my sister is losing it and can't get her teen to do anything, he doesn't get life and consequences and asks questions like "what happens if I hit you"
She asked me to ask you all this question - I'm not budding in!
2006-10-23 05:47:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i have the same problem with my teen age boys (3) and i cant wait till they are old enough to move out!! but the key word her is TEENAGE! they are evil and she is just going to have to grin and bare it!! and if he does hit her she can always call the PO PO! i know and my kids know that if they ever hit me they better pack a lunch!!
2006-10-23 05:51:45 · answer #1 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do...teenagers are teenagers..! Depends on what kind of behaviour your talking about I guess??? Sex, drugs? Just talking back and doing her own thing? Sorry just realised its a boy your talking about.... my two boys are far from teenagers yet..thank goodnes..my daughter is 13. If things are really out of control then they should consider some kind of family councelling best researched through their family doctor. Stubborness can happen when a parent is attempting to control... your sister needs to learn to pick her battles carefully because when you battle over everything they just tune you out. Suggest she get a hold of the Barbara Collaruso book...actually she's got many out now...all excellent and help with dealing with teenagers and kids of all ages. If a teen wants to dye their hair red...why not? Its their hair and all about self expression at that age. If they want to live on peanut butter sandwiches..let them..they will soon grow tired of peanut butter! I have been a parent for 13 years and I was a nanny for too long...have had lots of experience in dealing with kids. She really needs to pick her battles.... like the dirty room.... who's room is it? Taking away privelages works excellent in my house... like computer time..time with friends... the violence you are talking about doesnt sound positive...they may need some councelling to help them get through this. Maybe the teenager is dealing with other things in his life that you are not aware of? Those hormones really mess them up! Go with the flow..and she will look back one day and say "oh my how did I get through that and why did i stress over stupid things" Good luck...
2006-10-23 12:58:05 · answer #2 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the discipline doesn't come in at a early age then it might be too late...this has become a real problem in our society...if anything bad happens there's always a call to 911 ,,,,,yeah! it's better if you don't bud in! sometimes we intend to help and suddenly we become enemies with our siblings
2006-10-23 12:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by guess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to stand up to him and refuse to put up with his abuse.
Tell her to tell him to 'go ahead, hit her and find out' then she MUST report him. She has to get tough. No other way is going to work.
2006-10-23 12:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by Jas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has to tell him firmly,, if you hit me I will call the police and have you arrested for assault, they will lock you up in a place that has no game boys or cell phones,
2006-10-23 12:57:46 · answer #5 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋