My moral here is that I save money, but my grown children hit me up all the time. It never ends, but did I get a Birthday card or a phone call saying Happy Birthday Dad...hell no! TY}hey only call me when they need something.
2006-10-23 05:43:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How old is she (are they)? If by grown you mean 18, yeah the money was probably ok. Maybe you should make it a loan, or pay for part. If she is 25 and hitting you up for the money, that is a problem. It sounds like from the little I know about the situation that you are being used. They know you have a soft spot for helping, and they take advantage of it. Just tell them next time how you feel, and set them straight. Did you get a divorce with them? Where you maybe not there as much as you could have been when they were kids? If that is the case (and please do not be offended I am not saying it is) then they may feel you owe them something. If this is the situation, you need to sit down and have a talk about all these issues because it will not get better on its own. Nothing interferes in a relationship, any relationship, like money.
2006-10-23 05:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by Craig B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this mom but your daughter is playing you. She knows that you cant tell her no for anything so she doesnt even appreciate what you do she just expects it. Thats a bad thing because she is never going to learn how to be independent and rely on herself for anything. I grew up in a mild stern home where my parents did give me things but I had to earn them. If I lost their trust then they wouldnt be as willing next time to help me. When I needed a car at 17 I was told to get a part time job to help out with insurance. After I had my job for a few months then they got me my car. After I graduated from high school I began working full time and took over the car payment and insurance. I thought that my parents were kinda harsh but now at 25 Im smart, independent and I love the feeling of earning things because I worked hard for them! My best to you!
2006-10-23 12:50:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a better dad than I ever was. I made my kids earn everything. If my oldest wanted to have a car, i'd make her work for my company to earn it. In those days I was a repo man and usually had several cars sitting around with salvage titles due to the fact I wasn't paid for the car. I always had things to do. I had vehicles to catalogue, paperwork that needs to be done and trucks needing washing.
But, join the club, we have jackets. My kids never talk to me now even though I gave them something worth more than a crummy car. I gave them a strong work ethic and their self-respect. I don't realize just how much I really cared for them and how much I really gave them.
2006-10-23 12:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by dread pirate lavenderbeard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you know the parable of the fish from the bible?
it tells the story of a man who asked jesus for fish, but instead of giving him fish, jesus taught the man HOW to fish
at least thats how i remember it
anyway, if you can sleep soundly at night knowing that you're 3t dollars poorer, I dont see any problem, then again, if you know what's good for your kids, you shouldn't have done what you did. You should teach them that one has to work hard to obtain something. If you teach them right now, you will reap your rewards in the future
i hope i made sense
2006-10-23 12:56:30 · answer #4 · answered by Nelson M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to my world !
It hurts a bit but there isn't much you can do about it. I laid off the giving of money some time ago because I got the same treatment. My advice was for my daughter to go get the money from someone else.
It's all about them nowadays !
2006-10-23 13:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by jarhed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be harsh, but it is your fault that they are that way. They aren't thoughtful enough to send you a card....it might be because they never had to think of anyone but themselves and that no matter what they know you would give in and continue to spoil them. Good luck!
2006-10-23 12:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by exhaling2day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these inconsiderate little bastards are called "kids" and as long as you are called "dad" this will never change!!
2006-10-23 12:49:17 · answer #7 · answered by notyochic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋