I have a sixteen year old son and he has skipped 4 classes so far and is not turning in work. He has been grounded for three weeks and is not allowed to hang out with his friends during this time as they skipped with him. None of them are grounded and we are new to the area so I have not even met most of them. I also told him in the future he is not allowed to hang out with people unless I get an introduction. I know he struggles in some of his classes and I know there is tutoring through the school. I am on my way to a parents/teachers conference later today. Any ideas how I can make him see the light of how important it is to have a good education? He is a great kid and needs to follow through.
2006-10-23 06:00:50 · 5 answers · asked by The_answer_person 5 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
Make a deal with him. Ask him what he wants and then tell him if he does what he is told... then he gets that thing. Gives him motivation and also shows him that your on his team and want him to be happy.
2006-10-23 06:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by crystalc419 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you, I don't know. I understand and sympathize with you. I think grounding for 3 weeks is too extreme. At that age, their little attention spans are not that long and I think that long a punishment could backfire & make him rebellious. It's obvious you're doing your best. Is it possible you could spend more time for him, or arrange for or somehow encourage him to spend more time with someone responsible, who could maybe help him or at least set a good example? I think "crystalc419" above gave you good advice, about making a deal (or, as some would call it, a "contract"), and the next 2, below him or her, gave poor or ill-considered advice. Good luck.
2006-10-23 06:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by yahoohoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set up some sort of reward system. Reward him for things he completes, like a week of school without missing class, and things he gets, like good grades. Make the reward relevant and something he wants. I was on a first name basis with my son's attendance clerk in HS. I made every effort, but it wasn't until the school wouldn't allow him to complete the two classes he needed to graduate in summer school, and he had to go to adult ed to finish, that he finally understood the importance.
2006-10-23 06:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take away the computer, stereo, ipod, internet, car, anything he likes. Don't let him do what he likes until the stuff he needs to do is done. try it with food, too. don't buy the food he likes. you are in control. is there something he wants, like an electric guitar or drum set or car? you could decide he would get that if he makes certain grades. try to get inside how he is motivated.
2006-10-23 06:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
beat him down
2006-10-23 06:05:33 · answer #5 · answered by lazgurl2000 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋