themselves, they know how to reach you. But then that is just my opinion. I'm a person who periodically goes through and deletes contacts I haven't talked to in a long time or that I have found I have nothing in common with. You do what works for you. That is what is important.
2016-03-28 05:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋